If u don't have anything nice to say

[mummyofchaise]

I just thought i would share this awful story with you.
I have discovered Macca's is a great place to go for coffee with friends as i have a 13 month old. She loves playing with the other kids.
So mum's group caught up there the other week and i had this rude lady come over to me and say about my DD.
"Gee she must like the sweet fatty foods"
Yes my DD is chubby but it's jst the way she is i don't feed her fatty things esp coz i was a fat child and teased because of it.
I was so angry and upset i was just stunned and couldn't reply but i just wanted to say "Your a grown woman leave my little baby alone" How rude can people be? My mum always taught me, if u don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all!
What happened to that why do people think it is ok to be so rude, and why did i let her?
Anyone else experienced anything like this?

[SimplyMum]

That's horrible. :crying: Honestly, how can we expect our schools to expel bullying kids when they see/hear grown-ups acting like this!
You let her because you're too much of a lady and will not degrade yourself to sink to her level.
Our babies are beautiful- no matter their size, their features, no matter if their hair is red, black, brown or blonde, no matter if they have glasses (yes, nerd here!), or 1 leg shorter than the other. I can't beleive some people can be so nasty.

IMO- I would much prefer a 'healthy' child than one that is underweight thus suffering health issues. 2 of my nephews are FANTASTIC eaters! They gobble up anything that's in front of them. DS on the other hand- it's a battle at every meal (except desert). I would much prefer to have a child who is a healthy eater than a sick child because lack of nutrition.

[Ruby Slippers]

very rude :mad:

[rinksmum]

I think that was very rude too :thumbsdown: . I know how you feel - DS1 has always been a bigish boy (even at birth - 9lb6!) and people used to make comments all the time to me. If I had a $1 for every time a stranger had said something like "wow, he's obviously a big eater" or "well there's a front-row forward if ever I saw one", I'd be rich! I tried not to take offence because they probably didn't mean anything by it, but after a while it starts to get on your nerves. I was well-aware he was a big boy without people pointing it out all the time, but I also knew he was healthy and that's what counts. Try to ignore them, ds1 is now nearly 3 and has lost a lot of his 'baby fat'...so now its ds2's turn to get the comments :rolleyes: !

[forbetoel]

I HATE rude people, if the world opened up and swallowed them, I wouldn't be too upset. Some people honestly think that they are never at fault, and feel it is their duty to insult and upset people....sad.

[Amberlea]

If that is your daughter in your avatar - then I'd be really peeved that she had the nerve to comment at all.
She is in no means 'fat' - chubby yes, and what child isn't at that age?

I can't stand people who open their mouths without engaging their brains first (i do it - but its normally to leave myself wide open for some smart comment from someone).. i would never walk up to someone and make a comment that i would not want them to make to me.

Unfortunately some people in this world have less manners and respect than a neighbours dog crapping on your lawn does.

[SorenLorensen]

:o just after DD got her 6month needles we were walking down to meet DP in town.
i was on edge becuase DD had just had her needles and it was a hot day, then some lady while walkign past us stoped and said "ooo shes a fat one isnt she":mad: (mind you she was just over 8kg and 71cm tall:rolleyes: ).
i dont know why but she just hit a nerve, i think it was the FAT word that got to me.
i looked at her right in the eyes and said "well you best keep walking because you can sure as hell stand to loose quite a few kg yourself"
:o i do feel bad i said it and she was very ticked off but so was i, she called my 6month old FAT.

DP was about 5meters away and when i got to him he knew something had happend beucase of the looks the woman was giving me

[shed]

where are all these rude people from?

I find it quite bizarre that people would comment on somebody elses pride and joy and not expect to get stabbed in the throat.

[JeSka]

:mad: im sure some ppl dont think b4 they speak! i know my bubby is a chubby lil thing but i get lots of comments bout her aswell n i just say yeah atleast she is healthy!! chubby babies have weight 2 lose if they get sick :yes:

argh... i hate rude people!

[~*clairesmum*~]

:eek: that is so rude i would of said something back i no that were stunned bt i would of walked back up to her n said something :mad:

[EmsMum72]

My daughter was a chubby baby, but by no means overweight or fat and people used to say 'oh she's very well covered', and a couple of my aunties said 'well she definately wouldn't starve if she went without a meal or 2' :eek: . Now she's nearly 4 and she's really grown in to her body and has an slim/average build. I wouldn't worry what anyone says, but you're right 'if people can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'. :shame: on her for being so rude and insulting your daughter, she's a baby for goodness sake.

[mum2littleman]

what a rude rude lady!

[mum2bubba]

I would have snapped at her. :mad:

Hayley is thin and I get people saying things like "don't you feed her?" or whatever, I mean what the hell am I supposed to say to that? "no, we starve her day in day out?" My nanna-in-law said that I am anorexic (I'm thin but never had an eating disorder in my life) and said that the reason Hayley is thin is because I want her to be anorexic like me. WTF? :mad:

Some people need a muzzle. :shame:

[Queen]

:hugs: For you and your GORGEOUS DD....:hugs:


Unfortunately, people these days seem to think they can speak their mind whenever and where ever they see fit.

I am a "chubby" person and often get rude comments about me, but lucky for me I was blessed with broad shoulders to shake off this negativity.


Take my apology for this ladies rudeness, and may she be blessed with some wonderful imperfection that all can mock.

[forbetoel]

I find it quite bizarre that people would comment on somebody elses pride and joy and not expect to get stabbed in the throat.

:laughing: :thumbsup:

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

Ohhh very rude!!!!
My daughter was a chubby one and I thought she was beautiful and still is. I love chubby bubbies- they are supposed to be that way. My son has often been al ittle under weight and - still healthy but I would worry about what he was eating alot more.
People need to keep their negative comments to them selves.
BTW So obvious your daughter is a cutie.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

:hugs: For you and your GORGEOUS DD....:hugs:


Take my apology for this ladies rudeness, and may she be blessed with some wonderful imperfection that all can mock.

:thumbsup: Very funny

[Samaras Mummy]

Thats just so rude :mad:

[Queen]

I find it quite bizarre that people would comment on somebody elses pride and joy and not expect to get stabbed in the throat.

:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: I almost wee'd:o

[sja]

DD1 was a little Buddha and people would always comment that obviously she was formula-fed. I'd tell them she was fully breast-fed and they'd then tell me I must have rich, creamy milk then! Like I wanted people thinking about my breastmilk, let alone commenting about it! When she was 3 months old even my MIL told me I should talk to the child health nurse about her weight as she was too fat! This from a woman who thought she'd give DH solids at 9 weeks because he wasn't putting on enough weight - so gave him veggies to gain weight instead of milk!?!

I have a friend whose baby has a big birthmark on her forehead. One time we were out and an old lady said "that's quite a birthmark there. Don't worry, the doctors will do wonders with it when she's old enough". I'm standing there stunned, thinking WTF?:eek: My friend simply asks the woman if she has kids, then says "why don't we arrange to meet up so I can have a look at your kids' photos and I'll point out all the ugly parts of them that your family and friends were too polite to tell you about". The woman's jaw dropped and my friend followed with "no seriously, I want to return the favour":D. I wish I had the guts do say stuff like this (and the brains to think it up on the spot).

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

SJA- that is fantastic was soooo funny- I to can be to stunned to reply sometimes when people are rude. I will keep this in my memory bank forever!

[tahnee11]

I was out shopping the other day with my 13 month old son, He is not quite talking yet but he has discovered the squealing sound. We were in the baby toy section at kmart and he let out a squeal, all of a sudden this old bitty comes up to my son and says 'HEY, QUIETEN DOWN'. I was shocked:eek:, as I put the pacifier in his mouth she then has the guts to say "THAT"S A GOOD IDEA MUM". She made me feel so low but I still didn't say anything:no:

I think sometimes I am that shocked with what these rude people say that you just can't think of anything to say back but how dare she talk to my son the way she did. He doesn't understand when he is too loud yet

[Mum&bubs]

I just looked in your avatar! Your daughter is just so adorable and in NO means FAT! :eek: Seriously, I question sometimes what goes through people's minds when they go to speak. Do they think at all? I don't understand how they can just be so rude!

Don't worry about the hag hun :hugs:

[Noah_and_Elijah]

I would have said 'no she doesn't care for sweet foods actually but I don't mind it's only baby fat. while we're on the topic, what's your excuse lard a$$?'