Born unhappy??????

[june05isttimer]

Hi all

I have a 4 week old newborn daughter which is my second bub..

My dd1 was no angel by any means but dd2 wasn't even all the way out of me when born and she was crying!!!

She hasn't really stopped since...
I have a baby book which describes basic temperaments of children and she fits the tense baby catagory to a tee..

Some of the crying at times seems to relate to colic from what I read of her but most of the other times it just seems that she cries..

She doesn't seem to calm in our arms and we have taken to just leaving her for a few minutes in bed and she seems to stop crying herself and go to sleep within 5mins..
Its almost like she gets to a point where she hates being held and wants to go to bed but carrys on in bed too..
I am aware of her getting overtired which makes things worse but she fights and fights sometimes as all babies do!

I guess I can handle when I can see there is an obvious reason for crying but with her alot of times I can't see a reason and she just goes off...
its causing me soo much stress and anxiety and my hubby won't even take to her because he is nervous about getting angry soo quickly and hurting her...

Is she going to be like this forever... is she that unhappy all the time?????????????

Did anyone else have a baby who cried alot????????

Any tips or suggestions on how to get through and make it better at all??

[Miss_Vicki]

for the first 6 months with dd 2 it felt like all she did was eat (bfeed) sleep an sook an latch on to me no mater what ;)
I would take her to a gp an get them to sus it out could worse then just normal colic

[our little treasures]

REFLUX??!! My dd1 had bad reflux and was like your dd to a tea. I wouldn't allow her to cry as this makes reflux worse (unless yu feel your going to hurt her). Is she not overtired but being overly stimulated?? Think of the first 3 mnths that bub will be on you all day and night you will then just accept it instead of waiting for her to stop.

Try also giving her a warm bath with J&J lavender bath, works a treat. A sling is handy as well. I don't think your bubs is sad. I think she is normal and maybe your first just was placid. :)

Also at 3-5 weeks my bubs dd2 was also crying all the time I increased feeds and allowed her to be on me. I had to prepare myself that I am her mummy she needs me and I will be sitting in front of the puter doing this until she is calm again. These few days were shockers. Now my dd2 is so calm and never cries (unless my other 2 get in her face).

:hugs: Very trying time.

[UmmInayah]

My bub wasn't a big crier, but she did have her "colic" moments. I found she also didn't want to be carried and got overtired in the evenings very quickly. I found if I held her and GENTLY, ever so gently rocked her while singing to her, she calmed down relatively quick.

She also was diagnosed with reflux and was on medication for a while for it. I don't know if it made much difference, or whether I finally realised I needed to put her to bed earlier :rolleyes:

[Tam-I-Am]

Perhaps take her to a paediatric chiropractor, osteopath or physiotherapist?

We took my little girl, who had been a reasonably settled bub from the get go, to a really highly renowned chiro for kids in the area, and the change in her was phenomenal, even though she'd already been settled. She slept better, fed better, played better. It was amazing. And very gentle - it wasn't hard to watch at all, there was no cracking or twisting, just some very gentle massage etc.

[Purplebird]

I second Tam's suggestion of the chiro or osteo - I've heard amazing things from people who've tried this. I also agree that it may be reflux - it's really worth getting DD checked out. I guess some babies are criers - which doesn't help you much but have you thought about getting a sling? You could have bub with you all the time then and she will be soothed as well as upright (which would help if she has colic or reflux). It must be so hard, especially as you already have another, but I think a sling or carrier might just save your sanity - I know it did mine and my DD was pretty placid most of the time. that way you also don't have to leave her to cry which must be hard for you.

Congratulations on your the birth of your daughter and I hope you find something that works.

[HollyHotLips]

Sounds like me and my sister...

Apparently I was the perfect baby, didnt cry much, very easy going.

My sister was the baby from hell - never stopped crying, fussy eater etc etc

She was better when she got a bit older, dont know how old though as of course I was only little.... but I dont remember her being miserable when we were growing up.

[ShadyCharacter]

I was going to suggest a Chiro too :thumbsup:

[~*clairesmum*~]

hey dont wory my nephew is the exaclty the same just crys n only sleeps for about 20mins at a time

[little mermaid]

Perhaps take her to a paediatric chiropractor, osteopath or physiotherapist?

.

Yep totally agree, my sister took my nephew to a Chiro and he was a totally different baby after and his reflux totally dissapeared too!!!

[EsSjAy]

Hi hun...
It's horrible when you get to the point and you don't know what to do... Your husband wants to feel confident and help you but when babies cry & cry and nothing helps it gets quite depressing. Feelings of anger are quite normal because when our logical thinking when trying to resolve bub's issues doesn't work it gets frustrating and then you have to deal with the crying... and it steamrolls.
If hubby said he is concerned about hurting bubs he needs to address that issue immediately.
It's not fair on you to have to deal with that at all especially if it means no help with bub's from hubby... Sorry if i sound harsh...:(
It sounds like Reflux &/or colic... Welcome to my world. ds's colic resolved around 9 weeks and his reflux is managed... He is a dream boy now!!
Go to your Doctor and discuss it with him. Get a referral to a paediatrician if the unsettledness remains... Dont' let them pat you on the back and tell you it's colic and "he'll get over it"...
'Silent reflux' presents all of the symptoms of 'colic'... Just be sure o.k?