At wits end!

[shanias_mum]

My 3 yr DD keeps waking up at night, every night, and comes into my bed. Most of the time i get up and put her back to bed 3 or 4 times a night unless like monday night i was just too damm tired to get up, so she ended up sleeping with us the whole nite which resluted im me and DF getting no sleep. I got up at 6.30 monday morning made myself a coffee and fell asleep on the couch till 7.30 when dd came and woke me up. :sleeping:

Last night she was came into my room and tried to get into our bed and i told her she had to sleep in her own bed. so i got up and went to pick her up and she threw herself on the floor cyring. I put her to bed and she cried to turn the light off cus she couldnt sleep so i did, and went back to bed. as soon as i lay down she was up again crying to turn the light off, so i did, and went back to bed. Just got to sleep and she starts crying again, so i leave her for bout 10 min till i cant take anymore and go into her and she wants her water bottles, so i go downstairs to get it, then she wants me to sleep with her in her bed, and i tell her no i am tired and need to sleep in my bed and i go back to bed. She cries for bout another 10 minutes, then finfally dozes off. Then at 3.30am she is up AGAIN and in my room saying that she is all wet, :( she had spilled her water bottle all over her bed on her clothes, so up i get and change her sheets and her clothes, and finally get to sleep for the rest of the night.:sleeping:

She also wants to be carried every where and when i dont pick her up and carry her she will cry and cling onto my legs making it imposible to walk!!! I am soooo tired and dont know what to do, my boss said maybe try and put her back into a cot to stop her from gettin up but she could climb out of that when she was 1, so thats not going to work, then i thought maybe putting up a gate at her door to keep her in but this would still result in her crying untill i could take no more then get up. I am very tired , by 7.30pm i am nearly asleep and am always falling asleep on the couch, and cant take much more. Please help me, any ideas?

Sorry this post was soooo long.

[Brooksy]

Have you tried a reward system like give her something small for sleeping in her bed for 1 night then 2 nights etc and then when she has slept in her bed for say weeks or so take her to the shops to get her something special.

Also another thing my friend use to do with her girls they would start off going to bed in their parents beds and then my friend use to carry them and put them in thier own bed when they were asleep.

Hope this helps - goodluck and hope you get a goodnights sleep soon.

[shanias_mum]

Just an up date on how the sleeping in her own bed thing is going.

Wednesday Night, she slept through in her own bed!!! Yay She didnt have a nap that day, and was late going to bed, bout 9.30pm.

Last night she woke up bout midnight and came into my room, i told her that she is not allowed in my bed and took her back to her own, she cried but i left her and she finally dozed off. DD came in again bout 2.30am and i did a repeat of the first time, and we she asked for her water i said she was not having it and to go to sleep (someone said not to give her anything when she woke up) well she screamed and carried on for about 1/2 an hour but she stayed her bed. Then at bout 3.30am she fell out of bed!!! So more tears.

No wonder i slept in till 7.30 this morning! (not to mention DD put my phone on silent, so i did not hear the alarm) Heres hoping tonight goes better!
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[Brooksy]

Well one night sleeping in her own bed is a start. Hopefully tonight is a better night for you.

goodluck

[cwsmum]

3yr olds...they certainly know how to drive us mummies crazy :D
My DS was 'sneaking' (thats what he called it) into our bed most nights for a couple of weeks...I'd put him back in his bed and he'd go back to sleep for a few hours then wake up and come into ours again...he also was asking for drinks, etc when he woke up.
He is alot better now, we leave a non-spill cup of water beside his bed so he has no reason to wake us up if he is thirsty and the bed wont get soaked if he falls asleep with the cup in the bed. He knows that the only reason he is allowed to wake us up is if he needs to go to the toilet or something 'bad' is happening. I was leaving the toilet light on for him but the light shines onto his face and seems to wake him up so now we turn it off.

Good luck, hope you get more sleep soon :)

[meshan]

My son does exactly the same thing. BEWARE THE REWARD SYSTEM. We had a sticker chart, every night he slept in his own bed he got a sticker. After 5 stickers he got a Buzz Lightyear toy. Anyway, first night he wet the bed because he didn't want to get up or he wouldn't get a sticker. Second night he wouldn't get up he just cried out all night. By the 5th night he had it!!! We had a great night sleep and he got his Buzz toy. 6th night, he was back in our bed again, he had his toy and now he could go back to normal!!! They are just too damm smart somtimes.

What we do now is let him come in our bed and as soon as he falls asleep we carry him back into his own bed. This works for us.

He also has a night light.

[shanias_mum]

Well good to tonight i am KID FREE woohoo!!! :smiliedance: I have pawned her off to her nannas! HEHEHEHEHE and i am going out for a few drinkies (or 3 or 5 or 10!!) Cant wait! :yelclap:

So tonight will be a sleep through nite for me, actually i may pass out instead but its still all the same! LOL

In regards to the water bottle in the room, i always leave a water bottle on her window sill which is above her bed. In regards to putting her back in her bed once she has fallen asleep, I always fall asleep before she does! LOL so that doesnt work.!!!!

Yeah i agree to BEWARE OF THE REWARD SYSTEM, it may work for awhile but they soon realise how to get around it! They are really smart little buggers.

[shanias_mum]

Hi all, I had the best night last night - kid free!!!! :smiliedance:

Went to the pub with a few mates, had a few too many drinks and danced the night away. We didnt stumble into bed until 4am this morning :eek: , so needles to say i am quite tired, and have just made my self a coffee to keep me awake (i am at work till bout 7.30pm)

Good night had by all, cant wait to do it again, and the good thing was i slept like a baby and got to sleep in till 10am!!! :smiliedance: Although DF was in bed till 12.15!!! LOL

Have a good night all

[KatherineIV]

Sounds Terrible.. I am going to refer what I saw on that tv Programme the nanny...

I only have a nine month old and I am not at this point but it seemed to work really well.

She didn't use a reward system at all... but went through a step by step process each night.

eg. Dinner, Bath, Bed... story time etc. (not saying you don't already do that btw... just going through them all)

When children didn't want to sleep in their own beds she would use the controlled crying technique... the first couple of times she would go into their bedroom and talk to them.. by the third time it was no eye contact, no talking just putting them straight back into bed and walking back out of the room..

It takes a couple of nights but it seemed to work...

If they were really distressed she got mum to sit next to the cot / bed until they nodded off... each night if this step needed to be repeated mom/dad would move closer and closer to the door until they were outside the door.

Again it seemed to work... but who knows with these tv shows... I still have a couple of years to work myself up

Hope I've been even the slightest bit helpful

[shanias_mum]

KatherineIV - I know this will sound really bad :o but my DD doesnt actualy have a routine AND she falls asleep on the couch with me most nights! :( Bad I know. Then i put her to bed, so its not actually getting her to bed (though it would be nice, i just dont have the time, thats sounds really bad) its getting her not to come into my bed in the middle of the night!!! Which can be 3 or 4 times a night. Most of the time i put her back to bed over and over again, but sometimes i am soooooo tired that i just leave her there which then results in me getting no sleep. :(