Sad day

[Brooksy]

I am feeling quite sad and alone this week. I have to start back at work next week and dh doesn't get it why I have been feeling sad.

DD will be 10 weeks on monday and I am going to miss her terribly. Dh says he misses her too when he goes to work but I don't think its the same as a mother does.

I have to go back to work due to having a mortgage etc..
I know dd will be fine and will enjoy her time with her grandparents for three days and then she will come to work with me for two days. (work in ccc).

I also don't have anyone else much to talk to about this as my sister is usually too busy and doesn't have time for me and my mum even though she is wonderful to me can be very critical of me and that gets me down.


I don't know maybe i am just feeling sorry for myself.

[my babyemmy]

have a hug:hugs: & a kiss:kiss: , im one of the lucky ones who doesn't have to work as my hubby has a job that manages to pay the mortgage just:banghead:
it would break my heart if i had to leave my DD but if people want the so called Aussie Dream then sadly many mummies have to work! I envy people who can manage working,hubby,children & running the house! well done & all the best to you:)

[rynosmum]

Hi Brooksy,

I know exactly how you feel. I went back to work when DS was 4.5 months old and it was really really hard.

He's 20 months old now (21 months tomorrow !) and I feel blessed that he has such a varied life and deep love for so many people. Mummy and Daddy are still his favourites without a doubt, but his grandma and the girls at his daycare are very special to him.

My mum was quite critical of me going back to work - but we do what we need to do to give our kids a better future.

I do think that mums have a different type of bond with their kids than dads do tough - I can see what you're saying there.

Hugs to you. All will work out fine, and if not, you'll adapt so it does. I have never been so organised in my life. I lack sleep but pride myself on a clean home and fresh and nutritious food in the cupboard and on the table every night. Time we spend together is quality time - we have dinner all together at night, playtime, baths and 'quiet' time. We spend the whole weekend doing 'fun' stuff as a family. We don't go places where we can't take DS and with the odd work event at night, one of DS's daycare mums comes over to look after him (about 4 times now in a year and a half almost).

It can be done and it can be a success - all the best to you !:D

[onabreak]

I would feel exactly the same if I had to go back to work. But luckily DH earns enough that I don't have to. Atleast it is only 3 days that you will be away from your baby and not 5 and you are lucky that you can take your baby with you to work for the other two days.

[Crazy Monkey]

I go back to work in May and am not looking forward to it at all...
I don't think the dad's realise the bond between baby and mum, and thats why they can't understand why we have trouble leaving bubs, especially to return to work...

All the best for next week...

[xkwzit]

Hi Brooksy

Hugs to you:hugs:

And don't be too cross at DH. Men just think different to the way we do. They have never had to think that they *might* have to go back to work, they expect to. That maybe why he doesn't feel it should be a big deal to you.

But it is OK for it to be a big deal to you, after all you've been together for a long time now (9months and 10 weeks). In the end though, you are bringing home the bacon to meet the needs of your family.

Cheers

[Shajbm]

Hi Brooksy,

I hear what you're saying and it is very hard leaving them, especially at such a young age...Have you thought about doing something from home maybe instead of going back to work...there are lots out there so maybe look into it and see what you can find...The parenting magazines often have good articles on working from home..

Good luck with it...

Shajake

[Brooksy]

Thanks everyone for your comments and encouragement, I talked to dh more last night and I think he understands a bit more.

Dd and I went out shopping today and doing stuff that I want to do with her before I go back to work next week, retail therapy always helps.