I feel like iam doing this alone VENT

[shorty_851]

Ever since DS was born i have felt so lonley and like i am doingit all myself.

I know this may sound selfish but i just feel like i get no support from Jason i get tonnes of support from his family and my family just not him

The first few days were great he was there all the time until i got out of hospital.

He would whinge that we always had people here to see DS and he just wanted sometime for the 3 of us.

So when we do have time togetehr what does he do he ****es off to the pub with out telling me or phoning me to tell me where he is.

He already has a son to another girl and i have been told he did everything for him getting up at night feeding bathing dressing changing nappies everything.

Well i think he has changed 2 nappies and bathed him 3 times. He wont even pick him up when he is crying or hungry

He wont make a bottle or anything.

I mean he wanted this baby as well we tried 9 long hard emotional months for what me to not get any support.

Ok so he goes to work and works hard in the sun but is it so hard to maybe change a nappy or spend some time wit us.

Im such an emotional wreck and i feel so bad for Caleb i look at him and think what have i done i have bought this sweey innocent biy into a family where the dad just cant be bothered.

Why do i feel like this.

Why dont i get any support

I have had it.

Great now i have myself so worked up its not funny.

[javalava]

Hunny i totally know how you feel right now. There are tons of people here to listen. Unfortunately we cant fix the problem but we are always here and alot of us are going through the same thing. Have you tired talking to him about how you feel?

[shorty_851]

I have trued and his response everytime is WHATEVER WHY DO YOU GO ON ABOUT IT

Whatever to him

He goes on about how i can sit at home and he has to go and earn the money. (Just becuase he cant stay away from the pub) I dont spend any of it.


I just dont understand. He has not got up to him once.

I mean Caleb atm is lying in his rocker just beside the lounge crying and he wont even look at him

[Jinglebells]

(((((HUGS))))) chick, I know how ya feeling, you have every right to be anoyed at your DP

I think you both need to have a sit down and a good chat, maybe there is something up with your DP, he could be feeling over welmed with everthing, having a new born baby around changes everything, as you will know,

have a good chat and see how he's feeling, you'll find once youve done that you'll both have a good understanding with each other and beable to sort out alot

[melannh]

I think you need to have a discussion about things. We hear alot about women that suffer post natal depression - but men can get a similar form to this - and he may be going through a 'kind of' depressions - hence his seemingly disinterest in Caleb....

I hope things improve - as to feel this lonely with a wonderful little baby (may I add, he was born on a wonderful day - MY BIRTHDAY!!! ha ha) would be very, very hard. I know I found being a new mum hard for the first 4 months. My DP was very helpful - so I can only imagine the difficult time you are experiencing.

I hope that you are able to express yourself and your DH listens and can understand where you're coming from.....

You take care.....:)

[shorty_851]

:crying: Thanks everyone.

I tried to talk to him but he just shuts me down with stop yur **** and then gets angry at me and starts going off at me.

I just cant handle another day Caleba nd i are going to mums tomorrow if another talk doesn work tonight.

I man i do everythig for him I get Caleb and i up to take him to work every morning at 5.30 becuase of his own stupid fault.

I go and pick him up

I take him where every he wants to go all becuase he lost his licence.

I feel like i am just here so that there is someone else in the house.

I dont spend a cent except for fuel and formula and nappies for caleb and when there is no money at the end of the week he blames me.

He cant be trusted with a keycard becuase he just drains the bank.

I mean he brings home roughly 900 a week and by Saturday we are struggling to get to Wednesday. But he blames me for that.

I hate my life. I have sent a series of txt messages to him telling him how much i hate my life and how i never use to be like this. I use to be fun and happy and never cried never. I cry at least once a day and have for the past 18 months.

I feel like nothing and then he is really really nice to his ex and jumps to her every want. I know she has his son too but i meet should charity start at your own home.

Sorry i feel a little selfish at the moment but ii have so much more i need to get out but i know i will only fall in a heap and cry. I know i need to be strong for my little man becuase i know he can sense it all.

I just want him to be the person i first met and the person i loved because i dont feel love for him at all right now.

[Noah_and_Elijah]

It sounds like you need to get out of that relationship, even just for a short while to give him a taste of what life would be like without the two of you and to give you some breathing space because you need it by the sounds of things.

Hope it goes well. :hugs:

[~mia&ryan~]

:hugs: to you hun.. After reading this and your other thread, I really think he is a total a$$!!! He treats you so badly, you deserve so much better, you really do... Have a long hard think and do what is best for you and Caleb, it may be that you need to leave him and set out into the world on your own with your little man...

I really hope that you are okay hun...:hugs:

[Miss_Vicki]

sounds like my partner an why now he is EX partner , If we wernt goin to live like a team an i was like the single mum Then shall be it ill bee a offical single mum an have been 2 months now :D

[Myztik]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I dont really know what to say sorry but going to your mums for a while sounds like a good idea. Might give him the wake up call that it sounds like he really needs.

[RoarsomeMum]

Oh Mandi, Its so unfair hon.. you have a right to feel the way you do.. I wish I new what to say.. Puter wont let me post hugs, but a Million of them to you and Caleb from Em and Rora.You deserve to be happy Mandi.