Do you ever get a break from being just Mum?

[Issey]

Geez it is hard sometimes being on your own isn't it. :confused:

I find at times I just get so cranky because I need some time off or perhaps it is just that DS is going through the temper tantrum stages and pushing me to my limits throwing tea on the floor and tipping drinks over his head lol. :hair:

I had my first child free ALL night EVER last Sat and it made me feel like ME again :yelclap:

I find it hard to organise nights out as you don't like to ask people too much and only have one rellie I can call upon, so I either would have to pay someone which isn't always possible or take DS to someone's house out of his routine.

What do you do?

[Ana Gram]

I am very lucky. DD goes to her dad's house from Friday night till Sunday evening. I don't have to do anything all weekend if I don't feel like it, plus the sleeping in. Ahhhh bliss, can't wait till Saturday when i don't have to get out of bed!

[tyler's mum]

Im very lucky and have alot of support. My parent have tyler every sat nite to give me a break. They are alway there to lend a hand when ever i need it so is my sister.

[Issey]

i wish i had that support

[lovingmotheract]

Ok call me crazy but, i do love to be with dd all the time and yes i would love a break but i just could not leave her and i have pp lining up to look after her.
But i guess as i could not have children i'm holding on to my child and don't wait to miss a thing.

[OneBabyBoy]

No, I never have a break.
Yep it's very hard.
Sometimes when there's a big family get together or something DS gets passed around so much that it feels like a few hours off. And yep it totally rejuvinates me.

[SweetSerenity]

I am lucky that Peter sleeps at his dads house one night a fortnight. I get a full day and night to myself that fortnight he sleeps over and as much as I'm ready for peter to come home by the end of it, I love that time I get to go do my own thing.

I don't even usually go out. Night time I usually just hang with my parents and watch tv or a movie, or go visit my brother and hang with him, then during the day part I usually hang out with one of my besties. We usually go for a drive, coffee and just hang out and chat etc. That's how I love spending my free time.

Peter also sees his dad every wednesday evening for a few hours, so thats my quiet time at home to myself.

I agree, you do need time to "recharge" at times.

I wish you had more support as you do need to feel like "you". It's important but very hard when you're a single mum.

:hugs:

Love Nat xxx

[the_queen]

Nope, I don't get a break :no: And lately I feel like that fact is beginning to break me, actually :( And my DWE (****head w***er ex) barely even acknowledges that his kids exist, let alone see them. My parents have Vallerie during holidays, and every now and then she has a weekend sleepover there. But my boy is breastfed and can't have sleepovers. That really doesn't bother me - it's easier with one kid than with two, but then I get the whole nagging feeling of "I don't want Vally to think I'm sending her away just to make my life easier for a little while" *sigh* I overthink things too much.

I do like having a few hours in the evening just to myself.

[Amberlea]

Im lucky as well.. my kids go to my ex's from Friday after school through till Sunday night - every weekend.

But that is only a recent thing, the last 3 years.
For the 10 years before that - I had no-one to leave the kids with and was completely isolated at home.
So i still remember exactly how hard it is.

I try to help out other mummy friends when i can with babysitting etc, especially ones who never get to go out or just be at home alone without a bub to look after.

[SimplyMum]

Well, for the first 2 years of DS life I leved with my parents so there was no-one to leave him with but I have recently moved out and Ds spent the first night over at Nan and Pops house where they spoiled him rotten. I was told he had a great time and I had a GREAT night in. Watched a movie, had a bath and went to bed early.
In the morning though I was awoken by a phone call at 6:30 in the morning to say that DS had stopped beathing and had a convulsion and they had caleld an ambulance to get over there now.
That was so scary and so now, both me and my parents are both a little hesitent to let him stay over for the whole night.

I do get a few hours off though. Tuesday night I went to the Black Eyed Peas concert and Ds stayed with Nan and Pop. But I slept over as well so I was there in the morning when DS woke up and breifly when he awoke during the night due to me making to much noise.

I think we'll both have to get confortable about leaving DS although I trust my parents COMPLETELY! And, in a way it was better that DS was at Mum and Dad's rather than with me.

[Mum2Bug]

No I dont get a break. My ex only sees Bug 3-4 times a year and the past year I have had to go on access visits out with them. The only break I have had in that year is two BH dinners where my sister and mum came over to look after Bug for 4 hours. They were in march and june. My ex is supposed to be having Bug next Saturday on his own but I have the strangest feeling that because he couldnt really cope with Bug on her own just over a year ago, Im barely going to get out the door to get a hair cut before he rings to bring her back or to say he is picking me up to come as well:(

[Issey]

Mum2Bug...i love your daughters name that was the name i was going to have if i had a dd.

would be good if there was a single mummies babysitting club :)

[Mum2Bug]

Mum2Bug...i love your daughters name that was the name i was going to have if i had a dd.

would be good if there was a single mummies babysitting club :)

Aww thank you. It was the only girls name I really considered and it just seems to really suit her.

Yeah it would be good if there was single mummies babysitting club. I started a thread (maybe last year) just sussing out what people thought of a mummy share sort of thing, but then couldnt put it into plan over here because there didnt seem to be too many single mums in the wa section to be able to do it and give us all a bit of a break.

If only we could have something similar to the child care benefit to help those of us who cant even afford daycare, so that we had the money to get an occasional babysitter in or something similar.:detective:

[SimplyMum]

Although I have my parents that are always willing to look after DS (except of a night time!) when needed. I think this would be a great idea for all the single mummies that don't have that family child minding give me sanity support that we all need!

[Butterflymumma]

I live with my mum and she says she is willing to look after DD every now and again, but i just know how tired she gets during the week with her stressful work and i just dont like to take her up on the offer.

If i ever get an invite to go out on the town, its not suitable because ive had a big day or it doesnt work out, and if i ask friends they are already busy...

so i havent been out in about 4 months for a good dance and a few drinks in about 4 months

I really think those mums who never get a chance to go out would really suffer, and i am willing to help out with babysitting anytime :yes:

[zozo]

i wish i had that support
yeah me 2 ??? some one help me please where r u mum????:hair: