BF to sleep or try something different

[MyL&S]

Hi i am at a cross roads as to wheather to try CC or a form of it..

I am Still BF and my DD is 7 months ( an acheivement) and i BF her when ever she wants and also to sleep but Noone in my family can comfort if i leave for any spaceof time she gets so upset and this is frustrating my DP so we spoke to a CHN and they suggessted that if it has become a problem feeding her to sleep and using me as her comfort then we shouls do something.

They have suggested tresilain because i have no initial support to start CC and ive been there before with my DS but all the inforamtion ive read on CC lately i know will make me feel guilty " do i really want my DD to learn that if she cries i wont come and settle her?"

So my question is if you BF you DD os DS to sleep how long did this last how did you family help in other ways to get then of to sleep if your not there?

and if you BF and do CC or some form of it did it work and did the baby then refuse you

I didn't know where to post this as i really want answers from BF babies

[cosmic]

Hi there, I'm sure the BF mummies will be along with their stories to help you (I'm still pregnant so can't help with that) but just wanted to tell you that I have been reading "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley and thought you might find it useful.

It doesn't offer an "overnight" solution as many CC advocates do (I personally can't stand the thought of CC) and requires your commitment to changing your baby's habits over a few weeks but it is written by a breastfeeding mother of four children who finally decided that there had to be a way to get babies to sleep without leaving them to cry or having to hold/rock/feed them. So she spoke to many, many mothers.. got all their experience and came up with her method. :)

[MyL&S]

thanks cosmic.. i will ring the liabray and ask if they have a copy of this book

[draught]

I BF my daughter (and still do at 16 months) and BF her to sleep for a long time. When it got to the stage that I was exhausted as she was expecting to be fed multiple times a night (at about 6 months) I wasn't ready for CC so instead changed to teaching her to go to sleep by being patted and rocked instead of BF. I did eventually use CC but there are no hard and fast rules in our house - she still gets BF to sleep sometimes, gets put down to sleep on her own, gets cuddled and rocked on other occasions - whatever the situation neeeds.

Re the feeling of guilt about CC and teaching your child that you won't come when they call - I bought into that for a while too. Don't. My daughters both call for me regularly - during the night, during the day, and know that I will always come - no pattern of learned helplessness there at all. They don't cry unattended - but they do know how to go to sleep if I am not there, if their father is there, or on a very rare occasion, if a babysitter is there.

[O&GMUM]

Hi
I still breastfeed my twins at 10 months, at 8 months I was physically and emotionally exhauted from lack of sleep and was worried that my milk supply was suffering. I spent a week at Tresillian and after 6 days I had babies who where sleeping through the night and alot happier( and a happier mummy) Its not about letting them cry themselves to sleep, its all about reassuring and teaching them to resettle.
I recommend it.:yelclap:

[Goosie22]

Hi, and congratulations on Breastfeeding for 7 months it just gets easier from now on;) . I breastfeed my boys each time they wanted, my 1st feed to 3 and my second self weaned at 15months. If you show your child love and compasion when they need it they will on their own learn through maturity that they can do things by themselves when they are ready you can guide them in the way you wish but forcing babies to go to sleep by themselves when they are only so little doesn't sit well with me. Some people say there is no study to say it does any harm but is that a good reason when all your gut instinct say pick your child up and hold them now?

For the frustration of you DP I would reasure him that he can take advantage of the time with bub when your not there to make an impact/special dady time ie show he is able to provide some comfort it might take a bit of time leaving him to do things with bub while you are there and in sight(onand off) of bub so baby can gain confidence in being without mum but you are still there if needed.


http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/crying.html
http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/control.html

I have witnessed my cousin doing Controlled Crying and there was no Controlled about it, She just does straight old Ferber style Child ignoring :crying: . Its very detached IMO.

[MyL&S]

thankyou for all your replies.. i still some time to think about going so no decision made up yet.. will wait and see how things go