Q:Would You Send Your Child To School If They Couldn't Learn??

[ReecesMum]

Hi everyone,
My son is nearly 2 and hasn't learnt anything yet not even mum or dad and would just like to know your opinions on whether or not you would send your child to school if they couldn't learn??

A link to my story;

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=112941

ReecesMum. :angel:

[poshBecks]

School is still a long way away for him :) I wouldn't think too much about it now...
However, there are lots of schools around that cater for children with special needs. So, yes I would send him to school if he is able and the doctors give the all clear.

[workin'mumof2]

:wave: i just read ur sorry, and cant even start to imagin what ur going through i just wanted to say the public school i went to both primary (i think cant remember that far back) and secondary school had special needs classes with a single teacher for each individual student. so to keep track easier of each childs development. Is there something in your area that can offer that? im not sure of the costs involved but surely they would be the same.

[FishFace]

I feel the same as Poshbecks.
I would send him to a school that caters for him. To give him social interaction and quality of life. Also to give you some time to do the things you want and need to do.

Your story is amazing. He is a beautiful boy and I think your postivity is inspirtational.
xoxoxx

[Nowhere]

Im not sure thats a hard one my DD special needs are very difernt to your sons so we not really in the same position KWIM, I know some send there children to school as more of a social thing but then some may not benifit from that either, to answer your question i really dont know, Hugs to you good luck with your decision

Have you ever been on a website caled www.Parent2parent.com (http://www.Parent2parent.com) Its ful of special needs parent with kids of all ages and all kinds of special needs maybe ask the parents on ther this as well

Mods the link i put up yes has a forum but is SO difernt to bubhub so wouldnt step on any toes its all about special needs, and weel chairs oygen, feeding tubes vents etc not like hub at all

[ReecesMum]

:wave: i just read ur sorry, and cant even start to imagin what ur going through i just wanted to say the public school i went to both primary (i think cant remember that far back) and secondary school had special needs classes with a single teacher for each individual student. so to keep track easier of each childs development. Is there something in your area that can offer that? im not sure of the costs involved but surely they would be the same.

Apparently there is alot of options for my son w ith schooling but i'm just wondering if it would be a waste of time if he can't take anything he is taught in.I know it's a fair way off(fingers crossed he will improve over time)but i really don't wanna put him through the stress if it isn't gonna benifit him in the long run.

Trying to keep the faith,

ReecesMum. :angel:

[ReecesMum]

Thats the thing he doesn't even socialise with other kids he can't even play or sit up on his on.It is such a difficult subject for me even though it is still a fair way off i can't help but wonder bout his future.

Thanks Ladies i appreciate the feedback.Mwahs.

ReecesMum

[cheezelz]

I think that if he develops further and you can see that he likes to be around others then maybe some school or group may be helpful and joyful for him. Not knowing how is disability hinders him I cant say what would help but maybe being around others may encourage him to learn more and mimic the other childrens behaviours.

Good Luck to you and you family. You sound very positive and Im sure he is a blessing.

[kiwibird27]

He learn't how to smile...thats positive, I have a daughter with severe developmental delay and many medical issues, There is always hope and every little tiny improvement is good, today he can smile, tomorrow he can recognise you.......the positibilities are endless and nothing is certain.

I know my DD will go to school, it's debateable wether it'll be a public school, or a special school though

[Seekrit]

Absolutely. At school they have teachers who know the very specific learning needs for your child and have been working with kids for years.... they also gain crucial life and social skills, so while they might not learn the 'fundamentals' of the "three Rs" they'll learn a whole lot more.

I also think (as an educator) that it's very important to "shop around" schools, especially if you have a child with special needs. It is SO important to find a school that caters for your child's disabilities and have staff already there, on hand, trained, experienced and doing constant PD for that special needs area. In a mainstream school (without a special needs unit), it's very hard to get capable people and things done quickly as "we" haven't done it before. :)

[Jacks Mummy]

Yes for sure. My son started special school this year and the improvement alone is huge. They equiped to handle kids with a broad range of difficuties and disabilities. They will also work closely with you to ascertain your goals for him. Its a long way of for you but I would be seriously also looking into it now. Are you getting the help you need now like respite and early childhood intervention. These will also help. Never ever give up. Your son will amaze you just like mine did as to what they can achieve in their own time and as to what they can do. The teaching programs are not like public schools, they teach signing and other ways for you and your child to communicate.

Hang in there and never lose hope.

[MamaRabbit]

Hi Reece's Mum, I would definitely send my child to school in these circumstances. There are a variety of special schools offering different levels of support and care. There are also residential programs such as Kingsdene in Sydney which cater for severely intellectually and disabled children.

These general special schooling links may help you: http://www.schools.nsw.edu.au/studentsupport/programs/disability.php

http://www.users.bigpond.com/websterpaul/sydeduc.htm

I truly believe all children need stimulation even if it appears like they are not taking much in - not to mention the fact that you will require some much needed respite after years of being a carer. You may find as he develops over the years that he really loves music, or simply watching people whatever it is the interaction may help to develop that little bit more. After all we never stop learning, some may do it slower than others but they still learn in some unique way.

My son will most likely go to a special school. I am unsure whether it will be a support unit at an ordinary school or a special school 100% dedicated to additional needs probably the latter at this stage given the level of his delay, however I am trialling a day per week at ordinary pre-school with a dedicated special needs carer next year.

Have you got a DADHC case worker assigned to you? They will be able to help find the right learning environment for your son when the time comes. The Department of Education will also help.

Good luck with it, and good on you for being proactive and considering all options. At the end of the day only you will know what is right for both your son and your family as a whole.

[Loopy Linda]

Hi

I agree with mama rabbit, school would probably be good for him...and in very least you could send him just a couple of days and have a bit of a break.

When i was at school i once did work experience in a special school ( i was going to become a teacher and was giving thought to specials needs). On my first day they put me in the high needs junior class and i went ok in there, some of the kids could just lay there but their eyes followed you a bit and the teacher made special effort and had music for them and decorated the room it was nice...like a lazy preschool with a caffeine crazed lady running around all day!!

the next day i was in high support senior room and to this day i am still saddenned by it. there was a kid older than me just sort of laid back in a chair and i had to put a bib on him and feed him his lunch. i think the fact that he was older than me is what has disturbed me most about that room, i can't even remember any other kids in there.

The next 2 days i spent in a mild room of about 6-10yrs..and it was a lot of fun, one was in a wheelchair and i remember i was on the floor with some of the kids and he rolled over and threw himself out of the chair at me ( i am glad he was little for his age) and maybe their was an autistic boy in there to that i really liked.

What i am trying to say is even the older boy in his chair was getting something out of it,

you are the mother and it will be your decision but i would suggest you go for and see how it works out, try it a little at a time and see what you are both confortable.

linda