Dh Question!

[adelaideannie]

Does anyone elses DH sometimes think bd is a chore? How do you make it more romantic if this is so? Only had this problem one month with him but dont want it to happen again! Any ideas or other stories would be great!:idea: :idea:

[bubno1]

Does anyone elses Dh sometimes think bd is a chore? How do you make it more romantic if this is so? Only had this problem one month with him but dont want it to happen again! Any ideas or other stories would be great!:idea: :idea:

Hey! Yes - my hubby is like that sometimes... he used to complain we didnt' have enough sex - now it's ME trying to bd him!!! :) :) :) can't win hey!
Goodluck!!! :wizard:

[adelaideannie]

THANK GOD ITS NOT JUST ME! My dh is like that as well it used to be him asking for it now that it is me it's different DOH cant bloody win sometimes!:banghead: :banghead:

[bubno1]

THANK GOD ITS NOT JUST ME! My dh is like that as well it used to be him asking for it now that it is me it's different DOH cant bloody win sometimes!:banghead: :banghead:


Amen to that!!! I'm sure we're not the only ones out there too!!! gotta love them hey! :)

[Chelle123]

Don't tell him its O time, that immediately puts the pressure on, then surprise him with nice underwear, wine, a nice dinner, or whatever takes his fancy.

I went through this for the 6 months we were ttc and it ended up happening unexpectedly before O because he was going on his golf trip when O was due and I really didn't think it would happen.

[Katieflutterby]

Thank god im not the only one :) Yes, it is starting to feel like a chore to my DH too. After i O, its almost like "Thank god, now i can have a break!!!"

I think the 'not telling your DH when its time' is a good plan. I might try that next month if i dont get my BFP this time.

I also thought maybe if we are still trying next month, we could organise for a romantic getaway right around O time. Then its because you are in the mood cos you are on holidays, not because you have to! :yes:

[adelaideannie]

Yes true if I dont tell him it cuts the presure out doesn't it! Thanks for sharing guys thought I was the only one because men are sposed to want it all the time aren't they? He may get sus though if everyday for 6 days i say "hey baby lets get naked" or something to that tune he may just suspect its baby making time but I will try, ho hum that menas tommorrow on as I am cd 8 and my cycles are 25-28 days so :fingerscrossed: if hubby is in mood this week and weekend we catch the day.

[cheezelz]

Can you do something just for him in the bedroom. Men just know that you are only after one thing and have a certain thing on your mind. The thought of making a baby doesnt always get them turned on. In the end DH & I tried role playing and porn. Not for everyone I know but it worked for us:yelclap:

[jaydensmum]

Its funny how that happens to men when women are TTC. When women dont want it men do and when women want it the men dont. You just cant win! :no: :D Maybe spice it up with some sexy lingerie and candles with soft music, that always seems to get men into the mood! :yes:
Also try not to mention anything about ttc or baby related before doing the deed, it may turn him off the excitement!

[earthfairy]

I definitly agree with what everyone else has said....

We BD last weekend, the first time without protection since i m/c - DH felt under preassure & couldnt do it....

We sat down & talked about it & i told him that there is no preassure from me at all - lets just be 'normal' if you will & see what happens - no stress, no preassure....

The next night i just "pleased" him IYKWIM?:o that way he knew that i wasnt just in the mood to make a baby!

Youre definitley not alone hun:hugs:

[honeydew]

My DH is EXACTLY the same!! When we aren't ttc he wants it all the time and is complaining that he doesn't get it enough, yet when we are ttc and it is on tap 24/7 he is always 'too tired' or 'not in the mood'. It drives me bonkers! :hair: He usually knows when it's O time because I get so excited and tell him but I try not to make the first move and let him think that the bd'ing was his idea so that way there is no pressure!

[Tabby]

I make sure we do it regularly through out the whole month and DP never has a idea of O time where I sneak in a few more :thumbsup: He just thinks im in a horny mood lol