Urgent Advice Please

[LusciousMum23]

Hi , In need of advice on a situation .

As you know my DH moved out. As he has been on days off from work he went & stayed with his parents (they live quite a while away) but when he has to return to work later this week he has nowhere to stay & informed me today he will be staying in our shed/granny unit until he finds somewhere else.....which could be weeks away:gloomy:

I said No as it is too hard for me & definately too confusing for the kids. Plus I have to see Centrelink this week about parenting payment.

WTF can I do? He said as long as he is paying the bills he'll do as he wants. He's calling all the shots.
I haven't rung Legal aid as I don't want him to get nasty at me. He'll try to get the kids more often (when he does find a house) & I'm gonna just die to have them not here with me a couple of days a week as it is :crying:.

He just doesn't get that him being around like this is not gonna work.

Thanx :hugs:

[Grizabella]

I would still ring legal aide Hun. Better to have legal help and moves already inplace then leaving yourslef legally unprotected just in case he's a d!ck about it all.

Not sure whether he can live there or not - another reason why giving Legal Aide a call would be good.

So sorry you have to deal with this though and I hope you get it sorted out.

[the_original_duchess]

honestly its just too bad for him. my advice is ring legal aide asap. he has no right to be there. he walked out on you and he doesnt deserve to call the shots. you are the one who have been put into this situation against your will, so you should be telling him when he is ALLOWED to come over. dont let him there. if thats a problem, then too freaking bad for him. trust me, grant stayed here for a few days after he left for good, and it only upset the kids more that they were.
just my opinion, but i think he shouldnt be there with you. he is a jerk.

[SweetAngels]

I just went thru this with my ex, he wasn't going to move out cause he pays bills too :ecomcity: also legally if he does pay (whether house is in your name and you pay rent, which was our situation) he can't be made to leave the property, sorry, prob not what you want to hear.

Stay strong and calm for your kids, sorry you are having to go thru this too :hugs:

[Issey]

When you see Centrelink you won't need him to help pay the normal bills:yes: .

At some point you will have to take that on board as when he has his own place he won't be able to anyway, unless he is in a good financial position to do so.

If the locks are changed it is break and enter.