When do you know to seek help?

[SassyMummy]

How do you know when to seek help and where to seek it?

I'm such an angry person lately, and the tiniest things that me mentally throttling people.

I don't want ot play with DD... in fact, I want her to go away and be quiet and leave me alone... and now this has gone on for months. I just want her to go away. I want her around me SOME of the time, but most of hte time I just want her to be quiet and leave me alone.

I don't have hte motivation to do ANYTHING... It takes me several hours before I even go and have a shower after I get up... and I'm hardly doing any housework.

Most of hte time I just want to cry, or yell.

I'm so angry and I just don't know what to do.

[punkbaby]

Probably too upfront but to me it sounds like you need some support :) and your asking for some you know that you need it as well :)

I would chat to your gp and see if he can refer you to a counsellor or psych sometimes just talking to someone and learning how to deal with how your feeling can make a huge difference :)

Hopefully your gp can put you onto someone who can help good luck

[Mmm Dessert]

Hi Stacey,

I think from your post you already know that you need some help.

Do you have someone around who can take DD off your hands for a few hours, or does she go to day care or anything like that to give you a break?

As PB said, maybe you could speak to your GP to get a referral to a counsellor if you want to go down that road. There are plenty of free counselling services, and phone counselling, if you think that just chatting to someone about what's going on will help.

Hope things work out for you soon.

[cwsmum]

I don't want ot play with DD... in fact, I want her to go away and be quiet and leave me alone... and now this has gone on for months. I just want her to go away. I want her around me SOME of the time, but most of hte time I just want her to be quiet and leave me alone.

I don't have hte motivation to do ANYTHING... It takes me several hours before I even go and have a shower after I get up... and I'm hardly doing any housework.
:hugs: this sounds alot like me...I go for mths like this then all of a sudden I'm all happy and motivated again. If you are like this all the time and nothing really changes your mood then definatly speak to your gp.

But for now, some of the things that help put me in a better mood are things like getting out of the house, even if it's just going to the park for half an hour where the kids can run around and I don't have to deal with them at all (other than to make sure they aren't going to get hurt of course). Sometimes we go for a walk to the toy shop and I get the kids a new toy each (naughty I know but I average about $5 on each of them so it's not like they are getting huge toys whenever I'm in a bad mood). It doesn't really matter what shop we go to, even the fruit & vege shop works, I just let the kids pick out some fruit to have for lunch and if they are good then they get a poppa or something for the walk home.

We often have lazy days where I just don't bother showering til DH is almost home, so usually about 4-5pm, I also bath the kids at this time. I ignore the housework (except for the dishes), the kids pretty much do as they please, as long as they aren't damaging anything. Then after we shower & DH gets home he helps the kids clean up (one less thing for me to argue with the kids about) and I make dinner.

:hugs: hope you feel happier soon :hugs:

[TwoBlue]

Firstly :hugs: I know exactly how you feel

Secondly .. SEEK help NOW !!
Dont wait another moment.. dont live the horrible life that anger causes one more minute !!

After almost a year of crippling anger I finally sought help via my GP... It was discovered that I was depressed which caused my anger. I was put on meds and although that doesnt make me thrilled it HAS made my life so much better ...

I still have a long way to go and a long road to travel but I know i am heading down the righ path at least

:hugs: again... PM me anytime

[ButterflyMama]

Go and talk to your GP. It isn't normal to feel this way, you should get some help.

[RainbowStars]

I would definitely see your gp :thumbsup:

Maybe you could consider getting a simple casual job and sending DD to daycare?

That way you can have some more social contact with others and DD can aswell. She may be feeling bored at home, and that would be affecting you too.

[Lollie86]

Definately talk to your GP to refer you to someone. It doesnt mean you have PND or are depressed, sometimes you just need to talk it all out.

I feel the same way you do sometimes (actually most of the time) and i'm slowly building up the nerve to go speak to my GP.

It has been a few months for me now too and Im getting to the point where I either seek help or prepare to stay like this forever.

In the meantime, try getting out of the house once a day. I try and go for a walk to the newsagency and read the new mags. Otherwise even going to the letterbox and sitting in the front yard might help. Your DD can have some fun while you soak up the sun (or rain :laughing: ).

Hope your feeling better soon. :hugs:

[mumoftwo74]

Hi, I have days/hours/moments where I feel exactly the same as you do. And I feel so guilty for it. My 4 year old seems like a burden sometimes, and I know I shouldn't feel that way. She is so sweet most of the time but needs so much attention and stimulation that when my bub is playing up I get so angry at her for the littlest things. Good luck with it all. If you ever want to chat to someone who has days like you do please feel free to PM me. Motherhood is the toughest job on earth that's for certain, but its also the most rewarding....I just sometimes forget the last part of that sentence! Take care, and I hope you are feeling a little better :hugs:

[Chickadee]

How do you know when to seek help and where to seek it?

I knew to seek help when I realised that my anger (and unhappiness) was affecting my ability to be a mother to DD, but more importantly, it was affecting DD herself and making her sad.

Starting points for getting help might be your GP. Your maternal & child health nurse if you still see her. A minister or pastor of your church. Lifeline (http://www.lifeline.org.au/)(13 11 14). PANDA (http://www.panda.org.au/). Beyondblue. (http://www.beyondblue.org.au/) Or just a friend who can help you through the maze. :hugs:

[LivinOnAPrayer]

Reading this whole thread may have just solved my problem. I've been angry for a very long time, and its getting worse by the day. I thought it was just how I am but now I see its not normal and that my life can be so much better. I'm going to log off and call the dr right now. Thankyou everyone for being so honest. I'm sure alot more people appreciate it too.
Best of luck to everyone! :hugs:

[Chickadee]

Lexi, Good for you! :yelclap: Life is too short to spend it in anger :yes: