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immarni
08-09-2007, 20:36
Well tonight has just been the night from hell.....again... I was meant to go on a date and my x was having his new g/f over while gg was asleep and he just started to get in a bad mood and all i said to him was why didnt he answer my phone cause i was in the shower and it was my parents and he just started to get nasty.....calling me all sorts of names etc. So i said i wasnt going out if he was in that sort of mood cause i didnt want gg to be around him when he's in that kind of mood. So i went upstairs and as i was holding gg he flicked me in the mouth with his hand.....i then walked into gg's room and he pushed me while i was holding her and i nearly went into the bookshelf. This isnt the first time something like this has happened and its no where near as bad is it used to be but i'm just not going to put up with it anymore. I know i've just put up with things so i can fly to see my parents at the end of the year but i just cna't trust that he's not going to hurt gg when he's angry with me.

He won't move out.....he just won't until the end of the year so i'm thinking i have to go. Now after the whole thing with centerlink i don't know how i'm meant to go anywhere or help anyone pay for rent and food when all my money has been cut. I also don't know how i'm meant to get out of the house with all my stuff without him going completely nuts. I want to do whats best for gg but its so hard to just uproot her and all she knows to go somewhere until we fly out. The townhouse that i'm in is owned by my parents so i wonder if they can just evict him? I'm just all over the place at the moment. I can't believe i married this person.....what was i thinking??
MW&S
08-09-2007, 20:39
:eek:

You poor thing.

I would think that ur parents could evict him! Why should you move? That said, for your safety and the safety of your gorgeous daughter, you need to get out! Can you call legal aid and find out??

:hugs:
OneBabyBoy
08-09-2007, 20:40
Yes it's definitely time marni!! It was time a long time ago!! Gosh he's a nasty piece of work.
If you're parents are the owners then yeah get rid of him!! Why should you and your DD leave?
And once he's gone centrelink should fix up the financial issue too hopefully.
Good luck with it all :hugs:
MissBrightside
08-09-2007, 20:49
Agree with the others. He needs to go. Contact legal aide and get some advice. Centrelink will fix up your payments. Why should you and your daughter have to move out of your home because of him!
:hugs: I hope you sort it all out.
MilkOnTap
08-09-2007, 20:54
Totally agree with the advice that has already been given. Your parents DEFINITELY have the right to evict any individual tenant at their discretion :yes:

Good luck - and get onto it now! :hugs:
polony
08-09-2007, 20:57
I wouldn't be going anywhere... not if the place was owned by your parents! Get him out! Call the police if you need to, but get him out!!!

I hope things work out for you. :hugs:
immarni
08-09-2007, 20:59
police are no help unless you have evidence.....so basically i need to wait until he hits me in front of someone or he bruises me or makes me bleed...... have dealt with them before and they can't do anything unless there is evidence of abuse.
scorpio83
08-09-2007, 21:22
Apply for a DVO....I got one on my ex and I had no signs of abuse either. My mum called the police from interstate and they applied for the DVO for me.....I never had to do anything other than give a statement. Some of the other mums might have more info about how to go about it. I hope you sort it all out before he gets any worse.
RaryGirl
08-09-2007, 21:23
My ex-SIL had the same trouble with her husband of 15 years .... they separated and he refused to leave the marital home ... in the end she went to court who ordered him out.

Ring Legal Aid ... push for them to help, you don't need to put up with that sort of treatment ... for your safety or your babies.

Good luck.
scorpio83
08-09-2007, 21:25
Also, if you get a DVO and you are concerned he'll hurt your DD, have her listed on it too!
themumbug
08-09-2007, 23:10
when he behaves like this just call the police and they will come and take him out, then you dont let him come back, you need this person away from your dd right away, if not there are so many emergency places you can go to, just tell centrelink your situation and they will give you the names of places to go to.
Good luck:fingerscrossed:
Issey
08-09-2007, 23:16
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If you're parents are the owners then yeah get rid of him!! Why should you and your DD leave?
And once he's gone centrelink should fix up the financial issue too hopefully.
Good luck with it all :hugs:
:thumbsup: agree
Angelmist♥
08-09-2007, 23:23
police are no help unless you have evidence.....so basically i need to wait until he hits me in front of someone or he bruises me or makes me bleed...... have dealt with them before and they can't do anything unless there is evidence of abuse.

Try the police again mate.Tell them exactly what he did (and has done) and that you want him to move out and you're scared.By law they cannot dismiss you and your fears.It's domestic violence pure and simple.

As soon as he is out, change the locks and get in to Centrelink. I'm sorry I don't know what hassles you've had with them but they can't leave you with no money when you have a child.Good luck and it's definitely time he left.:hugs: :hugs: for you and GG.
Freya
08-09-2007, 23:27
Babe I really feel for you, it must be so hard to be in this situation. I would rather jump off a cliff then be forced to live with my ex.

This is probally a really stupid thing to do but what if the next time he was out you got all his stuff out and got the locks changed then maybe get someone to come stay with you like one of your parents... I dunno probally a silly suggestion... But anyways big :hugs: for you...
immarni
10-09-2007, 07:51
My parents live overseas and i'm in the midst of getting them to organise to evict him....I"m heading into centerlink today to organise to fix the payment they just stopped....they can leave you stranded without any money and a baby....they did it to me last friday..... I can't legally kick him out cause he is a paying tenant and he could take me to court. The dvo is an idea so i'm going to make an appt with legal aid to check out what other options i have.
warriorPRINCESSdaughter
10-09-2007, 14:37
Unless he has a lease with your parents he is not classed as a legal tenant, do you have a lease? or is it just a verbal agreement? if not change the locks and put his stuff outside.

Jodie