Behaves badly when friends come over

[Elfin]

I am all for playdates but lately when my son (8) has a friend come over to play he turns into a different person. He does things with the friend he knows he is not allowed to do, pesters for food/treats, is rude to me and acts smart, mean to his sisters and is just a general horror. Manners go out the window:hair:

It really makes me feel like he shouldn't have friends over anymore. I have warned him to be nice and he will say yeah yeah but when the friend is here he acts like a brat.

I just don't understand why he does it, is it just a phase, showing off or something else:confused:

[Nickster]

Hello my friend!

Going from my experience as a stepmum and from babysitting, I'd say he's just showing off to his friend.

You can do one of two things - ignore it and hope it passes, or warn him beforehand if he is disrespectful that his friend will be sent home. And do it - show him the consequence for his behaviour. Don't let him off the hook. You'd be surprised how quickly he becomes your respectful little man again!

I would like to pick option one, but I would probably go for option two. Simply because it works.

(Bet you never thought a hippy parent like me could be such a harda$$!)

Hugs to you - and we think it's hard enough when they're little babies!:hugs:

[Myztik]

I know exactly what you mean!! My 5.5yr old is a nightmare when he has friends over, he blatantly ignores me, does things he knows he's not allowed and is just a complete little snot.. Unfortunately I cop the attitude for the next 3 days following the friends visit too..
It's gottento the stage where he rarely gets friends over now.

[Elfin]

Thank you both luffly ladies for replying:)

I think you are both right it must be a showing off thing. Grrr it is annoying though!

LOL Nic, send the friend home what happens if the mum is here too:D Hmm that could be a good idea:yes:

Mystik can't believe you cop the attitude for days after. At least DS returns to normal as soon as the friend is gone.

Kids!

[MrsDribbleDrawers]

You could be talking about my kids!!

I think it's just showing off, and while the stern warning doesn't always work, they both return to normal when said friend leaves, so we just ignore it now... stresses us too much, and we're bad at not following through on the "behave or we'll tale so-and-so home"

Cate

[clgcsmum]

Sounds exactly like my boys as well, My son went to stay with his cousin on the weekend hae was meant to come home on Sunday he went on Friday but my sister brought him home sat as my nephew was being a real pain, We wont let the boys have freinds over at the moment as they are on punishment for a week for doing the same thing when they had freinds here last week.

[Myztik]

Mystik can't believe you cop the attitude for days after. At least DS returns to normal as soon as the friend is gone.


It is always worse when one particular little boy comes over.. I dont particularly like the kid but am friends with his mum and he has known my ds since they were not even 2yrs old. I dont want to ban them from seeing each other but I cant handle the :devil6: child I end up with.