DH away for 6 months...

[MilkOnTap]

I just saw Grants ship off... :crying:

They had a marching band and the Commander of the Martime something-or-other made a speech and thanked all the family and friends for supporting them. This is the 13th deployment to Iraq and they are due back on the 1st of September.

I will be counting the days... :(

[Briannabear]

You poor thing..... :crying:

[mrsrobo]

Oh no well if you need someone to talk to i'm here my dh was in the army reseves and he mum and dad wanted him to be in the army so that he go overseas and be away from me

[MilkOnTap]

Thanks guys... I think I'm having more of a vent than anything else... The way the Commander was talking about family and friends supporting them really hit me - without us supporting our husbands, wives, family or friends etc, morale would hit rock bottom...

I'm determined to be strong for my husband, its just so hard when he is going to be on the other side of the planet...

[LittleBoysRock]

*hugs*

Must be horrible saying goodbye!!

Just think you might have a baby on the way by the time he gets back!! How exciting would that be when he see you next you might have a baby bump!! :smiliedance:

If you ever need a friend PM me. :)

[MilkOnTap]

Just think you might have a baby on the way by the time he gets back!! How exciting would that be when he see you next you might have a baby bump!!
I hope so! I told him that when he gets back I will have a new body. If I have conceived in the last day or two then I will have a big baby belly when he gets back - if not, then I am going to lose the extra christmas pudding on my tummy and be fit and fab.

1 day down, 183 to go.

[poshBecks]

Hey Ally wouldn't that be the most excellent surprise for him... a new body either way!!! :smiliedance: I'd love to be4 able to do that!! Mind you I wouldn't love to be away from dh for that long!! :o
Well you know we are all here if you get lonely!! :hugs:

[DB&O]

I think that you are being so brave, its great you know that being strong is the best gift you can give him. I would be a blubbering mess, my DH is in the RAAF & goes away from time to time but never for anywhere near that long, he says its always hardest on him, knowing that I am at home coping on my own & is always really proud of me for staying strong, this doesn't mean I don't cry cause beleive me I do. So cry when you need to, be angry if you have to & remember to visit BH often, maybe we can be your support while he is away. Good luck:thumbsup:

[MilkOnTap]

he says its always hardest on him, knowing that I am at home coping on my own & is always really proud of me for staying strong...
You know that is exactly what my husband says... He feels worse for leaving me on my own than for actually leaving... make sense?

[Peaceangels]

Oh Ally :hugs: , I can't imagine how incredibly hard it must have been for you today.

Your DH a courageous and admirable man going to war for our country, I'm sure you are very proud.

I feel for you two, afterall you are still in the honeymoon phase! Take comfort in knowing that this separation will actually benefit your relationship, build it's strength and take it to another level.

Bring on September!

(BTW, it is a beautiful pic of you two in your avatar) :)

[reAllytee]

Just wanted to say my prayers & thoughts are with you for a special arrival & also with your DH for his safe return home.
We will all be here for you when you need us.
Your so brave coping with what you are & staying so strong i know i couldnt do it.

[kellee001]

My DH is in the RAAF and he goes away from time to time. I remember when we got married last year, a 1 1/2 weeks into our married life he was sent away for 3 months. At 1st I wasn't happy as you can imagine but it gave me time for myself. At times we could be on the phone and I would cry, cause I missed him but deep down I know I was ok and I knew he was there for a reason. Now we spend every day together when he's home cause you never know when he heads away again...:)

My prayers and thoughts are with you.:kiss:
He'll be home very soon.....:)

[MilkOnTap]

My DH is in the RAAF and he goes away from time to time. I remember when we got married last year, a 1 1/2 weeks into our married life he was sent away for 3 months.....Now we spend every day together when he's home cause you never know when he heads away again...:)
I can totally relate! We got married 3 months ago and have spent a total of 4 weeks together so far... We wanted to be married before he left for the gulf, so I guess I knew it was coming... But KNOWING that its going to happen and LIVING it are two totally different things.

It hasn't really hit me yet - I think I will realise when in 4 or 5 weeks he still hasn't come home. At least by then my 6 months will be down to 5!

Whatever time we get to spend together we spend it wisely. If we are about to have an argument or something like that we always sit down and decide that its not how we want to spend our last few days together... Always works!

[Sarie]

Ally hon, my thoughts are with you! If you ever need anything feel free to yell! :hugs: I also don't think I could be brave enough to be on my own for that long. I'm a sook when DH goes away for a week only 3 hours away!!
Best wishes honey!
Sarie

[MilkOnTap]

Thanks Sarie...

Have had a bad night last night - its really quite hard when you dont have anyone to speak with at home. I have called my best friend 3 times already since Wednesday!

**sigh** Only 180 days to go... :crying:

[MilkOnTap]

Thanks chicky... Much appreciated!

I have my :fingerscrossed: too!

[Pixie]

:o I thought I had commented how :o
well you know I am here for you lol you need to set up a coming home ticker somewhere!

[MilkOnTap]

Not a bad idea - save me changing my profile line every day!!! Where do I get one of those ticker things from?

[Pixie]

errmm ticker central type ticker into google :D

[WeThree]

Hey ally, hope you are feeling ok today, I dont think we are able to use tickers on this site, something about pages taking to long to load or something?

[MilkOnTap]

Thanks Coops...

Today is a better day than yesterday. I have only cried once.

I am sure that it will get easier as time goes on, but I really miss him right now. *sigh** - its funny... You really dont know what you've got til its gone... Or WHO you've got. Its amazing how much you can take for granted too. For example, Grant always takes the rubbish out, and insists on doing the vacumning every Saturday morning. Its what he does to contribute to the household chores, and its always been that way. I've never asked for it - he just does it...

**sigh** At least I know he is okay - I just got an email from him and we may get to talk for the first time in a day or two :fingerscrossed: I hope he calls!

[Scout]

They had a marching band and the Commander of the Martime something-or-other made a speech and thanked all the family and friends for supporting them. (

he he Ally - the dude is generally known as Maritime Commander and the band in would be known as the RAN Band - Sydney :laughing:

I'm thinking of you - even living interstate from my Army DP is torturous enough. It sounds trite but stay strong and you know well enough that there are a lot of people to reach out to here (even though that support should come from DCO but that's a whole other conversation in another thread, as we know!!).

Scout

[MilkOnTap]

he he Ally - the dude is generally known as Maritime Commander and the band in would be known as the RAN Band - Sydney :laughing:
.......there are a lot of people to reach out to here (even though that support should come from DCO but that's a whole other conversation in another thread, as we know!!
LOL - I knew it was the Maritime something! LOL! How very disrespectful of me :shame: :laughing:

I called DCO about moving, and they were not very helpful at all... Actually, let me say that properly. They were helpful for my husband, but not for me? Strange - yes, considering they're supposed to support the Defence COMMUNITY...

I have decided to move to Victoria to be with my family while he is away and I plan on moving back a week or so before he returns. I have a trusted girlfriend house-sitting for us while I'm gone, so all-in-all, things are turning out okay.

Thanks for the support Scout :hugs:

[sharvs]

Another Army wife here.

My partner has been away since feb & will be back in April. We have a 12 week old son & we miss him dearly. He has been to East Timor & will probably go to Afganistan later in the year. I'm interested to hear how you cope - tips etc.

DCO?? What a joke. I've had the same experience, great for the service member - i just got told "plenty of other wives do it, you should be able to too" not in as many words of course.

You can email me anytime: stieste@hotmail.com

Sharon

[MilkOnTap]

Sharon - I'm sorry to hear your missing your partner and your sons missing his daddy... In one way I am grateful that we haven't had a child yet - it would be so much harder with a bub... At least right now I can shift back to Melbourne and be near family for support - but when you have the responsibility of a bub its not quite so easy to just pick up and move.

Unfortunately I dont have any tips - just to try and keep up the support network around you. Yep - DCO are useless. Do you live near family or friends? Are you part of a playgroup? Have you been to any of the BubHub meets? These are a few things which I thought I would use to help fill in my time... Oh - and shopping of course :thumbsup:

[Jinglebells]

I know what its like witha hubby going away all the time, My DH was in the army for 10 years, he's been on numerous 6mth tours oversease, his last one was to afghanistan a couple of weeks after we had our DS, he didn't see his son till he was 8mths old, It is very hard being left behind, do you have any friends that have partners/hubby's in the defence force? it helps to keep yourself busy so the time goes fast, before you know it he'll be back, hope your move to victoria goes well.

Jo

[MumsieMel]

ALLY
Hope you are doing ok. :hugs:

[Tiggerbaby]

Hi,
I hope that this finds you not quite as sad, my DH is in the navy and we have a two year old daughter, because our family is here in Melbourne we have been doing the married seperated thing for almost a year. We cope but i can't say it is easier, especially when he goes away to sea ( which he is now back home in June 06). The family is great but they really don't understand the stress and strain of being by yourself and feeling utterly alone somedays, especially when you are quite emotional from hormones.

I know the move has been something that is good for us as we are closer to family and will be stable here for a long time instead of moving to a new location with each posting. I hope that DCO do get their butts in gear and give you the support you need, all I can say is that DCO here in Macleod are fairly good.

I wish you all the best and if you ever want to just chat then email me barricadesbrickwalls@hotmail.com

Regards
Leigh

DH Jeremy (Home from Deployment in 89 days)
DD Imogen 06/08/03
Bun in the Oven due 11/11/06