when did you first leave bubs?

[mummy sam]

ok so i'm 24 and bubs is almost 19wks, and a couple of my friends have decided i need to go out. it's a friends birthday coming up and she wants to go out on st patty's day for it, but to be honest i really can't be bothred. lineing up ages for drink, being packed into a pub like a tin of sardines paying all that money on booze and taxi and then not having any sleep then have to get up early the next day with bubs. I'm a single mum so it's not like i have a partner who could look after bubs and i really don't want to leave him with a sitter. oh and i'm still bf!!

so i thouht i would see what others have done.
if she was going out for dinner sure i would go and i would prob bring bubs, but i don't want to go out out i mean it's been over a year since i've been out

[tyler's mum]

i when out for the frist time last week tyler was 22weeks,,, it was great to get out but i missed her so much

[aardvark]

#1 was parked with DH and expressed breast milk a couple of nights per week from 6 weeks when I went back to uni.

I first left #2 at 10 days with DH and went for a swim. At 3 weeks, she was in the creche at the local pool for an hour per day while I swam and showered.

#3 has been in the creche at the pool for an hour per day since 3 weeks, too, but we left him home with my mother for an evening at 2 weeks old to go to see a live show we had tickets for.

Expressing breastmilk is fine - as long as the bub will take a bottle, or drink it from a cup.

My suggestion is that you need to see how bub takes expressed milk from a cup, so you can be sure you have the right teat or cup etc, and can be confident baby will take the EBM so you can relax while you are out.

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

First time i left bubs she was 3months she was left with my mum as me and dh were looking for a new car a family friendly one.I expressed my bm and went off looking for a car.I found that all i could do was think about my baby and i felt really guilty cause i wasnt there with my baby:( .I missed her so much and cuddled her for ages when i got home.

The second time she was about 4months and was an overnighter as i was having an operation When dh and my mum and bubba stayed until i went and had the op and then they dropped bubs at my mother and father inlaws house.When i came out of sergory(spelling?) my mum and Dh were there i asked how serena was as soon as i came out.When my dh and mum left i rang inlaws and asked how she was.I missed her so much i couldnt believe it how alone you feel.As soon as i was released from hospital we went straight to pick her up and gave her big hugs and kisses.

[O&GMUM]

6.5 months, everyone was on my case for ages, just didnt want to before that, go when you are ready not everyone else

[Rahmi'sMum]

Wow, you guys are brave, I think I'll have a nervous breakdown the first time I leave Rahmi, even with my husband. It's amazing that they just become an extension of you.

I wouldn't do it for a party - but that's only because I know I'd have zero fun, spending the whole time thinking about bub. If it was a wedding or something I couldn't miss I'd do it.

If you get the courage to go, have a fab night out!!!! :smiliedance:

[bubbles28]

8mths was the first time I left DS. It was with my MIL and it was only when he was sleeping. We went out to dinner and I wanted him to fall asleep before I left.
I have never left him when he's been awake.

[Rainbowbrite]

MJ is 9months old & I havent left her at all. No need to IMHO. If we have to go out to a party, wedding etc then she comes too. I dont have the energy to go out at night anyway :laughing:

[Mum2Lucas]

The first time I left lucas was to take my brother and sister to see the new harry potter. It was only for 3 hours. Other than that he's only been left for 2 other times and only for 2-3 hours also. I feel bad if i spend any longer out.

[Crazy Monkey]

First time we left DS he was 7.5 months old and he was asleep before we left.. The only reason we went out was because we had Gold Class tickets that were going to expire and didn't want to waste them... It was really hard for me... My advice, if you are not ready to left him, dont...

[~MUMMY~]

my babe wouldnt have even been a month old when my mum BEGGED and BEGGED for him to stay the night with her... so i caved in and said ok... since then he was always sleeping over her house... you get use to it... but i remember i left REALLY late that night and picked him up about lunch time the next day... i just couldnt hold out any longer.

[SassyMummy]

I think Chanel must've been 2 months or something...but I can't remember. I've never been away from her over-night though...I will in 2 weeks! It's my 20th, so I'm getting my DP to watch her while I go out with friends and get completely drunk at a cocktail bar...we'll then sleep at a friend's aunts place.

DD is 7 months now...and I don't really go out at night often...so one night should be okay. My DP has been out heaps (like New Years with mates for example) and I don't...so I figure I should get ONE night off. lol. I'll miss her for sure though!

[KatherineIV]

The first time Morgan was out of my sight was for an hour when he was 4 days old... Everyone told me that nobody has a baby that wears 0000 so everything was 000+. I needed to get him some clothes as we owned NONE in his size... but after a few rough nights he was finally sleeping so I made a mad dash to the store and left him with DH after I breasfed. I think it was my fastest shopping trip in history... 1 hour and I was back by his side...

Next time was at 4 weeks... Due to health issues we were unable to breastfeed from 2-3 weeks so Morgan was bottlefed at this stage.. (which obviously made it alot easier for me) I gave him to my mother overnight... My DP and I went camping over night... I don't think I slept a wink.. (even though I was sleep deprived).. he was all I could think / talk about...

I didn't want to leave him at 4 weeks... but for me I honestly don't think I would have left him after that point... I personally needed to do it then!!

He is now 9 months and goes to MIL dor the first Saturday of the month overnight and to my mums usually once a month overnight.. Apart from that I play netball twice a week and put him in the sport centre creche for an hour at a time.. (which he LOVES) and I work Sun, Mon, Tues 2 hours / day... he stays with DP on Sunday but goes to a gf's house to play with her 1yr old on Mon / Tues.

We were discussing just tonight about myself going back to work three full days / week... and I am just not ready to have him away that much.

I think it's healthy to have time apart (for both mum and bubs)... but that doesn't mean I don't miss him every second we are apart...

[maybe1more]

My son was 3 months old when my sister looked after his for 3 hours while i was at a friends birthday, the whole 3 hours dragged and i could wait to pick him up, as it was hard to relax. The first time i let him sleep over at my sister place he was 7 months old, and i was at her door at 7.00 in the morning to pick him up, she thought i was nuts! As he got older i got better:cool:

[hayleylea]

Hi there, you sound like the same prediciment i was in a couple of months ago. Im also 24 and my friends were begging me to go out for a nigt on the town i was in the same opinion as you i couldnt be bothered going out lining up for drinks and couldnt bare the thought of a hangover the next day....fortunatley for me my mother is a complete angel of lady so i stayed at her house the night i went out and the next night (DP had to work) so she helped out while i got over my hangover :p I say go on and do it because like i said i thought i couldnt be bothered but it was such a good night (well what i can remember anyway :laughing: ) and it gives you a break!

[EskimoMumma]

I left my DD alone overnight with my sil only because she beggeds and begged as well on NYE and she would have been about 5 weeks old then maybe a lil older and i constantly thought about her the whole time but i gradually felt better.. With my first on, my DS when he was born after 14 weeks he was in creche 5 days a week because i had to go back and continue my schooling (Was 17at the time, not my DS is 4) . But really if your being nagged to go out i think you should wait until you yourseolf want to go out and have a break, its fine to think you need a break because remember, you were a woman before the baby was born , you still need to keep SOME of your identity. I love my kids heaps, they are my world, i rarely go out now but i know both mother and ds/dd need time apart sometimes, if not..you may never know when to let go.