Wedding problems

[alananik]

HI,
I am having big problems with the whole bridesmaid issue? i would really love to have bridemaids but im having the problem of too many girls i would like and i just dont want to choose one over the other. So i decided not to have any but of course i still managed to upset some of the girls. Dammed if you do dammed if you dont!!! I have 2 sisters but before my sisters were born i was an only child and my 2 cousins were like my sisters, so thats 4!! Then i would like 2 close girlfreinds and my sister in law so im up to 8 all ready! I was thinking in stead of them walking down the aisle with me as traditional bridesmaids do, they could be standing at the front waiting for me to walk down and then once everybody else sits down they too sit down.
Can you see my dillemma?
Any suggestions?

:hair:

[Freya]

SOLUTION: JUST HAVE YOUR FAVOURITE SISTER (me) AS YOUR BRIDESMAID!!:D


Just kidding!

Guys please help her out!!

[catalicious]

Are you guys really sisters???

I dont think its that big of a dilemma... people who get upset over not getting picked are being silly as regardless of what they do on the day they will still be spending the day with you....

I think maybe your 2 sisters and either your bestest friend or favorite cousin... no more..

[OneBabyBoy]

I think just have your sisters, hopefully your cousins and friends will understand.

[punkbaby]

i would either go my sisters or my cousins or my friends then your sort of sticking to one group i guess. i didnt havea bridesmaid lol my kids walked me down the aisle :)

hope you can resolve things but ultimately its your day you have to be happy :)

[Lastcenturymum]

Don't have any! Seriously, its not worth the dramas sometimes.

I saw in a trash mag today of some woman who got married (second time, big white wedding) and have 24 bridesmaids!!!:eek: :eek:

[alananik]

Thanks guys, and its true i really would love just to have my 2 sisters but its really hard and i know ill be worried on the day that i hurt those girls i didnt have. I know it sounds silly but when it come to other people feeling. I hate hurting people i love.

AGGGRRRHHH :rolleyes:

[~mia&ryan~]

i would either go my sisters or my cousins or my friends then your sort of sticking to one group i guess.
That is what I would do also... I had three bridesmaids.. My 2 sisters and my bestfriend..

I hope you come to a decision you are happy with...

[3kidz]

If it really upsets you that u dont want anyone to get hurt - have none :D that way they are all equal and no one can say well its not right etc etc. Have your children walk you down the aisle.

You can always get them all to help you out on the day so that they all feel involved.

At the end of the day it REALLY doesnt matter if you dont have bridesmaids. Its the fact that you are celebrating your love for your partner in front of the ppl who care most about you and him. Valentine

[Shanaynay]

If it were me I think I'd have none to save any hassle.

But if you really want some bridesmaids (but not 8!), I think your cousins and friends would be understanding if you told them it was too hard to pick so you would have JUST sisters :yes:

[suzannec]

one option would be to get them all over for a morning or afternoon tea and explain to them that you can only have 3 (if thats how many you want). Tell them that you are really worried about hurting their feelings if you dont ask them, but explain your situation.
You can then suggest that they decide amongst themselves who will be one, or you can put all their names in a hat and then draw 3 out. That way they all have an even chance.
Or to save the whole problem, only have 1. Your mum if she is on the scene.

[Freya]

Alana, I had a thought last night...

What about if all of us walk down behind you, all in different dresses... Just so we look like we are supporting you as a group then we all sit down in the front row... So then we are not all standing up the front...

:hugs:

[SpecialMumma]

Don't have any! Seriously, its not worth the dramas sometimes.

I saw in a trash mag today of some woman who got married (second time, big white wedding) and have 24 bridesmaids!!!:eek: :eek:

I saw that too.. and OMG.. wtf? lol 3 were her daughters, and 11 his sisters.. OMG.. lol

I started with 3 bridesmaids, which took me FOREVER to pick, and in the end I ended up with people I didnt even ask first off. And only 2. Its honestly not worth stressing over hun! Its your wedding, your day, your way.

Goodluck with what you decide!

[BlessedWithBlue]

Tough situation, i originally wasn't going to have any bridesmaids for this reason but my cousin begged me to be a bridesmaid and i caved so i then had to ask three SIL's and my sister. I had a huge fight with my sister a week before the wedding and my cousin ended up living interstate by the time the wedding came around so i just ended up with my 3 SIL's as bridesmaids. We had drama after drama with dresses etc so i think if i had done it all over again i wouldn't have had any at all.

[InSaneOne]

i am getting married in 2 weeks and i have my 2 stepdaughters (14 & 15) my bestie and my sister. now i only wanted my bestie to start with and then as i was using our little girl as the flower girl i thought it would be nice to include the older kids as well. my sister i only asked because she is my sister and now she is causing so many problems. she keeps trying to change the wedding to suit her. she didn't like the colour of the dresses, she doesn't want to wear her hair up like the others are going to be and she doesn't like the shoes i picked out (we had to pick flats as my bestie is 8 months pregnant). to be honest if she objects to one more thing i am going to tell her to get stuffed and bugger off.

it isn't worth it. i would sit them all down and tell them that you have decided not to have bridesmaids but you would like them all there to support you on your special day. you can even use the excuse about finances being tight and doing the wedding cheaply.

[WeloveHarriet]

I am very strong willed and didn't want any attendants - unfortunately DH had other ideas so we ended up having my two sisters. I was originally toying with the idea of not having any at all - we were going to have our fathers sign the registry as our witnesses. In saying that we ended up having a great time and am glad that my sisters were there with us.

Can you assign the others special tasks - readings, ushers etc to still include them?

[Freya]

Just wanted to give you more hugs Laney:hugs:

[Lastcenturymum]

i am getting married in 2 weeks and i have my 2 stepdaughters (14 & 15) my bestie and my sister. now i only wanted my bestie to start with and then as i was using our little girl as the flower girl i thought it would be nice to include the older kids as well. my sister i only asked because she is my sister and now she is causing so many problems. she keeps trying to change the wedding to suit her. she didn't like the colour of the dresses, she doesn't want to wear her hair up like the others are going to be and she doesn't like the shoes i picked out (we had to pick flats as my bestie is 8 months pregnant). to be honest if she objects to one more thing i am going to tell her to get stuffed and bugger off.

it isn't worth it. i would sit them all down and tell them that you have decided not to have bridesmaids but you would like them all there to support you on your special day. you can even use the excuse about finances being tight and doing the wedding cheaply.

Then have different shoes. Lots of weddings do these days.

Really, I know she is your sister, but she needs to be reminded its YOUR wedding and if SHE doesn't like, she can bow out and stop causing trouble. Might sound harsh, but you don't need your wedding wrecked by a meddler!

[Freya]

Then have different shoes. Lots of weddings do these days.

Really, I know she is your sister, but she needs to be reminded its YOUR wedding and if SHE doesn't like, she can bow out and stop causing trouble. Might sound harsh, but you don't need your wedding wrecked by a meddler!


I don't understand why people/bridesmaids think they have a right to meddle in the weddings. It is the brides day, they will have their own wedding they can kick up a fuss over!

[MissSparkle]

I'd say just have your sisters....or if u are really set on having all 8 then maybe chose a colour, tell them to all buy a dress in that colour and they can walk down the isle in pairs (other wise it could take forever) and then they can sit in the front row during the service?

[3fantastickids]

I had my sister and sister inlaw and best friend and I regret it. I have another sister and it should have just been my 2 sisters and sister inlaw, as my best friend then is no longer a friend. But it is up to you in the end. Good luck with it all.:)

[maiko]

Just have a flower girl and page boy. :)

[Freya]

Just have a flower girl and page boy. :)


Hehe, she has WAY too many children to pick from if she just did that lol!

[ireallywantababy]

Hi there,
my suggestion is to pick your sisters and your cousins as they are family and will always be there for you, i got married in march this year and i had my sister, my sister in law and a good friend as it turns out my friend and i have already drifted apart it will be nice in the years to come to look back on your wedding photos and know that all of those people are still in your life