New to it all

[Canuck]

Hi there

This is my second time with my husband being away, the first time was only for a week, this time it's for two weeks.

It's hard on me because I don't drive (yet). I look out the front and see our car sitting there and I grrr at being stuck at home or reliant on public transport.

My son is 10 months old and while it's only been 3.5 days since my husband left my son is showing signs of missing him alot. He saw a man in the swimming pool and was desperately trying to get to him and was saying "Da! Da! Da!" the whole time and then this morning he crawled into my bedroom and saw what ended up being a pile of pillows on the bed and seemed to think Daddy was hiding there (I take him in to wake up my hubby in the morning) and he got all upset when Daddy wasn't under the blankets.

My husband is very busy with his job over east so it's hard to talk much on the phone but we manage. Does anyone else have any suggestions on how to help my son while my DH is away? I've done the normal pictures and the phone calls but as each has passed my son seems to get more agitated. He's still happy enough but I feel so sorry for him.

[mummy2sophie]

Hey Canuck, I've been there. My DH used to work out of state for a week every month. And would do overseas trips for 2 weeks a couple of times a year. It's really hard. He did that since DD's birth though so it's not like I had to get her used to it.

She does miss him from time to time though. But I stuck to her routine and gave her a little leeway if she was upset or cross or throw a tantie. I find the best thing to do when he is away is to keep both of us busy busy busy. I visit friends, go to playgroup and go to the park and the library.
All I can say is that :fingerscrossed: it's a phase and he's just got to get through it. He does get vibes from you so you have to make sure you're comfortable handling things whilst hubby is away and keep yourself distracted too. (easier said than done I know)

A busy toddler is a happy toddler. :D

Luckily DH's role at work has changed so he no longer has to travel so much :smiliedance:

BTW are you Canadian?? my DH is Canadian and we lived in Vancouver for a few years and will be visiting his folks in August. We barrack for the Canucks too! :thumbsup: (I soooo miss ice hockey)

[mummy2sophie]

Also: if those activities are not within walking distance and it's just too hard to take public transport then I'd be getting that driver's license!! :yes: I know it's a bit scary but YOU CAN DO IT!! Just think of all the places and freedom you'll have.

GOOD LUCK.