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Any advice or stories to ensure that children grow up at least knowing about loved ones who have passed. I was "Nana Deborah" to be a part of Cobey's life even though she's not here.. a thread about losing a mother has made me think (once more)
Not the same thing I know but Riley's Oma lives in NZ.He still too little to understand but I always show him pictures and talk about her.Worked well coz he saw her for the wedding and immediatley recognised her and started calling her OMA after a day!
Lots of pictures around the place helps.And I remember,ever since I can remember,Mum pointing out the brightest star in the sky and telling us it was Camden(my bro who died at 11 weeks)
That has ALWAYS stuck with me,and I still search for that star even now.
Dont know if this helps hun but thought I would suggest it:hugs:
yeah, I had grandies in NZ but had no idea how I knew about them LOL
My mum's dad died when I was one or two and I don't know how I knew, but I knew I had a Grandad Doug...
No idea :laughing:
Im in the same situation as Chelle. My mum lives overseas and Jake has only seen her once.
We have lots of photos around of her, and i always make sure i point it out. he knows that she is Nanna.
Give me a few days and ill get back to you with some really good books, that are written for children.
I tell Eliza she has an Uncle in heaven who looks after us, and that he was a special boy and baby Jesus needed him now. When you say heaven to her she points to the sky.
Mum has always kept a photo in her lounge of my pop.
My younger brother never got to met my Pop, he passed a year before he was born.
We talk about him heaps and always made my brother know what kind of person he was. In a spooky way, my Brother is a lot like my Pop in regards to the abilities he can do, i.e electronics and working out how things work and fixing things, it's very spooky.
Talk about them, show them pictures, make them part of every day !
We talk about my dad quite a lot & i tell Boof lots of stuff about him etc. Same with my gramps.
Its bloomin hard but i think following those steps is a start & my other thing is making sure my family tree is being done. Im adding stories etc to them so that both Boof & Squeak when they are older can read about our family, past & present.
I have photos on the wall of mum, in fact I have photos of heaps of people and he can nearly names them all (My favourite is "Aunty Meow...." yup, her name is Cat.) I actually hadn't taken him to "Nana" and asked who that is.
I am making him a scrapbook (wel when I have time) called Poeple Who Love Me.. I was going to put Nana into that one too for him.
and I have a billion and 6 stories to tell him when he's growing up.. :)
Thanks, you've given me some great ideas and it feels less of a hard burdon.
Keep 'em coming though.
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