Ready to Donate

[tejaslove]

Hi, I am new to this site, so a little history on what brings me here is probably in order. I am seperated with 2 beautiful children. Several months ago I offered my eggs to an acquantaince, I was contacted by her last week asking if I was serious and if the offer still stood. My reply was a big YES. She needs to discuss this with her husband and will get back to me. My fear is that they will not want to go ahead now that my heart is set on doing this.

I suppose I am doing this in part for selfish reasons, to know that I can help another person makes me feel good, to give somebody else the chance to feel as I did when I first held my children would be my biggest gratification in life.

I would love to here from other donors, are my reasons for wanting to give the right ones.

I should add that I am not advertising my eggs, if my dreams do not come true I will then take the right steps to ensure that I legally and appropriately go about finding a recipient

[rachwantsababy]

Hi,

Im sorry I cant answer from a donors point of view, however I can answer based from a view of someone needing egg/embryo donation.

What you are doing is the most selfless act, amazing beautiful wonderful thing you could ever do for a couple who are unable to conceive naturally. From my point of view and others that I have read up on, the only problem that can sometimes occur when you know the person you are donating to, is that you feel a part of the child, and that its hard to let them go, you will always feel like they are yours, however councelling is mandatory for egg donation and they will go through those issues with you.

I wish you all the very best, and dont ever forget what a special person you are for doing such a wonderful amazing thing.

[wa mum of 4]

Hey there newby,

Well I am a donor and I cant give a difinitive answer to why I decided to donate.
I guess it made me feel absolutly awful that there was women out there unable to feel the joy I have with my 4 children.

I am very happy with my donation and now have a wonderful friendship with the recip's.

I guess it is a emotional state of mind and decision that only a few women can cope with.

I hope your donation goes as well as mine did.
:hugs:
Sarah

[cheekee]

Hi there tejaslove. As a donor angel I am sure you will be rewarded a thousand times over. To donate such a precious gift to another takes courage and un questionable kindness. Your wish to donate is definitely from the heart. Best wishes in your journey I hope everything goes well for you. Best wishes for much happiness to come your way.

[tejaslove]

The more I read the posts in this forum the more I am determined to go ahead with donating. Am I able to get started on the journey before having a recipient. I have not heard back from the couple that approached me and want to make sure that I am able to donate before I get my hopes any higher.

[tejaslove]

Well I have now heard from the couple and we have an appointment next month at the clinic. Hopefully I will be accepted.

[motherinwaiting]

Good on you for you thinking of giving joy to childless couples (or singles). Although I am not a donor, I can only thank you for wanting other women to enjoy motherhood. Good luck with your appointments and journey.
motherinwaiting.

[stevenandjulia]

Great to hear from people who have been donors or are considering donation. It is giving us some hope that we will find an equally generous person to help us.

Steven and Julia:smiliedance:

[tejaslove]

We have our first appointment at the clinic on Wednesday, I am so excited and I hope I am able to make my recipients dreams come true.

[Cherisheddreams]

I am new to this site and agree with stevenandjulia, it is great to hear from donors, it gives you so much hope.
This is a very courageous, caring and unselfish thing to do. I wish you and your recipients
the best of luck and hope that you are able to fulfill their dreams!

[tejaslove]

My first appointment went well. I had bloods done and an ultrasound that showed I was in working order. I have my next appointment with the nurse and councillor on Wednesday. I am so excited. If all goes to plan we are looking at harvest in early December. So fingers crossed my recipient will get a :bfp: for Christmas.

[kandd]

Hi Tejaslove,

Just wanted to drop in and wish you all the best for early December and :fingerscrossed: for a BFP for Christmas.

As a recipient - I understand how happy you have made a couple by simply giving them the opportunity to fulfil their dreams.

I congratulate you for your generosity and willingness to share your story with others.

Diana xx

[tejaslove]

I had my appointment with the nurse and councillor today. On the nurse side if things I was not surprised by anything, just feel ready to go. If all goes to plan we will start cycling in a couple of weeks.

The councillor bought up some very valid points, nothing that I do not think we can resolve or work through but food for thought regardless. I have another appointment with my recipient in 2 weeks.

:fingerscrossed: that all goes to plan.
I will keep updating here (as it is a great way for me to process my thoughts)

[Sammys mum]

Was there anything particularly startling that your counsellor brought up that you just hadnt thought of??

Jo

[tejaslove]

The most startling issue was about whether I would feel an intimimacy with my recipents husband. I do not understand this but it must have happened somewhere for her to bring it up. We also spoke about the possibility that my recip may not be able to face me after the procedure as I would be a constant reminder that she needed help to conceive.
My recip and I have a great relationship in where we talk about anything that is or may be an issue. We cannot predict what may or may not happen in the future but are still going ahead whole heartedly.

[Sammys mum]

Wow..thats definately not something I would have thought of either, but i can understand the thinking behind it.

Thanks so much for sharing

Jo

[amumslove]

Hi:wave: I have just read your thread and I am just about to go through the same journey with my appointments next month so I look forward to reading more of your story.
Bev

[Roxy]

The most startling issue was about whether I would feel an intimimacy with my recipents husband.


:eek: :eek: WT?? Geez - glad I was never asked that question, or I would have had to suggest that the counsellor seek therapy herself! I have never heard of that question being asked before!

[Dream]

I just joined the site today and feel there might be hope again after reading your email. My husband and I have just been told today by our potential egg donor she does not wish to proceed. Thank you for someone like you:angel: to help keep the dream.

[tejaslove]

My second counselling appointment was rescheduled until Monday. This is the day we sign all the legal papers. I have started on microgyn and will be starting on the synarel in a few days, Gee I am looking foward to that...Not.. I have heard about its wonderful taste.

[kandd]

Hi Tejaslove,

How exciting... :smiliedance: You are officially cycling with your recipient.

As for the synarel spray - its not that bad. If you end up getting a really bad taste in your mouth try eating an orange. It was the only thing my donor and I found that really got rid of the taste. Might be the acids :) .

Good luck. I have my :fingerscrossed: this all goes well. Will be looking forward to your progress reports.

Diana xx

[tejaslove]

Woo Hoo - :smiliedance: The counselling sessions are over, the papers are signed so here we go.

The synarel is in the cupboard just waiting on the date to start. It is really going to happen I just hope it works out for my recip.

[amumslove]

Congratulations:smiliedance: I hope it all works out.

[Ruby_Jewels]

That is very exciting for you!!!
I have been in contact with a local IVF clinic and have recived all the prelim. info as once I stop b/feeding (my baby is due in a week :party: ) I am going to donate as my family is complete.

What I was wondering was did you know the recip. before or how did you go about selecting someone? The clinic I contacted said I would be shown profiles of people seeking a donor and then if any stood out, a meeting would be set up. I am curious about your experience as I think I will find it very difficult to 'select' someone based on a profile and then wonder what I would do if I didn't feel comfortable with them after meeting them, I would hate to get someones hopes up but would want to feel completely comforatble with the recip IYKWIM?

Sorry to hijack your thread, I was just thinking you would have a pretty good perspective on it all seeing as you are going through the process now. :)

Julia

[tejaslove]

Good luck with the impending birth.

I knew my recipient as an acquaintance, she spoke one day about her IVF attempts and I mentioned that I had been thinking about becoming a donor........it went from there.

Since then we have found out that our lives have crossed paths several times before we knew each other, so I believe it was meant to be.

[W2BAMUM]

Hi Tejaslove, I hope everthing goes well for you and your recipient. It's not long to go!

I can only speak from a recipients perspective, as you know I too am seeking a donor egg, and what you're doing is such a wonderful things. To give a couple the gift of life, to have a child, a family, to complete them in everway possible is truly amazing. I hope there are more women out there that read your thread, just like Julia, that will be inspired to do the same.

Keep us posted.
xxx

[tejaslove]

I start on the synarel this weekend so am getting excited. Scans are booked in.

:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: for a :bfp: for my recip for :xmastree:

[amumslove]

You will have to let me know what it is like. I have my first Dr appointment tomorrow and will meet Peta. She has told me if I don't want to sniff it I can take the needle, but I don't want her to have to spend anymore than she already is.

[Roxy]

The syranel leaves a bit of a nasty after taste! Have some euc drops or chewing gum ready to go :laughing:

It's good though - you at least know you got it right, cause you can taste it...

[amumslove]

Thanks for that. I think I can handle it:rolleyes: . I just don't want her to spend anymore money it's costing them enough as it is.

[Roxy]

I don't think that there is much price difference between the syranel and burselin (I think that's what it's called and what's used in Aust)....but the syranel is easier because it's just a nasal spray.

The after taste only lasts a few minutes, but it can be nasty LOL

[amumslove]

I will see what happens when I see the Dr in the morning. Thanks for the info.:)

[Dream]

Hi Tejaslove,
Good luck with cycling:thumbsup: . i didn't mind the taste at all but having to remember to take it at the prescribed times(2x a day for me) is more of a challenge. Especially when very busy. Basically having a routine time and place to take the medication work for me. It is so courageous of you try and make someone dream come true. :wave: dream

[amumslove]

Hi Tejaslove,
I had my first counselling session today and was in and out in 20mins. She said I had obviously done my research as she had gone over everything and I had answers for all the question. Wasn't as bad as I thought it might be, I have our joint session in 2weeks time, so hopefully will be cycling in Jan:fingerscrossed:

[alisando01]

hi! I am planning to donate in couple of years, after I have completed my family. I am doing as much research as possible so I can help someone who is ltttc. I got the idea to donate because it took my sister 12 months to conceive and I saw the pain she suffered every time af arrived. I don't want any more women to go thru that.

[tejaslove]

I have started on the synarel spray.At first I thought gee that is ok and then it hit. yuk yuk yuk. It is not even a taste you can explain. Oranges doesnt work for me, licorice sort of does. I do not think I will have a problem remembering to take it, twice a day, it is more dreading it.
Just needed a whinge as I have just taken it. I know that it will be worth it.

[Roxy]

The only good thing about the taste is that you know you got it right!!

I found eucalyptus drops worked well for getting rid of the taste.

[tejaslove]

Thanks Roxy
I will be running out to get some drops this morning.

[rachwantsababy]

Hi Ladies,

I am embarking on a donor cycle for the first time. I am the recipient. I have councilling in December, 2 of the sessions with my DH however we cant get in for medicals until Feb the 7th. Im hoping someone might be able to help me with this question - my donor had a baby in March which my doctor said isnt an issue. However when the receptionist called today she said that my donor will need to have bloods done in Feb then a 3 month quarantine period then bloods done again, she had these tests done while pregnant and Im sure the baby was also tested after the birth, can this help with getting things moving faster? After the year I have had, 3 fresh IVF/ICSI cycles and no transfers due to no fertilisation, I feel like its just taking longer and longer. Im a prive patient so Im a little frustrated that I have to wait until Feb to get in as there is only 1 doctor who deals with ED. Im hoping I wont have to wait until May 08 before starting a cycle as councilling will be completed this year!!! :no:

[Roxy]

Rach - that's a right pickle! Are you a member of AED? There are a few SA members over there who might be able to answer your question and help you to try and work your way around the quarantine.

[tejaslove]

:smiliedance: Fishermans Friends are my new best friend. Completely hides the horrible taste of the synarel. :thumbsup:

[Roxy]

Woohoo that you found something that covers the taste!

You'd think that with the amount that it costs and the amount of women that use it, they could make it taste like chocolate or something yummy! :laughing:

[alisando01]

Woohoo that you found something that covers the taste!

You'd think that with the amount that it costs and the amount of women that use it, they could make it taste like chocolate or something yummy! :laughing:



:laughing::laughing::laughing:that is hilarious, it would ditch the choc craving n give hormone at the same time!

[tejaslove]

I have taken my last pill today. I have a scan booked for next friday to make sure everything is nice and quiet. And then the injections start.
It is getting so exciting as it is getting closer.

[Baby dreams]

Just thought id pop in to wish Tegaslove the best of luck for your donor cycle, you are giving someone the greatest gift anyone could ever give. You are an :angel: I pray for you and your recipient that it works first go.

Rach - Not sure if you remember me, I havn't posted in a while as i'v just been in the wings waiting for our cycle in the new year, however i make sure to log into the Hub every couple of days to check on everyones journeys in the IVF and Donor threads.
I'm a patient of the donor program at Repromed aswell and just wanted to say that unfortunately what the receptionist said about the 3 month quarantine period is correct :thumbsdown: My sister is my donor and we have had to do the same thing. They told me that we had to test a second time after at least 3 months to rule out anything like HIV etc etc. It's a real bummer, im not sure that other clinics have the same rule. I'v been following your journey and wish you all the best. The next few months will fly by!! Enjoy your holiday.

[amumslove]

Hi Tejaslove, Just popped in to see how you are doing.
:noel: Bev

[tejaslove]

Hi all

I am off the pill, so just the synarel now. My body does not know what it is doing. Have a scan this friday to make sure it is all quiet. I am praying it is. AF is teasing whether to come or not. I know I am being abit emotional and all that stuff but I have a very patient, beautiful boyfriend that understands, My recip spoke to him and explained that I have a fragile sticker on at the moment.

hugs and kissses to all that are takig this journey as a donor or a recipient

[Dream]

Hi Tejaslove,
You are doing such a wonderful thing and best of luck to the cycling. dream

[Chellesbaby]

Hi Tejaslove,
You must be such a special person to be doing this. I hope the cycle goes smoothly for you. It would be so wonderful for all of you if it works out first time.

[rachwantsababy]

Baby dreams- hi there stranger LOL Good to see you on here.

i have spoken to my FS and he said he doesnt see the need to repeat her tests as she has copies of all of them that were done during her pregnancy, she had then done within the last 12 months? Good news though, they had a cancellation so she has her first medical on the 3rd of December, which is the same day as my first councilling session, she has her first councilling tomorrow, so fingers crossed when we get back from OS in January we will just be waiting for my medicals. What do they do, as I am a patient of theirs and have had 3 IVF cycles, not sure what they do? Repeat the same tests they have done???

Thanks so much for all your help,.

Tejaslove - you are just like my friend, an amazing angel. We are going to start a thread too, so we can keep it up to date with where we are at, just need to work out how to do it! LOL

xxxxxx

[Baby dreams]

Thats great news, heres hoping your friend doesn't have to repeat her tests. The tests i had as a recip were just standard bloods. I have also had a scan too, just to make sure my uterus is all ok. My sis is having her second lot of bloods and a baseline scan (to get a look at her ovaries at rest)

Who knows we may even be cycling together and at the same clinic too.

[rachwantsababy]

Baby dreams - I have had more scans at repromed than i can count! LOL and blood tests, my FS Prof Norman told me that I have a wonderful looking uterus and he is sure it will be perfect for an embie of we can just get one to put in there, so fingers crossed all will go well. Not sure when we will start at my medical isnt until the 7th of Feb, although they hve put me on the cancellation list, which is how my donor got in 2 months earlier. We are off to Europe on the 20th of Dec and come back on January the 13th so i am hoping it wont be long after that.
My friend has been through all of the IVf with me, even gave me some injections while DH was away, she was fantastic with it all, as was her DH, he was upset he didnt get to give me an injection so I guess he will get to give plenty soon hopefully. Its a bit scary, I was stupid and was reading today about all these women who found donors only to find they had high FSH and the doctors werent confident, just want to gt past one hurdle at a time though, god knows I have had many to try and jump so far, someone up there has to hear my prayers eventually. When are you looking at cycling, we might even see each other in there! That would be great to have someone in a donor cycle cycling at the same time!

We are going to start a thread, my friend thinks its a great idea, and then everyone can see how we are going. I have decided 2008 is my year!!!! It has to be, we all deserve it right.

xxxxxxxxx

[Baby dreams]

Ahhh your seeing Prof Norman, he is a lovely man! i saw him once a few years ago. I see Christine Kirby and she is great also. I was also relieved to hear my uterus looked good, don't know what i would do if it didn't. This journey is so hard and its great to hear when something positive is said isn't it.

We start meds mid-late Jan with an estimated transfer end of Feb, beginning of March. Its all very exciting and nerve racking at the same time. I started taking Elevit just over a week ago and had my first acupuncture treatment last Friday, im giving everything a go to give it the best possible chance.
x

[tejaslove]

I had my scan today & everything looks good. I was told I have very shy ovaries which she assured me is a good thing......so the next stage here we come.

I left the clininc with my showbag.lol. My injections start tomorrow and my next scan is booked for next Friday morning with opu hopefully a few days later. My recipient and I are both getting excited.

:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed: I am crossing everything for her for a :bfp: for christmas. The best gift I could give anyone.

[wa mum of 4]

Hello,
Congrats on getting passed the difficult part of the journey.:shakehands:
I am sure you will be fine with the injections, I ws a little nervious at first but after the initial funny tummy all is good.:thumbsup:
You are doing the most amazing selfless thing for your recips.
I am :fingerscrossed: for that :bfp:.

Sarah

[tejaslove]

The needles I have found to be easy, I don't know why I was ever dreading them. My scan has been brought forward to Thursday. We were to travel into Melbourne which is about an hour and a half but as my recipient has broken her ankle (last night) they have changed it to a closer location.

:yelclap:It is getting closer. :smiliedance:

[LPG]

HI

I am very new to this forum. Just found out today that last cycle whilst resulting in BFP has failed. I had the test on Monday and it was positive although a little low, today my levels were only 6 (instead of 600). I have done 1 fresh and 2 FET all using donor eggs of my sisters (with husband's sperm). That was the last of the embies as we lost one on the last cycle (didn't thaw properly). The fresh transfer was a BFN but the second was a BFP - I got to 6 weeks and then started bleeding. Had a scan and got to see the miracle I never thought would happen - an embyro with a beating heart only to lose it 12 hours later when the bleeding got heavier and would not stop.

We are in the position now where we are relying on the genorisity of others as there are no more embyro's left. We can't ask my sister again (she does not have children of her own yet), and its not something you can ask friends. We wish you and the recipient the best of luck, and only hope and pray that we may come across someone as generous as you.

LPG

[tejaslove]

I had my scan on Thursday.Some eggs but nothing outstanding, they said this was to be expected. My dose has been increased and have another scan tomorrow morning. I was disappointed as it meant more injections, which is not a problem for me I was more worried about the expense to my recipient.

I am hopeful that tomorrows scan goes better. I am feeling bloated and a bit tender so I am hoping that is a good sign.

I will try to pop back in tomorrow after the scan and let you all know how I went.

:fingerscrossed:

[Dream]

Hi tejaslove,
Hope the increase dosage works. All the best, dream

[tejaslove]

The dosage increase has worked, maybe a bit too well.

20 Follicles on the right and 7 on the left. The dosage has been reduced and pick up is scheduled for Friday or Saturday. I need to weigh & measure myself daily and report any change to the nurse. I have abit of discomfort but otherwise feel fine.

I hope from all these eggs there is one good one.

[amumslove]

Sounds good:)
:fingerscrossed: it all works out.

[Dream]

Oh my goodness, that sounds really positive.:cloud9::iagree:
I am glad you are not feeling too bad either..
All the very best for pick up, I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised that you might have more than 1 good one! :) dream

[tejaslove]

OPU went ahead on Friday. They picked up 32 eggs. 25 of which were appropriate sizes. Only 6 fertalized though. Which I was very disappointed about.

I had some problems after pick up so I remained in the hospital until yesterday (monday) I haemoraged from my ovary which gave me a blood clot. I also got OHSS. I still feel pretty lousy so am going to hop back into bed.
I will come back when I feel better with more details

:sleeping:

[Celestine]

tejaslove - you poor thing. I hope you rest up good and proper. Please don't be disappointed with the result. I think 6 fertilised is a fantastic result and your recipient must be thrilled ( I know I would be). take care of yourself, lots of rest and pampering. You are a special person & don't you forget that, I am just sorry that you had a difficult EPU - it normally isn't that bad. Were you overstimulated?

Get well soon:flowerz::flowerz::flowerz::flowerz:

[kandd]

Hi Tejaslove,

So sorry that you had such a bad time of it. Unfortunately OHSS is one of the risks of egg collection.

As for only six eggs fertilizing - I understand that you may be feeling a little disappointed with the result - but I guarantee that your recipients will be over the moon. Just remember you have given them the opportunity for 6 potential bubbas - something that they have probably thought for a long time they would never have happen. It only takes one to fulfil the dream.

You are a courageous and generous person for giving them this opportunity. I hope that you are feeling well soon. And I have everything crossed for your recipients that they will soon get their much awaited BFP.

Take care
Diana xx

[Melanie&Lucky]

Sorry to hear that you had such a bad time. I do hope you are feeling better by now.

:iagree: agree with kandd's post above. You have given your recipients a chance that they otherwise would not have had. For that chance, there is not doubt that they are extremely grateful.

Unfortunately OHSS is one of the risks of donation and you would have been closely monitored by your doctor. I am really sorry that you had to experience this along with the other problems & a hospital stay. It wasn't supposed to turn out like this for you. :(

But please remember the gift you gave your recipients was truly special and you are a wonderful woman for having done so.

[tejaslove]

I am back in the land of the living. :yelclap:
Even though I was aware of OHSS I was of course under the presumption that it would not happen to me. All of that is now over and done with and my recipient is at the end of her 2WW. Blood test is booked for tomorrow morning and all is well so far.

:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed: for a :bfp:

Wishing everybody a very happy new year and may the year ahead bring you all of your dreams.

[tejaslove]

:yelclap::yelclap::yelclap::yelclap:

Just as I hit the send button my recipient called. A test was done today and she got a :bfp:. Now we wait and hope it is a sticky one.
:cloud9:I am so happy for them. I am going to open a bottle of bubbly on their behalf

[amumslove]

Glad to hear you are feeling better:flowerz:
:smiliedance::smiliedance::baby:That's great news

[muchwanted]

Glad to hear you are feeling better and what a great result. You are one very special lady.:yelclap::hugs:

[alisando01]

Yay 4 the :bfp:!!! Stick lil 1, stick!

[PebblesNZ]

I am new here and just found your thread - a huge congratulations - well done. Will be keeping everything crossed for your recipients over the next few weeks.

[Mell]

:smiliedance: Congratulations :smiliedance:

You are one special lady :hugs:

[tejaslove]

My receipient is still pregnant. Yay:yelclap:
She has had a scan and all is well with a nice strong heart beat.

I am still getting menapause like symptoms, How long until my body gets back to normal?

[elwoodgal]

Hi tejaslove
I am new to bubhub & just read your thread. How fabulous, what a wonderful person you to do such a selfless act for another couple.
My donor also unfortunately suffered from that problem. She produced 44 eggs & we got 9 embryos. I had 2 implanted & got one beautiful DD.
She started to feel better after she got her Period. It did take a few weeks. She was very tired for a couple of weeks & lacked energy etc.
It was absolutely brilliant to hear about the BFP.
I hope you feel better soon.
elwoodgal

[tummymummy30]

Goodluck with your first appt. :yelclap:
Hope all goes well.
Kelly x (from the Territory) :flowerz:

[tummymummy30]

Sorry. Excuse this above message I wrote. :o I have no idea who I was replying to, just came across it and wondered who I was talking to. Dopey me :dizzy: , but hi to you all again anyway. :wave:

Kelly x :sunshine:

[Zoe2]

Good on you, tejaslove, wonderful thing to do.
Yours, Zoe.

[tejaslove]

:crying::crying::crying:
My recipient lost her baby this week. She was 11 weeks along.
I cannot help but feel guilty and wish that I could change things for her. I have been told not to feel this way but I cannot help it. I am trying to see the other five eggs as a positive thing but at the moment are in a very dark place and only see them as five more chances of breaking hearts.
I know I am rambling on but my head is in a twirl. I don't think I want to know when another egg is put in as I caould not cope with another loss.

I tried to do the right thing but feel as if I even stuffed that up.:hissy:

[elwoodgal]

Please, please do not feel guilty. It is really sad & your recipient will be feeling terrible but try & keep things in perspective. I think you said there are still 5 frozen embryos?
You have given someone a chance to have a baby. Sometimes things go wrong. It is as simple as that. You are not to blame.
:hugs:I know you are feeling really sad but there is still hope.

elwoodgal

[wa mum of 4]

:crying::crying::crying:
My recipient lost her baby this week. She was 11 weeks along.
I cannot help but feel guilty and wish that I could change things for her. I have been told not to feel this way but I cannot help it. I am trying to see the other five eggs as a positive thing but at the moment are in a very dark place and only see them as five more chances of breaking hearts.
I know I am rambling on but my head is in a twirl. I don't think I want to know when another egg is put in as I caould not cope with another loss.

I tried to do the right thing but feel as if I even stuffed that up.:hissy:

Hi there my dear,
I am so sorry for you and your IP's.

I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. When Diana lost her baby's I was devistated to say the least.

I did the "what if's" constantly, what if I had eaten a little better, what if I had not had those coffee's, etc etc. Honestly it is no-ones fault, things like this just happen sometimes. No-one is to blame.
You will pick yourself up as will your IP's and you will move on.
5 more goes is better that no more goes, look to the future with a positive outlook and all will fall into place.

Good luck and keep that chin up, what you have done to help this couple is amazing.

:hugs:
Sarah

[rachwantsababy]

Teajaslove - my heart goes out to your and your recipient. As WA mum said, these things happen,. my councillor told me that my donor isnt getting us pregnant or giving us a baby, she is giving us a chance, and it is a bigger chance than we have on our own. Its sad that there is no rhyme if reason why these things happen, nor does it seem fair that we have to endure all of this to have a child. You have not stuffed anything up and cannot blame yourself. When the time is right and she has picked herself up she has 5 more embies and if she is anything like me, she is and will ne eternally gratful for the chance of a baby. I hope that isnt a load of ramble. Thinking of you and your recipient :hugs:

[ellie66]

I really feel for both you and your recipient, it is a terrible thing to go through, but you cannot blame yourself. Your recipient would never have had the chance of becoming pregnant if it wasn't for your generosity and compassion. You both have to concentrate on these 5 little embies and the hope that they hold. Thinking of you both.
:hugs: Ellie

[kandd]

Hi Tejaslove,

I just read your news. I am so sorry that you and you recipients are going thru this :hugs::hugs:.

Its so very hard not to analyse everything in our heads at this time and ask all sorts of "what if" type questions. This is in no way your fault and unfortunately there is nothing that you could have done differently to change this sad outcome. You have provided your recipients with an opportunity they would not have had, and for this you are nothing short of an :angel:.

Take care of yourself.
Diana xoxo

[tejaslove]

Well I am still around. I have been following everyones journeys. I wish I had a journey to tell you all. Since my recipients lost there baby nothing has happened. We do not know if her body has just given up or wants a break. I am considering doing it again, it is still my dream to help someone else.
Congratulations to all the successful people since I have been here and :fingerscrossed: to everuy one stilll searching

[milo68]

I have just read your story and feel so moved. You are one amazing lady. You give me such hope that I will find a beautiful, generous woman who will help me complete my family.
Take care, Milo

[tummymummy30]

Just popping in to send you a big (((HUG))) Tejaslove and to say we're thinking of you. :hugs:
Kelly x
:flowerz:

[hellolu]

hi Tejaslove,

I have just read through your thread. your motivation to donate is beautiful. :yelclap: I'm so sorry to hear that things havent worked out for you and your IPs yet. I really hope they do very soon. What an amazing gift of hope you have given them. Reading your posts I can see that it really has been tough on you. take care of yourself Tejaslove. :hugs:

L.x

[tejaslove]

Take Two - my recipients have just has another implant. The thawing process was a success and now it is the dreaded 2WW. I have everything crossed for them and am preparing myself for what ever may happen.

Thanks to everyone for their thoughts.

[tejaslove]

:yelclap::yelclap::yelclap:

My recipient is pregnant......30 weeks. Finally looks like light at the end of the tunnel.

Other news, not so good, I have just come from the Dr and been told that I have fibroids and an ovary that still thinks it is being stimulated...so out it all comes.

Do not know yet if this was related to the egg donation but it will all be worth it when I see her holding her baby.

[lostgirl]

Dear tejaslove and everyone,

I would just like to say that anyone who makes the decision to donate eggs for another couple are making such a selfless decision and they are to be commended.

As a person who is looking for that special egg donor angel herself I know what it means to these couples to finally have the chance of having they baby dreams met.

I really hope that each and every one of your stories have a very happy ending. You are all angels totally.

[Lora]

Hi Tejaslove,

For me it just seemed to really make sense, I can't really see myself as a mother, but I have perfectly healthy eggs so there's no reason someone else can't make use of what I'm not using. I will admit to feeling terribly smug the day after my 10-egg retrieval. Be really careful to be prepared, I know the counselling and everything will have you fully understanding the procedure, the after-effects and the future possibilities of children, but my first harvest was unsuccessful, and I was completely unprepared for that. My trigger injection failed, and while they could see plenty of eggs in the follicles, they could not get them out. The doctors told me triggers can fail once, maybe twice a year, and that I was just one of those, but both I and my recipient couple were wreaked. Luckily they were willing to give me another try, and had a second, more successful harvest!
i hope that helps :)