Talking about Lost Loved ones with children

[Seekrit]

Any advice or stories to ensure that children grow up at least knowing about loved ones who have passed. I was "Nana Deborah" to be a part of Cobey's life even though she's not here.. a thread about losing a mother has made me think (once more)

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Cheers.

[*Chels*]

Not the same thing I know but Riley's Oma lives in NZ.He still too little to understand but I always show him pictures and talk about her.Worked well coz he saw her for the wedding and immediatley recognised her and started calling her OMA after a day!
Lots of pictures around the place helps.And I remember,ever since I can remember,Mum pointing out the brightest star in the sky and telling us it was Camden(my bro who died at 11 weeks)
That has ALWAYS stuck with me,and I still search for that star even now.
Dont know if this helps hun but thought I would suggest it:hugs:

[Seekrit]

yeah, I had grandies in NZ but had no idea how I knew about them LOL
My mum's dad died when I was one or two and I don't know how I knew, but I knew I had a Grandad Doug...

No idea :laughing:

[Percy]

Im in the same situation as Chelle. My mum lives overseas and Jake has only seen her once.

We have lots of photos around of her, and i always make sure i point it out. he knows that she is Nanna.

Give me a few days and ill get back to you with some really good books, that are written for children.

[Pixie]

I tell Eliza she has an Uncle in heaven who looks after us, and that he was a special boy and baby Jesus needed him now. When you say heaven to her she points to the sky.

[Mahjong]

Mum has always kept a photo in her lounge of my pop.

My younger brother never got to met my Pop, he passed a year before he was born.

We talk about him heaps and always made my brother know what kind of person he was. In a spooky way, my Brother is a lot like my Pop in regards to the abilities he can do, i.e electronics and working out how things work and fixing things, it's very spooky.

[reAllytee]

Talk about them, show them pictures, make them part of every day !

We talk about my dad quite a lot & i tell Boof lots of stuff about him etc. Same with my gramps.

Its bloomin hard but i think following those steps is a start & my other thing is making sure my family tree is being done. Im adding stories etc to them so that both Boof & Squeak when they are older can read about our family, past & present.

[Seekrit]

Thanks guys.
I have photos on the wall of mum, in fact I have photos of heaps of people and he can nearly names them all (My favourite is "Aunty Meow...." yup, her name is Cat.) I actually hadn't taken him to "Nana" and asked who that is.

I am making him a scrapbook (wel when I have time) called Poeple Who Love Me.. I was going to put Nana into that one too for him.

and I have a billion and 6 stories to tell him when he's growing up.. :)

Thanks, you've given me some great ideas and it feels less of a hard burdon.

Keep 'em coming though.