I wish I got my boys circumsized...

[catalicious]

I really do wish that I had of had them done.....

I feel its too late now as they will remember getting it done......

But I wanted to get it done when loch (5) was born, for numerous reasons he had kindey reflux so this would of helped, my whole family is done, as are dps... (cousins, parents, brother, every man) and I think it looks much nicer.....

But I seen a documentry about what the mother had to do after the surgery and couldnt go through with it.....

Like pulling gauzes off that where stuck to his penis etc and it made me feel ill..... But now when I seen a recent documentary that shows the new procedure in how they do it.... I have been frustrated that they where not done......

Anyone else feel this way??

Lochie is 5 and jack is 21 months

[BreakfastatTiffanys]

No, I am still very happy I left my ds alone.

[spoon]

:no: No I dont. I dont belong on any bandwagons here on ther bubhub. No foot in any camp. But i did not have my boys done, and i am very very happy i didnt do it.

I was unaware that people are divided over this topic, i accidently fell into the "non circ" group. The reason i did not do it was that i thought it was not needed.

In your situation though, I can understand you feeling this way.

[bigglet]

Besides the fact that your family and your DP's family is done was there any other reason that you wanted it done?

I personally think this is one of the toughest decisions a mother can make - it's such a controversial topic and one that I think is very personal.

[catalicious]

Yeah I am the same as you in some ways ldhb.......


I never knew this was a debated subject I just thought parents made what they thought was the best choice for their kids...

Until I came into bubhub,....

But I also have not posted in any circ threads that i remember...

I just have never been interested......in contributing... tbh...

But now i have been wishing i had then done since the documentary on tv a few months back...

[catalicious]

Besides the fact that your family and your DP's family is done was there any other reason that you wanted it done?

I personally think this is one of the toughest decisions a mother can make - it's such a controversial topic and one that I think is very personal.

Yeah the other reason was because Loch (50) had Kidney reflux, this is a dangerous condition enough so having to worry less about infection from potentially having him circumsized was a big factor and then I would of got jack done to ensure if he did get kidney reflux (its hereditary) too he would have a little bit less risk... and also cause his broter would of been done...

[Mamalicious]

But I seen a documentry about what the mother had to do after te surgery and couldnt go through with it...


You're not supposed to pull the gauze!!!! It soaks off in the bath, no pulling allowed!

I think at 5 years old there would need to be a lot of explaining about why...

I hope you don't get bollocked about this, it can get a bit nasty...

Hope someone has some great advice for you. :hugs:

[catalicious]

You're not supposed to pull the gauze!!!! It soaks off in the bath, no pulling allowed!

I think at 5 years old there would need to be a lot of explaining about why...

I hope you don't get bollocked about this, it can get a bit nasty...

Hope someone has some great advice for you. :hugs:


Oh please dont get me wrong I would never ever put my sons through having it done now........

No way at all..... They wont be getting it done but I am upset that i didnt get it done when they where younger......

Oh and alismum I wont get ombarded or anything..... I have tough skin and love getting numerous different sides of things, it keeps me well informed!! HUgs
!

[ShadyCharacter]

But now i have been wishing i had then done since the documentary on tv a few months back...
May I ask what documentary you were talking about?

[bigglet]

Oh please dont get me wrong I would never ever put my sons through having it done now........

No way at all..... They wont be getting it done but I am upset that i didnt get it done when they where younger......

Yeah I understand...

We've decided to not to circ but we are still wondering whether we are making the right decision - only because we have done heaps of research and if it had to be done then doing it as an infant would be the best time.

[catalicious]

May I ask what documentary you were talking about?

Iv probably described it wrong by calling it a documentary it was on one of those ray martin kind of shows and had two drs argueing about it...

One argueing each side.....

It could of been on 60 mins or something ....

Anyone remember it...

[spoon]

No, it was not a massive ground shaking decision making process like some people say it is. And to be honest there are issues I do :shame: look down upon:shame: But I keep them to myself because they are my opinions, which i have every right to excersize and i do that in MY HOME, where it belongs.

I think that it is amazing how some people dont even think twice about naming the issues that irk them and then go that five steps further and force it down everybodies throat.

I would not do the same because I believe in manners and respecting others.

I dont feel regret becasue once i made the choice it never came back again. Done and dusted... NEXT.

[bigglet]

Are you thinking of the 60 minutes report?

http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=289096

[Tulp]

DS is now 1 and we are hoping we don't regret not having it done earlier to prevent a problem DH had when he was little. DH had to be cir due to some medical problems.

[catalicious]

DS is now 1 and we are hoping we don't regret not having it done earlier to prevent a problem DH had when he was little. DH had to be cir due to some medical problems.


Good Luck Tulp.......

I hope you dont regret it either as its a su(ky situation to be in, not being able to change the past....

Oh well...

And yes tat is the report I named a documentary.... LOL!!! Silly me!! Yes thats what i am talking about....


Then there was a different thing about 6 years ago..... which put me off..

[spoon]

Good Luck Tulp.......

I hope you dont regret it either as its a su(ky situation to be in, not being able to change the past....

Oh well...

And yes tat is the report I named a documentary.... LOL!!! Silly me!! Yes thats what i am talking about....


Then there was a different thing about 6 years ago..... which put me off..

:hugs: :fingerscrossed: Lets hope your boys are okay. We do the best we can at the time with the knowledge we have and had. Your intentions were in the best interests of your boy/s.:hugs: Ah, regrets and mothers guilt:hair: IT is a sad state of affairs when we feel it, but if it were not this, it would be something else.:hugs:

[catalicious]

Im more scared of what Ill say If people express there views and ten harrass about it...


I like hearing why people feel certain ways about the subject but to then harras about it.... is frustrating.....


Oh and When you worte what flick quoted shady I hadnt said anything...... about what people where replying with..

[SassyMummy]

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Catalicious, I don't have a son, so I can't properly answer your question. If I had a son, he wouldn't be circumcised. I suppose that if, somewhere down the track, he suffered some pretty uncomfortable consequences from not being circumcised, I might think, "Oh, it would have been so much easier if I just did it when he was born." But then, I wouldn't be willing to RIC him just because of a possibility...

So I MIGHT feel a bit annoyed I hadn't done it sooner in that instance, but at the same time I'd know there was no way I could have predicted the future. :)

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[xkwzit]

We'll reopen this thread to give it another chance.

This would be the right section for this thread, I don't believe the OP was interested in only one side of the discussion. So a reminder of the OP:

I really do wish that I had of had them done.....

I feel its too late now as they will remember getting it done......

But I wanted to get it done when loch (5) was born, for numerous reasons ...

Anyone else feel this way??

[OscarTheGrouch]

I know how you feel. I really wanted to get my boys done, But DH, who is done said no and that it's (a word that starts with c that is unacceptable in this section). I'm glad that I didn't get them done now. They will decide one day whether to get it done. In saying that, most of friends have had their sons done and they are extremely happy with their decision and I fully support them 100%.

[*babygirl*]

:( it sucks u feel that way...tbh i would only get my DS done to be like his dad,,, either way turns out DP isnt done so i wont have to worry about it while im procreating with him:laughing:

:hugs: :hugs:

[Can I?]

I wondered what difference it makes whether or not they can remember it? The pain is the same, the healing is the same - so what is the difference?

[shed]

Cat, I am against routine infant circumcision, but I am not against circumcision itself, when done for medical reasons, so I think you have done the right thing, which is to wait and see.

Its what we are doing. I personally believe its what everybody should do. That means the child will remember it, but there is no harm in that if its done for a reason. I hope DS never needs it done of course but we would never remove any part of his body just in case so we have to wait and see and hope its all okay.

Same as getting your tonsils out. We don't routinely take them out, we wait until there is a problem and that often means the child is a bit older and remembers the surgery.

Don't worry about it. The beauty of a foreskin is that you can remove it at any time, but once its gone you can't put it back, so better to be in your situation than in the situation of getting them done and then regretting it later.

You can't change the past so don't worry about it. Just worry about what is happening now. If you can't put them through it now then put it behind you. If you can't put it behind you then start looking into getting the procedure done now. They are the only two choices that are realistically available because you can't turn back time and do it differently.

You'll be fine either way luv, don't worry.

[catalicious]

Cat, I am against routine infant circumcision, but I am not against circumcision itself, when done for medical reasons, so I think you have done the right thing, which is to wait and see.

Its what we are doing. I personally believe its what everybody should do. That means the child will remember it, but there is no harm in that if its done for a reason. I hope DS never needs it done of course but we would never remove any part of his body just in case so we have to wait and see and hope its all okay.

Same as getting your tonsils out. We don't routinely take them out, we wait until there is a problem and that often means the child is a bit older and remembers the surgery.

Don't worry about it. The beauty of a foreskin is that you can remove it at any time, but once its gone you can't put it back, so better to be in your situation than in the situation of getting them done and then regretting it later.

You can't change the past so don't worry about it. Just worry about what is happening now. If you can't put them through it now then put it behind you. If you can't put it behind you then start looking into getting the procedure done now. They are the only two choices that are realistically available because you can't turn back time and do it differently.

You'll be fine either way luv, don't worry.



I do see what your saying agree to some degree..

As I said before I wouldnt get the procedure done now... unless lochs probs started up again........

So Ill try getting over it... Its gard though as I dont really know how to look after it properly and therefore dont know how to teach loch how to look after it properly...... Iv never known of anything to do with uncircumsized penis'/

[shed]

I dont really know how to look after it properly and therefore dont know how to teach loch how to look after it properly...... Iv never known of anything to do with uncircumsized penis'/

Its something both DP and I have to learn as well! :yes: I suppose a lot of mums have to learn this because alot of Dads were routinely done so they have no idea either.

[SassyMummy]

I'm sure if you ask, there'd be Mums on here who'd know how to deal with an uncircumcised penis in regards to cleaning.

Personally, I wouldn't really know how to clean one anyway... circed or not. :p

[catalicious]

Thanks guys I might ask.....


I have no idea and feel i could hurt them so just try washing them in the bath and have done nothing else in regards to there privates....

Need to start so they lch in particular know how to look after it...

[SassyMummy]

I don't KNOW but I'm pretty sure that's all you do anyway - just gently wash in water...

[forbetoel]

You dont need to do anything special to look after foreskin, you treat it as any other part of the body, just having a bath or shower will wash it just fine, there is no need to fiddle around with it to clean at all.

[Chub Chub]

Catalicious....my DD had severe kidney reflux which has resulted in deadzones on one of her kidneys.

I am not sure that circ'ing would of helped? Jusy a thought a my girl had the same condition? All the information we were given from specialists in regards to the reflux noted that there is no evidence that circ'ing can reduce the effects? Maybe we recieved one sided advice? Not sure? I didn't take 100% notice as she is....well a girl:o

[catalicious]

You dont need to do anything special to look after foreskin, you treat it as any other part of the body, just having a bath or shower will wash it just fine, there is no need to fiddle around with it to clean at all.


Really thats awesome......
YAY Cause I dont like fiddling....with it..


Catalicious....my DD had severe kidney reflux which has resulted in deadzones on one of her kidneys.

I am not sure that circ'ing would of helped? Jusy a thought a my girl had the same condition? All the information we were given from specialists in regards to the reflux noted that there is no evidence that circ'ing can reduce the effects? Maybe we recieved one sided advice? Not sure? I didn't take 100% notice as she is....well a girl:o



Really i recieved both sided advce one saying it needs to be done to help with infections and that no its not necessary at all.... but it isnt as bad as it was back then which Is why i wouldnt do it now but thought of it back then...

[kristi001]

:hugs: For You Darling!!

I Do Regret Not getting DS done when he was First Born but the subject was debated for so long that when we came to the decision it was too late!

We are now waiting for Bubbi No 2 to be born then if its another Boy we will get them both done at the same time if its a Girl DS will still be getting done.

:hugs: Again Darling

[catalicious]

Thats kristi!!!

Good Luck wth that!!

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Given the inability of some members to stay on topic this thread is now closed