Miscarriage

[Jade's Mum]

Am I the only one paranoid about it? I feel sickened everytime i scroll down to the "when are you due?" area of the forum as a few sections above is the "support after pregnancy loss" part. And I just beg to God everytime i see it that i never have to write a post in there. Why am I so worried? I have no reason to be, none. I saw bubs 2 days ago and he/she was perfectly healthy. My symptoms haven't stopped, i've had no bleeding, everything has been a breeze.
But yesterday I went out to the shops and told myself i was going to buy an item for bubs, a jumpsuit or a bottle or a dummy or face washers or bibs or SOMETHING! But i couldn't do it "what if i lose it?" I feel like i've been 8 weeks pregnant for months. I just want the first trimester will be over, but even then there's still a chance. I don't know if i could survive another 7 months worrying like this. I can't enjoy my pregnancy because i'm always so worried.
I already have a box full of bub stuff that my mother-in-law brought me, and afew things i had gotten myself and that was when i was only 5 weeks!
When i see everybody elses tickers getting down to 29 - 28 weeks to go i feel terrible because i feel like mine has read 31 weeks for yonks.
Why can't i be happy? why am i worrying? is it a sign? or is it me just being absolutely stupid?
Please help:gloomy:

[mumneedshelp]

I am not due in april, but i wanted to say try not to stress. Everyone worries about this its normal to want to protect your little bubby.

[PunkyDiva]

:hugs: Totally normal feelings but you are young and healthy so I'm sure all will be fine.
I've had many m/c now so am a little paranoid but have learnt to accept there is not a lot I can do to stop it happening. Don't go wishing your pregnancy away, bubs will be here soon enough. Treat yourself to a relaxing massage or even manicure/pedicure or facial or do yoga to help manage stress/anxiety.

[Dejeane]

liddy

what you are feeling is soo normal its just not true. i know as i had a mc last year in september (luckily i was only 6weeks pg) its not nice going through something like that. im now 14 weeks and saw bub twice and all is well with a heart beating strongly and growing healthily. so im too very stressed about it. but i had to start thinking positively for my and bubs sake. the unfortunate thing is that thinking about mc all the time takes all the joy our of your blessed pg. its a mindsetting you have to change and tell yourself that bub is doing fine and growing healthily. you had your scan 2 days ago and knows everything is good.

im wondering if it may be a reason for you that you are still young and in a way scared of what is to happen when bub is here, i may be wrong, im not a shrink.

remember your mind is a very powerfull tool in life and if you set your mind on not having a mc and rather focus on your healthy pg journey and bub growing healthily then all will be good. focus on your growing belly and holding your bub in your arms and breastfeeding bub. you are young and vibrant and you dont need to worry about having a mc. you nor bub needs the stress. please try and relax and enjoy the changes in your body. its sometimes a one in a lifetime oppertunity and you have to embrace it and enjoy it utterly.

(think im also speaking or typing to myself here - so please bear with me)

hope you feel better soon.

DJ

[Jade's Mum]

Thanks girls,
DJ i think you're right, I haven't taken the time to appreciate the miracle me and Jason have produced. All i've done is stress from the moment i found out, i haven't pampered myself or tried any form of coping with my stress. I'm also wondering if part of the reason for this is my doctors lack of care, he's not really explained anything for me.
I am very young, but that in itself should be a reason for me not to stress, i'm a healthy person, im a healthy weight, have a healthy diet, always have.. i come from a healthy bubby family, and so does Jason. I think my fear of miscarriage is my fear of being alone. Having this bub in me has made me feel like somebody is always there for me! And its something i needed. I keep telling myself "there is NO reasons for you to stress" when i hear my sister in law tell me of all the baby problems in her family i just feel selfish for worrying about my baby when i have no reason to.
But i just end up defining it down to "it can happen to anybody at anytime and there can be no signs that it happened" even though that is so rare that my doctor looked at me like i was the most paranoid idiot in the entire world.

I also think not having much support from the father hasn't helped me "stress less".
I just want things to be ok, i just want to give birth to a beautiful healthy baby.. i just have to start believing i will.:rolleyes:

[Jamily]

Liddy,

I think all the stress of pregnancy is just practice for being a Mummy - the worry only seems to get worse when they are born!

I know exactly how you feel and strangely I was more paranoid about m/c in my second pregnancy - I just couldn't believe that if I was lucky enough to have a problem free and easy first preg, then my second would be the same. Well, as it turns out you can just breeze through pregs as I have 2 beautiful children to show for it.

Good luck and enjoy your pregnancy! You may think its dragging now, but when your bub arrives you will wonder where the time went!

:)