Symptoms of Miscarriage

[rynosmum]

I have seen a lot of posts over the years where people are being reassured against potential m/c symptoms with phrases like 'it's brown blood which is only old blood' or 'unless you're doubled over with pain, you'll be fine'.

I just want to stress that any bleeding in pregnancy should be checked. Your baby may be perfectly fine but regardless it should be checked by a professional.

Any cramping that worries you should be checked as well.

I have lost one baby without symptoms - her heart stopped after the 12 week scan. I have lost another, the only symptom being brown blood (no cramping) and I have lost another with bleeding and cramps.

Every pregnancy is different but all symptoms which concern you should be checked. Please don't accept the kind words of others telling you to disregard any symptoms and to those with kind words, please only offer advice where you have experience.

You may end up getting checked, only to find that your baby is fine - this is obviously the best outcome, but at least you'll know.:yes:

[Noah_and_Elijah]

Excellent post RM :yes:

I've been fortunate enough to never suffer from miscarriage however have had several people close to me suffer from them and it's a terribly traumatic time for everyone involved.

If you are ever unsure, get yourself checked!

[Mum&bubs]

Great thread! :yes: Couldn't agree more with you!

[MilkOnTap]

RM is on the money with this one - and thank you so much for speaking out about this!

I have had 2 ectopic pregnancies - and trust me. If you are doubled over in pain, you WANT to get it checked out. Rupturing a tube is not the prettiest thing or most comfortable thing.

Blood tests and ultrasounds are easily accessible and mostly bulk billed, so there is no reason why someone shouldnt go straight to the dr if they have a problem or question. Most hospital have early pregnancy clinics that have a phone number you can call to check things too.

[AM]

I'm right in the middle of this now, bleeding at 7 weeks. I am not going anywhere near any docs, what on earth can they do? Nothing as far as I am concerned, I don't want any invasive tests, this is a very private thing for me. I don't want an ultrasound, what is it going to tell me really, that I will not find out in time anyway?

If this baby has decided to go, no doctor is going to be able to stop it.:gloomy: I'm simply not interested in being poked and prodded during this time, I would rather just have loving support while my body goes through this process, whatever it turns out to be.

[Noah_and_Elijah]

ApprenticeMomma - I am sorry that you are going through this and I hope that things are ok with you and bubs! :hugs:

[rynosmum]

I'm right in the middle of this now, bleeding at 7 weeks. I am not going anywhere near any docs, what on earth can they do? Nothing as far as I am concerned, I don't want any invasive tests, this is a very private thing for me. I don't want an ultrasound, what is it going to tell me really, that I will not find out in time anyway?

If this baby has decided to go, no doctor is going to be able to stop it.:gloomy:

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through AM. I must say that you have a more experienced understanding of the potential outcomes. I agree, with my last, I knew I was losing the bub and didn't really want more invasive tests so completed the M/C at home.

That said, it took a while to start so an HcG bloodtest did give me some guidance on what to expect, if it was a M/C or potentially some other complication.

I suppose my post was really for those who are unsure and looking for advice for others.

In the meantime, I truly hope your bubba is strong enough to hold on through this. Take it easy and be kind to yourself over the next few days.:hugs:

[MilkOnTap]

I'm right in the middle of this now, bleeding at 7 weeks. I am not going anywhere near any docs, what on earth can they do? Nothing as far as I am concerned, I don't want any invasive tests, this is a very private thing for me. I don't want an ultrasound, what is it going to tell me really, that I will not find out in time anyway?

If this baby has decided to go, no doctor is going to be able to stop it.:gloomy: I'm simply not interested in being poked and prodded during this time, I would rather just have loving support while my body goes through this process, whatever it turns out to be.

I'm so sorry to hear that you are bleeding at the moment... I understand and respect what you are saying here :hugs: When I suffered my second ectopic pregnancy I had to have an internal ultrasound used every third day. Have you seen the size of those things? Very invasive. After spreading my legs for every second doctor who came along I too wondered if it was worth it.

But after losing a tube after my first loss, and then bleeding on and off during the second pregnancy, I realised that my health also had a part to play. I wanted the option of being able to conceive naturally in the future - and the invasive tests were price that I had to pay.

That time when you dont know what is happening is the worst, and I really feel for you right now as it sounds like you are in the midst of waiting for something to either happen, or for something to stop. Its not the right time for a thread like this to appear for you - but there might be others who it may help.

Please take care of yourself :hugs:
Ally

[AM]

Thanks for your kindness, the thought of a doc or anyone similar gives me the heebies right now, but I do understand that some people like the closure of knowing as soon as possible. I'm just a cranky pants today.:o

[SorenLorensen]

so very true rynosmum

when i was ment to be 10 weeks i found out my baby had not gotten past 6 weeks 4 days.
i noticed a tiny (and i mean tiny) bit of blood and went right to the doc and an u/s confirmed that my bub had passed away on a wednesday.
my bleeding was no longer there, that little drop was the only thing i had and becuase i went to the doc about it i knew......

and the next thing that happend i was only somewhat prepaired for becuase i knew.
my bleeding had still not come back then DP and i were witting on the floor with DD and out of the blue i started hemoraging (sp) BIG time, but we knew what to do becuase my doc had told us to watch out for it (and some BHers told me). i was rushed in to the ER and then rushed even faster to get me into the operating room......

im glad i got my few little drops checked out

oh and only once in that whole time did i feel any cramps, and that was while i was in the hospital

[stompy]

Miscarriage is such a terrible and heartbreaking thing to go through, and I hope that it is something that I will never experience again.

I agree completely with you rynosmum. I know that when people post they are only seeking reassurance that everything will be ok, and people who give this reassurance are doing so out of the goodness of their heart. But as stated if you are concerned about any symptoms you should have them checked out.

I suffered a missed miscarriage, and the only symptom I had was a tiny bit of brown spotting weeks before I received the devastating news that all was not well. Whenever I read a thread with people asking about brown blood, they are generally reassured that all will be ok because it is old blood. My heart just drops. I want to tell them that all may not be ok, just because the blood is brown it does not mean that everything will be alright. But I don't say a thing. I hope with all my heart that it is not a bad sign for them, but I don't want to be the one to burst their bubble and tell them to get checked out as it could be a sign that the pregnancy is not viable.

hope all this babble makes sense.

[rynosmum]

hope all this babble makes sense.

It sure does, my heart does the same thing when I read those posts. People are only trying to help but unfortunately they don't always have the right information.

[Bron]

Great thread rynosmum. :hugs:

I have worried when people post about a small amount of bleeding and others tell them that all is OK. I had only tiny amounts of spotting with both my miscarriages. So tiny that you wouldn't notice unless you were super paranoid like me. The first time I was convinced out of getting it checked out, only to face heartbreak at our 13 week ultrasound. The second time I went straight to hospital.

Miscarriages are heartbreaking. I love hearing about people who have had spotting but go on to have healthy pregnancies, but I also know the pain when things don't turn out well.

My love and hugs to all who have had a loss.:hugs:

[Phyllis Stein]

Thanks for making this thread RM.

I think I've given others that false reassurance before, without realising the potential harm. I have no experience with M/C but did bleed at 10 weeks. I was lucky - everything was fine. Anyway, I'll be a lot more aware when replying to those posts now.

[KarniF00l]

Excellent post RM and I whole heartily agree. It's always best to get checked out regardless of any sort of re-assurance you get from un-professional people, even if they've been through something similar.

I've had two miscarriages this year and both were very different. The first one I had lower tummy pains to the point where I was doubling over in pain and then a few days later I had specs of dark blood, resulted in an incomplete miscarriage. The second one (which was two weeks ago), I bleed like there was no tomorrow. Just lots of red blood, nothing like I've ever seen before, not even after birth. Resulted in a complete miscarriage. It just goes to show how different miscarriages can be.

If ever in doubt, always get checked out ASAP! :yes: