Do you feel guilty if you have a break and go out for the night?

[Jennifer85]

Just wondering if you feel guilty going out?

the last time i went out my son Tyrone was only 3 months old, his now 13 months, and even then I called a million times and just wanted to get back to him, i couldnt enjoy myself and i felt soooo guilty.

I want to go out, I think I need some me time, but i feel guilty just thinking about it, i dont want people thinking im a bad parent coz im not home with my child, I hate the cards i've been dealt.:gloomy:

[OneBabyBoy]

No way at all. We (as single parents) do alot of work so there is no reason at all you should feel guilty for a night off!
If I had any money and someone to babysit I would go out with my friends regularily. Just dinner or something (we're not party animals lol).

[alexiasmum]

You deserve me time. You shouldnt feel guilty.

[Jennifer85]

Im 22 and i dont really like clubbing or anything, im a country girl so i would rather go to a rodeo and a few drinks at the local, i dunno tho it feels like if i spend even $20 it could be $20 i could be buying something for my son with, or putting in his banking account.. i know it sounds silly, but im the youngest of 8 children and it kinda feels i have to watch my ever step as my brothers and sisters ARE the b!tchy type and if i do the smallest thing wrong they are all b!$ching behind my back about it...
I really want to go out, but dont think i want the **** that will come with it.

[Mum2Bug]

I have only been out maybe 4 times since Bug was born 2.5 yrs ago, and each time i have felt guilty and called home to make sure she is ok.

Actually the only time I go out now is to BH dinners:p

[pegasus]

Sorry - I know this is the Single parents section, but...

M2B - the dinners we go out to - I feel extremely guilty that I'm out and spending money on me, and call to make sure everything is okay - why is that????

Okay - as you were....

Oh and by the way - the only nights I've left my DD are when I've been to BH dinners as well......:p

[Jennifer85]

its ok pegasus i was wanting to know if mothers in general feel guilty, but single mums know more where im comming from i guess.

[Mum2Bug]

Sorry - I know this is the Single parents section, but...

M2B - the dinners we go out to - I feel extremely guilty that I'm out and spending money on me, and call to make sure everything is okay - why is that????

Okay - as you were....

Oh and by the way - the only nights I've left my DD are when I've been to BH dinners as well......:p

Aww R :hugs:

I think you will find that with most parents in general it is about the fact that we are the ones who are responsible for our childs happiness and it feels a bit selfish to be taking time out and spending money on ourselves when it could be put towards nappies, clothes etc. BUT, as I have been told so many times, a happy parent = a happy child, so we do need to take that time to look after ourselves so we are at our optimum to look after our children.

Having said that, i feel it is doubly so with single parents because we are doing it that little bit harder, and we have responsibility of our child alone 24/7 with no partners/hubbies to help.

[the_original_duchess]

god no. i love going out. i ove my kids but at the end of the week mummy needs a break. so i go out when they go to daddies house every fortnight. if i didnt i think id go mad.
dont feel guilty, when you signed bubs birth certificate, you didnt sign ur life away, so still go out occasionally and enjoyyourself.
your in QLD right?
im coming up in janurary, we can go out when im up there :thumbsup:

[Jennifer85]

that sounds great :D.

[KapowSchazam]

I haven't done it yet. I'll know when the time is right for me, but it's not the right time just yet. I'm not in a hurry to get out at night. Also, I don't have anyone I can REALLY rely on to look after B (even though she'd be asleep...YKWIM) I think the first time might be when she eventually has sleep overs at her dads