Single Mum with 9 months old Baby

[Cian's Mum]

Hi Ladies ...

Well , a year and a half ago , I started a thread about my journey with IVF . In the mean time , I got pregnant with my adorable miracle IVF Son ... and now I'm starting a thread with me being a single Mum ... believe me , I'm not proud of it but I will feel better after writing this little post ...

Yes , my Little Man is 9 months old . Few weeks after his birth I had an accident wich enable me to look after him . I became dependant of my husband and that's when things started to go wrong ... very wrong .

I won't tell you why ... no point ... but basically I needed care , compation and help and I DID NOT HAPPEN ...

So here I am now calling CSA , Centrelink ... all this stuff that I had no idea about and on the top of everything , having my Family overseas does not help me much at all !!!

Thank you for listening ... I mean thank you for reading my post ...

[V8]

Hi there, sorry to hear of your unfortunate circumstances, are you able to take care of your son now, have you recovered from your accident? Where abouts are you in Aus?

[SweetAngels]

I'm so sorry for what you went thru hun :hugs: be sure to ask those close to you for help or support, must people love to help, as this is what I have found but you are strong enuff to get thru this for your son and yourself, just by becoming a single parent rather then staying in something that was causing you sadness shows how strong you are.

You may not have your family, but you sure do got the hub!

[Issey]

:hugs: sorry to hear you are going through this.

my first thoughts are is there any chance of a reconciliation, counselling to help you through your relationship issues. Sounds like your DH couldn't cope with the changes. A break may help him open his eyes to his loss.

Sending you big :hugs: . There are heaps of lovely ladies on here that will support you through this. Post whenever you need it :hugs:

[Tulp]

:hugs: sorry about what you're going through. Hope all pans out. Stay strong.

[Cian's Mum]

Thanks Ladies ... you are sweet ...

V8 : Yes , I am fine now after 6 months of hard physio . Thank you very much for asking . I can look after Cian and myself now :thumbsup: .I'm from Melbourne in a nice area .

rarefire , Tulp: Thank you too for your nice words ...

Debster : We had councelling for few months which ( believe it or not ) made things worse !!!! YEP ... you got it right , DH could not cope with the changes .. and the responsabilities ...

Take care .

[Mum2Bug]

Cian's Mum :hugs:

Firstly I would just like to welcome you to our lovely group. I am sorry to hear that you have been through such a rough time over the past few months. It is unfortunate that your hubby was unable to cope with the changes and pressures after your accident, as you would have needed so much support and love from him at such a hard time.

Feel free to chat to us anytime. I hope that we can help make your life a little easier by being a shoulder for you as you begin your new journey with your gorgeous son.

[Chanelc]

Sorry to hear yet congratulations on your success with IVF... that is a blessing. Vent as much as you like we are hear to listen

[Cian's Mum]

AGAIN , thanks a lot Ladies for your sweet words ...

I feel much better now and I have got my self organized now . Cian is playing a lot more by himself which gives me some time to do few things around the house as well .

I make sure that I go out everyday to see someone or do something otherwise I go :banghead: between my four walls .

Don't get me wrong , Cian is a gorgeous little boy , but I need ( I mean WE need ) to see something else ...

A question about CSA : my DH will be collected from CSA in few weeks time and I will receive the first collection in 1 month . BUT , I forgot to ask them : who will help me to provide for Cian in the mean time ??? until the first collection ??? can anyone help me on this one ?

Thanks for listening Ladies .:yes:
Have a great week end .

[Amberlea]

I forgot to ask them : who will help me to provide for Cian in the mean time ??? until the first collection ??? can anyone help me on this one ?


Centrelink will provide you with payments immediately - Single Parenting Payment and Family Assistance Payments.
You said that you had/were going to see them - so if you havent already done so.. go and see them asap and they will organise your payments for you.


Welcome to Single Mums btw - if you ever need anything all the girls here will be only too happy to help, even if you just need a shoulder.

[Cian's Mum]

Amberlea : thank you very much for your welcome and your answer .

I already have received Centrelink payment ( that was really quick ) but I was wondering about the child support payment . I suppose Cian and I will use the Tax B and and B until next months until his Dad gives the proper money support ... does that make sense or I am :idea: ????

[Amberlea]

You will still get the tax A and B even when your ex pays you his maintenance... the amounts will just drop slightly to counteract whatever it is that he pays.

Make sure you inform centrelink of the amount that he is paying you each month if you havent already, or you will end up having to pay money back to them if it hasnt been adjusted accordingly.

Family Tax A and B are there to help parents out regardless if they either receive maintenance or not.
(its not just for single parent families)

[Cian's Mum]

Thanks a lot for your answer Amberlea , I will let you know how things are going !