Will I ever be satisfied???

[bellamia3]

I have three children. After the first I thought I wouldnt have anymore just because it was alot to get used to and financially we struggled early on(things are much improved now however). When she got to about 18mths I started thinking about it and ended up pregnant but had my 2nd m/c at 10 weeks. This made me want a baby even more. I fell pregnant with DS#1 a few months later and it was all such a joy. I knew immediately after he was born that I wanted more. DS#2 was born this year in January. I really thought I would be satisfied with three kids. My little guy is super clingy and has been the least settled out of all three (unfortunately he kept getting bronchiolitis) and earlier on I thought, no way..this is it for me! But now he is growing up, crawling, pulling himself up and generally turning into a playful little boy (oh and sleeping through the night,yay!) and I keep thinking how sad it is that he would be my last baby.
Do you think you feel that way no matter how many you have or does there come a time when you know for sure: I'm finished. ?

[smog]

hmm im not sure, i suppose we all have moments when we think no way no more but i kinda had the i cant stand this to be my last baby feeling to so im going for #3 now. i knda think for me 3 wont be enough either. i reckon if u can afford it u got nothing to lose really what else is there in life. and besides i doubt anyone ever wishes theyd had less children but regretting not having had more is something i think a lot of women experience . good luck

[bellamia3]

thanks for your feedback. Thats really true when you say people dont wish they had less but regret not having more.
I think I won't rush into it, just take my time and see how things go.
Congrats on #3, i've really loved having 3.

[nads71]

i have been told that you just know when u have had enough and I really thought that i would feel this way after no 4 ( yet i couldn't commit to tubes being done at same time as c/s) BUT i really feel like i would still like more - i think sometimes for whatever reason ( money, health etc) you have to go with your head not your heart that said I am still going to try and convince DH for no 5 when the time is right !:fingerscrossed:

[forbetoel]

The only babies you will regret is the ones you dont have:)

[Qube]

Also, as a child of a big family (9 of us kids all together, but 5 biologically from my Mum) I love having so many siblings. My DH only has a sister and I think their family is so quiet! But thats not to say he is unhappy, it has its pros and cons I guess.

[erinjacob]

im worried about the same thing i have 3 under 3 an 1 due in april an im thinking another bub straight after would be great what am i thinking aaaahhh

[cath]

I think babies are addictive and I will be very sad when I have my third and last baby (due to financial and age reasons). I have a 16 week old son and am already craving another baby (not in reality but in my heart I guess) -I am already looking forward to the whole pregnancy/newborn stage again (not planned until Will is 12 months old). It is a very hard thing to stop. I don't think I will ever be totally happy about stopping but will try and focus on the positives of stopping (eg. one day I will go back to work and we will finally be able to afford the big renovation we want to do).

[leilani07]

Hehe :laughing: Sounds familiar :yes:
I thought I wanted a big family - 3 or 4 children (that seems big to me...) but after #1 I thought "What was I thinking!!! This is soooo hard!!!! How could I ever manage 3!!!"
However......she is developing into such a gorgeous little person I can see now the addiction to wanting more and more children.....
But, I do think you'll know when you're done. :thumbsup:

[prideNJoy]

I was having this convo with one of my besties last night.
I was trying to work out whether you get a feeling of satisfaction when you know you have finished adding to your family.

I really thought that after having DS i would be satisfied with two and feel complete with it, but i don't think i do.
I'd like another, not right away but within the next few years.
I have some convincing of DF to do! :devil6: :D

[lilpearl]

I had a feeling of accomplishment when my third baby was a couple of months old...I said to DH "I'm happy with three, I'm looking forward to traveling..." etc. BUT, now i've got the very familiar clucky feeling...certainly not of wanting another baby right now, but of the future posibilities. I just hate it when DH says "I'm not having more, no way"....I like the idea of keeping options open, I'm satisfied with that, and I'd like to think that if we had another, it'd be a very special thing. To be honest, if my DH was one of those men who love a big family, rolling around and being silly with their kids, etc (he's more a recluse), I'd be happy to have six children without giving it another thought. i think it's really important to feel supported in wanting more children though. So my plan is, get everything sorted, everyone perfectly happy and the money rolling in big time, and then bat my eyelashes in the direction of my DH and say in a very sweet voice "darling, I would so love to have another baby":laughing: .....or something to that effect....

[SummerLion]

I have been worried about this to. I always wanted two kids, but after our son was born we decided one was enough for us. Now he is 2 and out of no where I want another child and I am thinking that is not so bad, having a second after all, but what if I keep wanting more and more???? I love being a mom but I don't think I could handle a lot of kids or a huge family. I think two would be perfect, but what if I get that baby craving again, what will I do??? Next thing you know I'll have 20 kids and have gone insane! hehe