going mentally insane

[veve]

ok .. so .. maybe I'm NOT going completely insane .. but every night atm its the SAME battle ..

two minute warning ... one minute warning .. teeth/ story (either order, he LOVES both) - tuck in - prayer - silly (love) song .. kisses .. hugs .. leave the room .. (he has dummy - two toys- books)

sigh ..

I'm not looking for a magic solution - I'm trying everything from praise to discipline atm .. and being as consistent as we can .. but he is SMART now .. see he is WAY too clever - he has excuses .. and requests to get out of bed (mumma - potty ... mumma - shirt on .. mumma shirt off .. mumma water/ milk ) sigh ..

I just wanted to say a BIG :banghead: :banghead: :hair: :hair: I know he will give up .. that eventually he will settle better - he USED to be awesome .. but .. well .. just give me sympathy posts .. :laughing:

xx
Jen

[Seekrit]

aww sympathy. mountains and mountains of sympathy. here's some more sympathy and here's some violins
:hugs: that's what you get for having a gifted child :p

[veve]

aww sympathy. mountains and mountains of sympathy. here's some more sympathy and here's some violins
:hugs: that's what you get for having a gifted child :p
*clears throat* ummm not REALLY the sympathy I was looking for .. little TOOO high in sarcasm content :p

but on a lighter note - you FINALLY admitted in writing .. that my child is indeed gifted :laughing:

its quiet .. I'm scared to go check him (we just finished tears) .. sigh

[OJandMe]

:laughing: sounds like one of mine.

I hear it all every night.

Mummy water, more milk, wet, new nappy, eye hurts, feel sick, puppy (his teddy), woof (his dog rug that sits on his bed), tuck in blanket, open door, close door, music on...etc etc etc....

Now I just say... "Oliver. it's bedtime. I'm going now and I'm not coming back. I love you very much, I'll see you in the morning. (lots of kisses and hugs) Goodnight."

And then I don't come back.... if he comes out I say "Oliver, sleep. " and I take him back, tuck him in and go... and I just repeat that until he gets it.


he doesn't come out any more.

[Seekrit]

Awww

if it helps you any, about 20 minutes ago I put my just about asleep child in his bed, he lay still, I covered him with his sheet then strolled out here.. opened the hub, opened a can of diet coke... then thought I'd better check him.. went in.. he was missing :eek:
the little bugger had slipped out of bed, walked down the hallway and into the spare room before I even had a chance to look! :eek:

(although he is now asleep)

[SilverStarfish]

:hugs: :hugs: Lots of sympathy :hugs: :hugs:

Truckloads of it! It makes me ever so grateful that (at the moment!) bedtimes are not too big of a drama here.

It WILL pass eventually. :fingerscrossed:

[veve]

thanks seek .. and oj&m ... and faeml :)

seek - apparently mum used to find my brother and I all around our rooms .. including UNDER our beds when she went to check on us .. sigh .. hope THAT isn't genetic ..

Jack is staying in bed atm .. but I'm going in every three mins or so .. and just praising him for being quiet .. (extra hug etc .. mumma is very happy ) - but COME ON .. this is mummy time .. its NINE PM .. go to SLEEEEEEEEEEEEEP!!

xx
Jen

[Kizmet]

We are having massive sleep issues here too! DD is 18 months old and we have not moved her from her cot to the big girl bed yet as we are having so many sleep issues and we tried it for a few days and found that her being able to get out of bed hyped her up even more. It excited her that she controlled her own destiny so to speak.

We follow the routine, somewhat similar to yours, and she just absolutely screams her head off or kicks the cot or shouts out to you to get her up.

I read Kaz Cooke's kid wrangling toddler sleeping issues section last night to try to gain some insight as to why our previous sleeping 12 hours a night no issues angel has suddenly turned crazy at bed time. Basically, All I got from it was at the toddler age and stage they try to assert their independance and it is more of a "you dont tell me when I go to bed I tell me when I go to bed" type thing. It says to anticipate their excuses for getting out of bed in their bedtime routine. You said your DS says things like " Mummy-potty" or "mumma-water/milk" so their suggestion is to make sure you put him on the potty just before you take him to bed and when he requests to get up reinforce that he has just gone to the potty. They also say to put the potty next to his bed so if he persists that he needs to go to the potty you tell him "you can go to the potty next to your bed" so as to not let him have the satisfaction of being taken out of his room. She says to put a glass of milk/water next to the bed in your bedtime routine so he can't use that as an excuse too. Basically preparation and anticipation is the key in this book.

I made sure everything was prepared tonight so there were no reasons for DD to need to be brought out of her room. BUt we also cut her daytime nap down an hour and she had active play ALL day today so she was completely exhausted after her bath. I am proud to report that she was put into her cot and we havent heard a peep out of her since :smiliedance:

Seems the only thing that will work for us is cutting down her nap from 2 hours to 1 and making sure she has so much active play she is exhausted!

Hope I havent dribbled on too much :o

[Tam-I-Am]

Sympathy galore.:hugs: So wish you had a child like mine, who, after bath, teeth, nappy song, into grobag, bedtime song and cuddles with me and her teddy - goes straight to sleep. Every night.


:p

[Tam-I-Am]

Oh, and is there a DIFFERENT way of going insane? Other than mentally, I mean???

:p

[cwsmum]

See, this is why DD is still in a cot :D I'm sure I'll have to deal with it again at some stage tho.

DS used to get out of bed alot, so every night when I tucked him into bed I would ask him a heap of questions...'do you need a drink?','do you need to go to the toilet?' , 'are you warm enough?'...and anything else he had thought of the night before as an excuse to get out of his bed. We did start to leave a small drinkbottle beside his bed, but that was only in the summer when he started to wake thru the night thirsty.
Most nights we just kept taking him back to bed. The first time he got up he would get more cuddles, but if he got up after that then we would just walk him back to his room and not say anything at all.

Oh, another thing that worked was to tell him that if he stayed in his bed then we would come back in 5mins and give him another kiss & cuddle. After that first 5mins we would go back in, give kisses, etc then tell him we would be back in 5mins again (but really not go back for closer to 10mins, then 15, etc) if he got up then the time started over again.

[veve]

Hope I havent dribbled on too much :o

dont worry about the dribble :laughing: thanks !!


Sympathy galore.
So wish you had a child like mine, who, after bath, teeth, nappy song, into grobag, bedtime song and cuddles with me and her teddy - goes straight to sleep. Every night.

shut up :p


Oh, and is there a DIFFERENT way of going insane? Other than mentally, I mean???

sure there is !!! *twitch twitch* :p


Oh, another thing that worked was to tell him that if he stayed in his bed then we would come back in 5mins and give him another kiss & cuddle. After that first 5mins we would go back in, give kisses, etc then tell him we would be back in 5mins again (but really not go back for closer to 10mins, then 15, etc) if he got up then the time started over again.

yup - this is where we are .. atm .. I just cant leave it for more than 3 or so mins .. or he comes looking for me!!!

xx
Jen

[SilverStarfish]

Oh, and is there a DIFFERENT way of going insane? Other than mentally, I mean???

:p


I thought that too :o

Well, at least eventually he'll be old enough to take his own shirt on and off... so there is hope :fingerscrossed:

[Seekrit]

I KNOW!
Criminally insane

[veve]

just thought I let you know .. he lost the battle at 9:30 tonight ... FINALLY :yelclap:

[Kizmet]

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