What age would you like your kids to have kids?

[SassyMummy]

I'm sure we'd all support our children whether they had a baby at 17 or 37, but when would you PREFER they had kids? Are there any "milestones" or anything you want them to reach before it happens? Just because we're young mothers, I thought it might be interesting to see if we wanted our kids to follow in our footsteps, or wait a while longer...

I, personally, would like my daughter to be mid-20s, ideally. I would be pretty disappointed if she hadn't at least finished high school... of course I'd still support her if she hadn't. But yeah, mid-20s would be my ideal age for her to have children. This is assuming she wants them, can have them, has a partner, etc etc... but it's my ideal anyway...

[borntobemummy]

I'd like them to be married first, but then as young as possible after that! I've always dreamed of having lots of generations under me before I die.

But as you said, it's totally up to them and we will support them whatever they do.

[Fuchsia!]

i would like my boys to meet a lovely girl and settle down, not nessescery married but settled, maybe own their own home and be finacially stable.:)

[poshBecks]

I would like them to take after me :p I am happy with my life.... BUT if that doesn't happen thats ok too.

[Mum&bubs]

I would like my children to be stable before having kids. I'd love for them to have finished school, work a little, get married just be stable. Of course, If my daughter came home at 16 and told me she was pregnant like I did to my mum I would be over the moon.

I just want them to go out and enjoy their youth before having kids, it was something that I missed out on a bit.

[EskimoMumma]

I didn't miss out on anything and TBH I will support my children no matter what age they have children.

(That said i refuse to babysit over night the first 4years of their kids life ;) )

I'd like to think that if my children are old enough to have sex, they are old enough to handle the reprecussions of what happens when people have sex.

[Ashleigh<3]

Great thread idea Stacey!

Now that I think about it, my reaction to a pregnant teen daughter would be based on how I see her. Can she cope in tough situations, does she have money in order to fund her pregnancy, (if not, I would do all that I could to help her find a safe job that didn't involve dangering her pregnancy).
I would help her out financially, be it an investment property, car, or a room for her to continue living
in).

I know when I was 18, pregnant, scared, my rock other then my partner were my parents, they were supportive. That's all I needed. I didn't expect a huge pay out considering I was so young. I just expected them, of all people my Parents, to be there for me when I need them to talk to, for someone to chat to, etc.
I never asked/expected money from them and never will.

I want my daughter to be informed, I suppose I will be the parent many other parents will hate.
But I believe communication is important, my parents refused to talk about sex to myself, my brother, my sister. I will be very open, direct and honest with my dd. I won't be giving her the flower pot, watering can talk.

Funnily enough, everyone in my family have all been in difficult situations where sexual education would have been beneficial. :o

[Areca]

'flower pot, watering can talk' .............that's funny!

Well I would hope that my kids have started before they are 30. I'd like them to be at least 21 ideally. Most of all though, I want them living out of home!:laughing: Seriously though, in their 20's would be the ideal for me, whether it's early, mid or late, would depend on their living and financial situation. I'd like for them to be able to afford to be a SAHm if that's what they desire cause I think there'd be nothing worse than being desperate to be a SAHM but not being able to afford to.
I'd rather they put their career on hold, rather than their kids...my family has a history of early menopause and I'd hate for them to miss out cause they left it too late.

[spoon]

My eldest son wants to be at least 32 when he has children. He wants to go travelling, go to uni and get married first.

This has been a result of me being open honest and very very frank.

He now has a brain in his head that i really like.

[SassyMummy]

Thanks for the replies so far!

The reason I want DD to wait is so that she can do some of what I missed out. I mean, even if she never wants to travel, never wants to do the "young people" thing, etc... I think it would be great if she just had enough money behind her to make the whole thing a lot easier.

Moving out, for example, has been so hard. We moved only a month ago... and DD is 26 months... so we moved after she turned 2. Even now, the only reason we have this place is because my Dad used to live here... we just added our names to the lease (Dad's living overseas for the next year or so). He left a lot of his furniture here so we could use it.

Without him doing this for us, I don't think we would be able to afford to do it ourselves for some time to come... and it was getting really frustrating.

I'd like for DD to just have that for herself... you know, a house, a car, etc. Also so she can afford the kind of care she wants during pregnancy and birth. I'm hoping she'd want a homebirth, but they're expensive... I wouldn't want her to just get what I got... which was whatever I got for free.

There's just a lot I'd LOVE her to be able to do for herself, because I haven't been able to do it for me... and it would be much more rewarding if I could do more things on my own... so I just want that for her.

I'll hopefully be traveling when she's older... she can come along with me if she wants... so she may get the "traveling" thing out of the way then.

[Ashleigh<3]

'flower pot, watering can talk' .............that's funny!



You wouldn't believe how many of my friends in high school reported back with the flower pot watering can talk.:yes::laughing: I'm the silly who believed it all!

I have to quote you here too.


I'd rather they put their career on hold, rather than their kids...my family has a history of early menopause and I'd hate for them to miss out cause they left it too late.I agree wholeheartedly, whether they are 18 or 35, I would try my hardest to help my DD realize that being a Mother is a job of it's own and it by no means-means you should feel inadequate, career wise.
If things didn't work out with the father of the baby, I would support her and not tell her how to handle her relationship, unless of course she asked me for advice.
Sometimes Mothers are just meant to be the soul carer of their children, some Mothers or Father's on their own handle it better then if there are two joint parental figures.
Obviously, if we take a look at todays society, we have proved that diverse families can make it work just as well as traditional based families.

[Lollie86]

I would want my children to be financially ready to have kids. That doesnt mean I want them to wait till they are pushing 40 just so they have a big house new cars and a succesful job. All I want is them to be mature enough and have enough money to be able to support their own family.

With that being said, if they werent financially stable, I would do as much as I could to help them out.

My parents never handed me cash but mum helped me out by buying me 'presents' like a cot, my grandmother bought me a bassinet and my uncle bought me a change table. They fingured that I was the first to have a baby and they want me to pass these things on to my sister and my children when they have kids.

Aww I love my mummy! :hugs:

[SweetAngels]

I'm not worried about the age at which they have children, I'm worried about what kind of person they will be starting this family with.

I would prefer they be in a commited relationship before bringing children into it, especially my boys. I'd be heartbroken if they do it young and things don't work out, they move out, mother keeps my Grand baby/s and moves away :crying: (and then the rest of the drama that comes with some of these spilts)

I'll be extremley supportive of them with what ever happens as my mother was and still is with me :kiss:

[MummyCharmzy]

I'm not to worried about what age my children have children so long as they feel ready in themselves and preferably are in a stable relationship.

Ideally no my daughters wont get pregnant at 14... or anything remotely like that lol but if it happens, it happens and we'll all take it as it comes.

[Kayangel]

I would like my bubs when he/she is born :laughing: to finishen school, have a good job, meet nice bf / gf and settle down i hope they have kids in there 20's

[spoon]

I'm not worried about the age at which they have children, I'm worried about what kind of person they will be starting this family with.

I would prefer they be in a commited relationship before bringing children into it, especially my boys. I'd be heartbroken if they do it young and things don't work out, they move out, mother keeps my Grand baby/s and moves away :crying: (and then the rest of the drama that comes with some of these spilts)

I'll be extremley supportive of them with what ever happens as my mother was and still is with me :kiss:

:yes: That is how I feel to. My son wants more than anything to be a good father. I want him to get out there and meet some amazing people BEFORE he decides which amazing person he is going to father children with.

[lil miss]

my mother had me when she was 17, and i had my daughter when i was 18. Mum always said her biggest fear was that i woouldn't live my life and end up being a tenn mum. But when she found out i was pregnant, she was over the moon. I don't feel like i'm missing out, as i have never been into the 'party scene', and all my friends are really understanding of the fact i don't have a lot of money to do things, and it takes a lot of organising to leave the house (although i do it on a regular basis). They always offer to baby sit if me and my boyfriend want time to ourselves. Like my mum, i'm half expecting my daughter to be a teen mum, but it's her choice when (or if) she has children, and I will be there to support her in what ever she chooses to do. I'd be a hypocrit if I didnt.

There are plenty of things I'd love her to do before she has a child, but as i told my mum, just because i have a child doesn't mean I won't travel or have a career- it will just be later on in my life.

The only thing I want for my daughter is for her to be happy in whatever she chooses to do with her life, and I will support her in every decision she makes, good or bad. After all, that's what being a mother is all about.

[kristi001]

Deffinately Older then I Was :yes:

I would love my kids to be able to go Traveling, date a few Duds, have his Heart broken, Meet his Soul mate, Have a career, Buy a House!


Then think about Children!

I Want Him to Enjoy as Much Out of His Life as he Can and then Move on to the Second stage in life when you bring another one Into it.


But whatever he choses In Life i will accept it just as My mother did to me. :yes:

[RainbowStars]

I'm not really worried about what age.

Not everyone wants the whole travel, social life, big career thing - so i wont babble on about how much i want them to have it. I was not someone who was ever interested in any of that, so i can't expect any of my children to follow a path i never took.

I just hope it happens at an age where they are mature enough to deal with the responsibility of another life. And that age would be different depending on the individual.

[mikaylasmummy]

I'm not worried about the age at which they have children, I'm worried about what kind of person they will be starting this family with.

I would prefer they be in a commited relationship before bringing children into it, especially my boys. I'd be heartbroken if they do it young and things don't work out, they move out, mother keeps my Grand baby/s and moves away :crying: (and then the rest of the drama that comes with some of these spilts)

I'll be extremley supportive of them with what ever happens as my mother was and still is with me :kiss:


Ditto!!! That is how I feel also, except for the last line

[neostudded]

It depends on the individual & how mature/responsible they are.But id love it if they were ready under the age of 24.:D

[consy]

I would like my kids to.... its a tough one isn't it. My husband and I did the 'have the life and go travelling first' deal and I had Matthew at 26, but now we both think that babies are soooooo much fun that we should have done this ages ago!! :laughing:

I guess I want my kids to be happy on the inside, and secure, when they have babies.

Then I want LOTS AND LOTS of grandbabies!!!!!!! :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

[RedPanda]

I'd prefer them to be in a secure relationship and not be too young. Ideally, I'd like them to have some kind of education/career/plan behind them to ensure they could go back to work if they needed to.

I'd support them and be excited about grandkiddies no matter what the age though (unless they were REALLY young, like 12 or something!)

[studyingECS]

My mother would like me to be 30+ but to be honest with you i really can imagine myself being a young mum.

[cheezelz]

If it were upto me they would be married and have a mortgage/house. I wanted to have children when I first met my future DH but my DH had a set life plan that I needed to stick to. It was first get the house then get married then have kids. I always said that it made no difference when I had kids even if I wasnt maried or had a house but never the less we stuck to his plans. Now that we bought the house then got married then had our daughter I am very thankful for his visions and am glad that i did it in the order we did. I feel more secure and balanced. I feel that I have a very good foundation for my children. I therefore would hope that my children would have the same plans and visions for their future.

[Acacia]

If Thomas wants children....(god its weird to think about) then i hope he has them when he feels he is ready. I would never want him to feel like he missed out. Ia would definately want him to have finished school....if he has a child he has to be a 50:50parent or will he cop it from me! If he is gay then i hope he still wants kids and adopts or something because i do want to be a granny!

[*Chels*]

When DS is ready for kids-I will welcome my grandbabies with open arms.
I was only 21 when I had him,but I had already been living out of home for 6 years,working fulltime for 4 years and had done some studying.I had alot of life experience,and I want him to have the same.
Ideally I want him to be in a stable relationship,and have some money behind him.
I want lots of grandbabies!!:smiliedance:

And I agree with this-that would be my worry too:yes:


I'm not worried about the age at which they have children, I'm worried about what kind of person they will be starting this family with.

I would prefer they be in a commited relationship before bringing children into it, especially my boys. I'd be heartbroken if they do it young and things don't work out, they move out, mother keeps my Grand baby/s and moves away :crying: (and then the rest of the drama that comes with some of these spilts)

[Noah_and_Elijah]

I started having children at 21 and even by then I had done alot of travelling, finished school, studies after high school, pretty much everything that I wanted to but it was still too young.

I would like my kids to start thinking about a family when they feel 100% ready both emotionally and financially. Ideally they would have finished school, gone to uni, have a great job, wonderful loving partner and have travelled extensively.

In saying that though I will support whatever decision they choose to make.

[Rainbowbrite]

The question in the title was "what age would you like your kids to have kids"........Sorry going to be obvious & say WHEN THEY ARE NOT KIDS :p

[Kizmet]

The question in the title was "what age would you like your kids to have kids"........Sorry going to be obvious & say WHEN THEY ARE NOT KIDS :p

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