A Huge Turn Around For The Better....

[SweetSerenity]

Well it seems my ex may have woken up to himself and will be the dad he is meant to be...

Yesterday his mother and himself dropped peter home and as my ex got peter out of the car he said "We are cutting his bottles out now as he needs to eat more and not have so much milk"...

With that they went off and I was just meant to stand there and accept it.

I got SOOO mad. I have peter all the time, he eats fine here at home so I have no idea what they were going on about and he is perfectly healthy and growing just fine.

So after stewing on it for a few hours I messaged my ex and told him regarding BIG decisions like that, he can't just make them without talking to me...

We text messaged back and forth for a while and as it got heated he then went on saying that he's also taking him to speech therapy and a doctor to get him checked out and I can't stop him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eek:

So after it got heated, I left peter with mum and went over to my exes house to talk. I was soo mad that he thought that overnight he could start being a proper father and making decisions like that on his own... I don't think so.

So I went over and we had a BIG talk.... I was there for about 1hour or more and cried a few times as I just felt like everything I had worked hard for and sacrificed for, he was trying to now step in and say what should be happening etc, and it made me feel sick to the stomach.

We cleared up many issues we had with each other... I got every single concern in my head out, he got out what he wants to happen from now on etc.

We have agreed on a plan regarding cutting down peters bottles and the speech issue too.

He told me he wants to be a bigger part of peters life now and has realised that he hasn't been putting him first and he really wants to improve himself as a father and person.

I told him that if he wants to be a part of big decisions regarding Peter we need to work together then and not just dictate to me whats going to happen as peter needs consitency in both homes and having different set of rules at each house will not work and just confuse him.

I also said that he can't expect me to just trust him overnight and lean on him as peters father as only time can make me fully trust him in that sense.

He said he wants to be there for me so I have someone I can turn to in regards to peter and in a friendship sense also.

I just feel so good after last night. I could see it in his eyes how bad he felt and how sorry he felt for how he has been in the past with peter.

I now feel like I'm not going to be in this alone and I will have the father of my son to rely on and help when we need it.

All I can say is I feel an absolute rush of relief through my body....

:fingerscrossed: this is the start to a nice change in peters life.

Nat xxx

[cromeo]

:hugs: So happy for you Nat. I hope things only get better from now on. I have a few friends that are single parents and I know how much of a struggle it is to not have the other parent around. I'm glad your ex has decided to take responsibility.

PS. Love that Avatar!!

[spoon]

Nat, that is honestly very very cool!:thumbsup:

[Melissa1983]

Hey Nat

I'm glad Brett has decided to put Peter first, and i hope he sticks to his word. For your sake and Peters..

[Mamalicious]

Yay! That's great news! :yelclap:

[SweetSerenity]

Thanks so much ladies :)

I am feeling very happy, not just for my sake but peters. I want him to have the father he deserves.

I hope this is real... I feel like pinching myself! Lol.

Cromeo- I love it too :D hahaha, he's a funny boy!

[~*clairesmum*~]

thats winderfull news hun :yelclap:

[OneBabyBoy]

Well he should have gone about it differently at the start but the good intentions were there. I'll cross my fingers for you too Nat that he sticks with it :fingerscrossed:

[daddaddad]

I’ve really enjoyed your stories of late. Recently it seems everything is a new beginning or at least a fresh approach to an existing problem. I think it's great. I am sure that many others are noticing there is a point where the world starts to turn your way.

I really hope this is a new start for you both. Expect that the ex will let you down again, he may not mean to do so but the "training" you have had over the last two years + won't come instantly to him... it will take him time to come up to speed on being a parent. Try not to confuse his frustration with anger or reluctance - if that makes sense.

I am not saving you should wipe the slate clean, just take yesterday as being a little glimpse of what he really wants and then let him develop over time. He knows he can not be trusted yet… he knows that he can not trust himself.

I am so happy that you are seeing a future.

[Bubble*Crazy]

That's fantastic news, Nat, for all 3 of you.

[Lastcenturymum]

that sounds ecouraging...just take it slowly hon and give him time to 'prove himself'

Do you think his mum is driving this?

So great that you could talk stuff thru and have Peter's best interests at heart - together:yelclap:

[Kizmet]

That is great news hun :hugs: :hugs:

[SweetSerenity]

I’ve really enjoyed your stories of late. Recently it seems everything is a new beginning or at least a fresh approach to an existing problem. I think it's great. I am sure that many others are noticing there is a point where the world starts to turn your way.

I really hope this is a new start for you both. Expect that the ex will let you down again, he may not mean to do so but the "training" you have had over the last two years + won't come instantly to him... it will take him time to come up to speed on being a parent. Try not to confuse his frustration with anger or reluctance - if that makes sense.

I am not saving you should wipe the slate clean, just take yesterday as being a little glimpse of what he really wants and then let him develop over time. He knows he can not be trusted yet… he knows that he can not trust himself.

I am so happy that you are seeing a future.

Aww thanks :) I would insert a hug emoticon here but I think that will be too much for you lol.

But yes, I know he will still slip up, I'm just glad he has the way of thinking I do now in regards to our little boy.

He also told me he has worked on his aggressive behaviour and has seen an improvement in himself in the last month.

I just hope it all continues as I am just so happy for peters sake :)

In regards to if his mum was behind some of it, I honestly think he has taken this on board himself as she has been on his back about improving to be a better father for over a year now... so I truly believe that Peters dad is genuinely serious about this.

Time will tell :)