"Perfect" timing?

[danielle13]

I've been thinking alot lately about starting on bub number 2.. :babydust2:

Do you think there's such a thing as "perfect timing" for starting ttc?
There are pro's and con's for having another soon, and ditto for waiting longer... so, if we wait for the perfect time is that realistic? Will we KNOW when the perfect time is?

Gosh thats a bit of nonsence dribble but I can't really explain what I'm asking.. :rolleyes:

What do you all think about this?

[chameleon]

I don't think there is such a thing as perfect timing, although some are better than others!

We've been waiting for the perfect timing to start trying for #2 for months now, and something keeps popping up so we keep waiting... the only thing is I really wanted my kids to be 2 years apart and DD will be two in a few months!

The other night we had a long talk and decided to start (finally!) even if it isn't absolutely perfect or we could be waiting forever. We came to the conclusion that we would prefer our kids to have a closer age gap then wait for every other factor in our life to be "just right".

[LittleMissyMoo]

I don't think its a matter of perfect timing, I think its a matter of are you ready?
A friend told us that if there are times when you still think you shouldn't then its not a good idea. If you think you would have no problems handling it then go for it :yes:

[Samaras Mummy]

No I dont think there is such a thing as perfect timing to start ttc.. It really all depends on when you are ready.

[leilani07]

Perfect timing is when you are wholly ready...........and that is an impossible call for anyone else to make for you. Good luck :)

[QTB]

Perfect timing is when you are wholly ready...........and that is an impossible call for anyone else to make for you. Good luck :)

:yes: I agree...

[stellarella]

In terms of maternal and foetal health I read somewhere that between 18 months an 5 years between pregnancies has the best maternal/baby outcomes, fewer pre-term babies etc.

We are TTC now with 15 months between.

[prideNJoy]

A quote taken from the book, Babies! by Dr. Christopher Green.

"Personally i like to see a gap of between eighteen months and three years. If less than eighteen months, it is usually too tough on a mother's physical and emotional strength; and if over three, the close comapnionship that i see as valuable is lost"

Also my thoughts on the matter of age gaps ^

[TeamAwesome]

I've got a 17month gap between my first two and will have a 22month gap between #2 and #3 and am finding physically I have coped much better this pregnancy then with my previous one (though I was able to prepare my body a bit more as this gap was planned where as the other one was a bit sooner then we expected)

however I'd say the "perfect" gap/timing to one family is not for another. It is up to you and your other half to determine when that is for you.

If we all waited for everything to be perfect we'd all wait a long time I think.

[MissSookyLaLa]

there is 18 month gaps between each of my siblings and i...so whiile i cant comment on how hard it was for my mum at the time, or how healthy we were as bubs- we are all healthy now, and we all LOVE the fact that we are so close to each other!