D&M with the ex-wife

[Mumma_al]

Hi Guys.

I need to share this (basically a vent) I just had the weirdest conversation with my husbands ex-wife.

(just so you understand, My relationship with his ex isnt pretty. She's on drugs, drinks, a compulsive liar and was a prositute, she tells the kids to hate me and abuses the kids)

I was chating with my step-sons on MSN who are at her house at moment, when she gets on and starts telling me how beautiful the kids are and how she doesnt hate me :ecomcity: (mind you she tells the kids not to like me) and they we need to get on for the sake of the children. And she couldnt wish for anyone better to look after her children than me. I went along with her chatter for the kids sake, if i didnt she'd take it out on the eldest boy. Im still dumb founded by it all. I think she must have been drunk.

I know what your thinking, Go along with it, she must be changing her tune. I doubt it, she tried this near a yr ago and it wasnt long after that she was bagging me out again to the boys.

What a nutter :banghead:

[dannii]

yeah i try n be nice to keep the peace but u know that things could get nasty at the drop of a hat!

like u said, just go along with it... might as well while it lasts hehe !!

[Jem]

Must be hard for you!
knowing that there mum is the way she is, and that you cant really do much about the situation? :mad:
I guess when they are old enough they will be able to decide for themselves if she has there best interest at heart ;)
Hang In there :thumbsup:

[pegasus]

Mumma_al

Just letting you know your vents are heard here. I know my husband's ex confuses me as to whether she will ever change her spots. I try to say if something looks positive that maybe things are looking up for the kids, but hubby has never believed that she will - he always says don't believe a thing she says as she'll never change. The sad thing is (for the kids, not for us) that she then proves my husband right and confirms the belief that a leopard can't change it's spots. I just go along with it at the time (as it's best for the kids to have things run smoothly), but I do take everything she says with a grain of salt.

The best gift I can give the kids is not to be a b**ch - and let their mum stuff up her image all by herself. The kids may not realise exactly what goes on today or tomorrow, but I figure one day they will, and when that day comes, they can make their own choices as to what is the best way to behave and if they choose to be vindictive (and call people at 3 in the morning etc - sorry - won't put the list here, you get the drift), then I've at least given it my best shot, if they choose to rise above it, then I'll know my job was done well.:yelclap:

:hugs: to you.