Tearing me apart

[Blakes Mummy]

Hey Ladies,

I know everyone must go through it because its a part of the forces life but my partner has gone away for the first time since we had bub (who is know almost 14 months so we have been lucky) and Blake isnt coping he just throws these major attacks of screaming and crying and wont let me touch or console him its as if he wants his daddy. Its tearing me up inside and being here alone doesnt help its even got me in tears.

Any ideas? Or just support that im not alone!

[Blakes Mummy]

Im guessing no. :no:

[V8]

Hey hun, while i'm not in the situation you describe i have two friends who have kids and who's partners will be deployed very shortly for 6 month stints. One of the girls husbands has already been deployed once when their son was 2 weeks old. Very sad and she has trouble coping too. I think you need to find some friends who are in similar positions maybe through DCO or something. Do you go to playgroups or anything, just to keep yourself and your little one busy.

[lavenderpegasus]

you are no alone...and i'm sorry that no one has responded to your post.

It cant be easy doing it alone, my dh (navy) is away all the time and we have a 3 month old, it actually seems a bit easier to have a younger bubs when the hubbys aren't home because he doesn't really know who he is.

I hope things get easier for you, how long is hubby away??

lp in wa

[logan0102]

Hi, my son who is 2.5 is often like this while Daddy is away 'on the work plane'. No easy solution for us yet, but distraction helps! Also when Daddy goes away, we do something special once a week such as going to the zoo. DH is due for a 6 month trip soon, so we have been talking about how Daddy has to go away to 'help' people. You can PM if you like, and maybe we can work this one together!

[MilkOnTap]

Sorry I didnt see your thread earlier - I'm so sorry that your going through this on your own.

DCO can be useless unless you really get on their back for extra support. Do you know anyone in the area? Do you have a support network?

Feel free to PM me if you would like to chat :)

[Blakes Mummy]

Thanks ladies for your replies just to know that im not alone is a big help.

I feel like im whinging because he is only away for three weeks and most of you have partners away for 6month stints or longer, I think its just never having done it before im hoping as he goes away more often it might get easier to cope with.

My closest friends live in a different state so its hard to call on them for a support network although the phone is great. I have a few ppl around i know but i always feel guilty bothering them as they are so busy with there own lives. Oh well i am coping better as time goes!

Might start using bubhub more often! :yes:

[MilkOnTap]

Where abouts do you live? I'm in Sydney - if your here I'd love to catch up sometime :yes:

[Blakes Mummy]

Wish i could take you up on that offer Pink Lady but im up in the sunshine state. :thumbsdown:

[zera06]

hey sweetie my hubby goes all the time at the moment and my little man has just turned one.

The way we deal with it is he has a pic of daddy next to his bed and every morining we say good morining to him and good evening to him. and count how many sleeps till he is due to come. ( some times it feels like forever)

Im always here if you need to talk or even ring me i know how hard it is and stressful , i also have another one on the way.


So i thought i would just let you know your not alone :)

[Blakes Mummy]

Thanks Zera and all the other ladies who replied. I only have three more sleeps and he will be home.

It was hard but not life threatening i think we do what we gotta do and hopefully i might be prepared for next time cause i know what the expect now.

BM :kiss: