ADHD, ASD, ??? Parents plse

[Gloominous]

Hi, Can any parents with ADHD or ASD or I dont know waht shed some light on dealing with behaviour for me plse.

DD is 5 has speech language delay and attends a SEDU for this and suspected CAPD.

she is currently being seen by a pead who says she has mild autistic traits and prob ADHD or similar but we arnt going back there till november. although we are about to see a nurse counseller to help with behaviour I have issues NOW!

What do yo do when they are "losing it" do I smack/talk/ignore??? I really am at a loss and it's making for a horrible life for us all any help would be great appriceiated.

thanks

[bossoflatch]

i've sent you a pm :hugs:

[Can I?]

I hug if he will allow me to. Or put him somewhere safe and quiet until he has calmed a little himself, and then hug him. He isn't being naughty he is just blowing off steam. I will support him while he does it. It isn't a great time for learning, so I don't think talking would really help, and we don't smack at all.

We try to stop/prevent meltdowns before they happen. Watch and note down anything that starts one up and see what you can do to avoid or lessen its intensity. Our little guy is ASD and is easily over whelmed by noisy, busy places like shopping centres. We try not to take him and if we do we make it a quick trip. We put a hat on to lessen noise and light and sometimes use an MP3 player so he can listen to calming music instead of the background noise. Little changes like that have made all the difference.

Hang in there....it will get better. :yes:

[Josh]

Hi, Can any parents with ADHD or ASD or I dont know waht shed some light on dealing with behaviour for me plse.

DD is 5 has speech language delay and attends a SEDU for this and suspected CAPD.

she is currently being seen by a pead who says she has mild autistic traits and prob ADHD or similar but we arnt going back there till november. although we are about to see a nurse counseller to help with behaviour I have issues NOW!

What do yo do when they are "losing it" do I smack/talk/ignore??? I really am at a loss and it's making for a horrible life for us all any help would be great appriceiated.

thanks

I have 4yr old and i believe he is starting to show some signs of ADD, but my doc has told us that we have to wait till he goes to school to see if he has problems, but I;m having some issues at the moment with him, he is constantly frustrated by everything around him, he is also asthmatic, with the concerns about smacking I usually hold him really tight when he starts getting wired up, and i continue to hold him that way whilst talking to him the whole time , until he calms down, I never smack because that would make him worse. Good Luck i will be thinking of you.:yes:

[RaryGirl]

From all the classes/courses/experts we saw when DD was younger I was always told to ignore the behaviour, while at the same time keeping an eye on them to make sure they didn't hurt themselves. I was also taught to just repeat my instruction until they "got it" and then praise (and lots of it) for following my instructions.

It's so hard though and all I can offer you is an ear if you want to talk .... add me to msn if you ever just want someone you can vent to. :hugs:

[Gloominous]

thanks everyone, I see now that I have been going about it all wrong :o .