Should a 62yr old grandma be allowed to use IVF?

[dannii]

i seen this poll on msn today and would love to hear what u think!
so....
Should a 62 yr old granma be allowed to use IVF?

[Rhoxie]

If she is funding it herself then there is nothing to stop her.

I personally feel she's a tad too old to see a child through to 18. Not everyone can make it to 80 and still be healthy let alone manage being an active parent.

[chellegoth]

If she is paying for it, it's her choice.

[bronny-jane]

i know if i make it to 62 i want to be stalking young hot men and ****in it up at my local. to be honest i wouldnt do it, but i dont see why any one else cant.

[SAVINA]

Its A Touchy Subject!
I Dont Agree With It To Be Honest Sorry!!!!!

[Mischief]

I think nature puts us though menopause for a reason. Although I think 62 year olds can make wonderful parents, and are often put in the situation when their children die and they gain guardianship of their grandchildren....I feel that 62 giving birth is just wrong.

Each to their own....I'm not saying that at 62 they cant be great parents or wont live long enough to see their baby grow up, but their child will most likely end up caring for them before they are an adult themselves.....I think thats a pretty sad situation to choose to have a child in. :(

[lukaelmo]

How do you draw a line? Say you can have it done at 60, but not at 62? What if the 62 year old has a body of a 50 year old?

[melfunction]

I wouldn't do it personally. Don't care what others choose to do.

[Ffrenchstar]

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I wouldn't do it personally. Don't care what others choose to do.

Yip, same:D

[CrazyBeautiful]

I personally think that it's unfair to the child. She's a great-grandmother for goodness sake. I just think it's a medical marvel that has been used inappropriately with this lady.

[shed]

Yeah, what the hell, let her go for it, what do I care?

I am 36 and having my first. Some would say I'm too old but if I was 40 I would still do it. 42, 45, whatever.

We didn't use technology, just the old fashioned way, but we would have if we had to.

What's the cut off age? Everyone goes thru menopause at different times, so who decides?

[chellegoth]

She might have another 40 years in her! Which is plenty long enough to raise a child.

[dannii]

I think nature puts us though menopause for a reason. (
yes so true however same can be said for women that cant naturally conceive themselves for unknown reasons, but we still can give them a chance to be mothers.

dont get me wrong im definately not disagreeing with you (or anyone for that matter) just seen the poll and thought it was strange!

i guess there must be alot more to the story as i picture a lil old lady with a newborn.
oh and lol to bronny-jane
i know if i make it to 62 i want to be stalking young hot men and ****in it up at my local.
:smiliedance:

[poshBecks]

hmmm 62 is very old to be considering starting a family. I feel for the child. It may grow up not knowing it's mother or may be forsed to grow up too quickly! I think it's selfish & irresponsible of her to be even considering it!! :eek:

[MissBrightside]

yeah i think its a bit selfish. I dont think id have the energy to look after a newborn at 62. But then I dont know what it feels like being 62! Ask me in another 35 yrs!

[schmell]

IVF as far as I know is not a government funded procedure - so if she has the cash and that is what she wants to do then we can't say anything about it. It is totally her choice. There was another 60 something lady who had a bub last year that was all over the news, she still did it.

If that is what she wants and the doctors let her do it then so be it - if it is meant to be she will fall pg if it is not meant to be no amount of tries at IVF for her are going to work.

[Ffrenchstar]

if it is measnt to be she will fall pg if it is not meant to be no amount of tries at IVF for her are going to work.

Very well said:) I agree with you:thumbsup:

[dannii]

today in our local paper it had a 62 yr old woman gave birth to her 12th baby.
is this the same story does anyone know?
it gave no other details.

[bronny-jane]

holy sh*t, i didnt know someone had done it.

[madvoice]

I really don't think that they should be letting her at that age. There should be an age limit. But, if she's willing to pay full bottle for it, then its her decision even though I don't agree with it.

[LittleBoysRock]

I think it would be a disgraceful act against Mother Nature. How unfair to the child and how can a 60+ year old cope with the strain on their body??

Please don't get me wrong though. IVF for couples of a reasonable age wanting to concieve is fair enough....just not at 60.

[2littleprincesses]

All I can say is "come on dear, let's go find my walking stick and I'll walk you to school"

[kiwibird27]

Imagine the poor child, I have a friend with much older parents and she's had to watch them at a young age get older and deteriorate in health, when the rest of us were off traveling she felt she couldn't because her folks were getting too old, I personally think (sorry if i offend) if your body can't produce children anymore because of your age, then you shouldn't have them, don't really care if you've been too busy with your own life, that was your own choice!!!! We all make a choice to give up carrers and have children because we're getting older so why didn't they??? IVF should be used for younger more viable parents. There has to be a line!!!!!

[AlbertaJes]

Well, if you're referring to the woman I think you are, she's already got 10 living children, 20 grandchildren and 3 great-grand children.

At some point, you have to wonder why she is doing this. Is she doing it because she wants to have the kids, or is it because she wants the attention? If she just likes the kids, you would think that grand and great-grand children would fill that. I honestly think it's a bit ridiculous. I have to agree with the person who said that menopause happens for a reason. Because your body doesn't want to do that anymore.

How weird would you feel if you were older than your Great-Great Uncle??

[MumsieMel]

Come on Ladies,

She is a woman
She has the right :D

What about those with disabilities, those Young mothers, single mothers, divorced mothers, etc???? :confused:

We really have no say into what other people do with their personals lives, nor should we.

How can you decide who is deserving and who is not!?

Trust me we all know there are pleanty of people out there that shouldnt have ever been allowed to have children and lots that dont deserve the ones they have! :mad: :shame:

[Maghan]

Why not, that's why we live in a democracy. I personally couldn't imagine having another baby at 62, I really want to be a Grey Nomad at that age travelling the world. Won't I look weird back-packing at that age too?

[moonblossom]

wOW AND I THOUGHT i was old LOL mmm i think maybe 60 odd is a tad old

[veve]

aww makes me feel sad...

my Dhs father is the age of my grandfather.. he is constantly worries how much longer he has before his dad passes away!! and his dad had him when he was about 50!!! never mind being 62!!!

I agree - I dont think it is fair on the child... if she wants to be around kids couldn't she look at fostering etc? I"d also wonder how she is going to pay for the child's upbringing? being 62 has she retired? is there an income?

I guess everyone's circumstances are different....

xx

[dannii]

oh i found out more to the story.. that just keeps on getting better!

*A 62-year-old American woman who is a grandmother and great grandmother several times over has given birth to her 12th child

*Janise Wulf gave birth to the boy, Adam Charles, after conceiving through in vitro fertilisation

*Ms Wulf, who has been blind since birth, was a grandmother to 20, and a great grandmother to three, when she delivered by caesarean section on Friday

*Her (3rd) Husband is just 48, and wanted children together.

*The couple already have a three-year-old son, who was also conceived through IVF, and they did not want him to grow up an only child

and quoted from the lady:
"I believe personally that age is just a number," "When I became pregnant we were absolutely thrilled. And I think that. A friend of mine expressed it well. He said: 'If you can feel you can do it, go for it'."

[HoopDeeDoo]

My first reaction was a straight out NO. But thinking about it I'm sure she realises that she won't be around to see most of her child's later milestones, and you would hope that she has a large support network for this child when she (the mother) dies.
So it's probably not just for herself that she is having this baby. But like a few others have said, why not foster or addopt?

I think it's after the age of 50 that your body starts aging twice as fast, so you get older much quicker, and are more likely to get sick etc. So even if she is alive her quality of life is not going to be good.
Would you want to be a teenager with a mother who's too old to do what most other mum's can do? Or have your mum die by the time you have your first baby?
The difference between her and other mums is that she a basically garenteed to die or be unable to do all the things we want to do with our mums, everyone else is just taking the chance of life. Who knows I could be hit by a bus tommorrow

[chellegoth]

The difference between her and other mums is that she a basically garenteed to die or be unable to do all the things we want to do with our mums, everyone else is just taking the chance of life. Who knows I could be hit by a bus tommorrow

We are all guaranteed to die, we have all heard stories about young mothers dying and leaving babies behind. Or disabled women who can't do lots of things with their kids.
I don't think 62 is that old anymore, our life span is getting longer. People already live past 100, maybe in 20 years time that will be the norm. And maybe the number will start going up to like 150. Though I really hope not, I am already dreading the thought of having to work until I drop dead, I don't want to be still having to work in 100 years time :eek:

[shed]

My mum had me when she was 24 and I don't want to do anything with her and haven't since I left home when she was a sprightly 42 year old.

[HoopDeeDoo]

Sorry what I meant to say is she's lets face it garenteed to die sooner then most mums.
I totally agree there are lots of mothers doing great jobs with diabilities etc. Bascially I keep thinking of negative reasons and then disproving them to myself.

I'm sure she's thought about it and wieghed up the positives and negatives and it's her life and her decision in the end

[chellegoth]

Sorry I was kinda rambling! My point was that life is so uncertain, we should enjoy it as much as possible!