Help please!

[Needyourhelp]

I don't know if this is the right section but anyways, I am a regular bubhubber but due to circumstances I cannot post this under my name in case my ex comes across it.

Here is a little background info first...

My exdp is a muslim and although he is not a big part of our sons life he seems to think that our son HAS to be circumcised and has made threats saying that if I do not get it done then that is disrespecting his wishes and he will take our child from me... I have read all the info you guys have on here and do not want it done but I am so scared to go against his wishes because I know that he will take him:crying:

I dunno what the heck to do!:confused:

[HugsAndKisses]

I realise you must be very worried your partner will take your child from you but legally i dont think he can unless he goes for custody which even then i thiink its a slim chance of him winning as the mother is generally awarded custody....but back on topic, i say stick to what you beleive in and if you do not wish to have your son circumsized then really he cant do much about it except make threats...and if he is threatening to take your child maybe you should seek legal advice....hope this helps:hugs: do wats best for you and your son that is your duty:yes:

[Needyourhelp]

Thats the thing though he wouldn't take him through the legal system... And when he makes threats it is always to my face so I have no proof.

[punkbaby]

I would be seeking legal action so its on paper that your son resides with you , something like a residency order. Does he have access is it just verbal? Do you think he would just take him and run off with him when you say that he wouldnt take him through the legal system?

Best to get things sorted now so your covered and your son are covered as well

[punkbaby]

Thats the thing though he wouldn't take him through the legal system... And when he makes threats it is always to my face so I have no proof.
You need to keep a diary and record of when he makes these threats, phone calls etc as well too :)

[serendipity22]

He is a bully and you need to stand your ground.

Many circumcised men feel insecure about having a normal son. They are not always rational.

Threats need to be taken seriously. Abduction is a criminal offense.

I would get legal advice and have a plan ready in case he does what he says. Get the police ready to arrest him.

He is more likely to carry out his threat if he is weak at exploring alternatives and possibilities.

[MotherNurture]

Do you have something similar to a protective or restraining order available in Australia? That might be an option. Another option, if you're not married, is not putting his name on the birth certificate. Attorney's for the Rights of the Child (http://arclaw.org/) is an American organization, but they may have legal referrals for Australia.

It is my understanding that Muslim circumcision isn't exactly a religious edict, either; it's an issue of hygiene and being 'clean enough' to pray. This can certainly be accomplished non-surgically. :)

I agree with others, stand your ground and protect your son---the same as you would a daughter. After all, some Muslims practice female circumcision, too. I also agree that it's a good idea to keep a diary to keep track of threats (that's exactly what his manipulative demands are), and save any abusive phone or answering machine massages as well.

You may also want to contact local organizations that assist women in abusive relationships, they may be able to offer you advice, legal counsel, and other help.

Best wishes,

Jen

[jessaboo]

definately please do what these ladies are saying and start keeping a diary. I wish i had someone to turn to when my ex took my daughter, as far as the police see it it is not abduction until there are court orders in place. also without wanting to put you on a downer, you need to respect the fact that he is your child's father and he has rights too. When i took my ex to court after he took my DD from me he got as much rights as i did. There is no such thing anymore as sole cusody and the mother doesn't always get complete residency. The courts try and keep it to a 50 50 residency..