NicNac72
01-09-2007, 08:01 PM
I posted this in another thread also, but I know I can count on my Feb Mummies for advice or a chat!
A little bit of history... DH and I met mid 2003 after we had both come out of awful relationships, he was my savior and I was his! We fell pregnant a couple of months after with Jasper!Here goes..
DH received a call from his ex (prior to me coming along) and asked if they could get together for a chat. He was a little taken aback, because they have had nothing to do with each other since they broke up, which was about 2-3 weeks before he and I got together! (Note:- They broke up because she was having it off with one of his friends!) DH has not seen or heard from either of them since!
Anyway, they did go for a coffee and have a very interesting 'chat'! She advised him that she has a son, who is almost 4 and that DH MAY be his father. She came clean and told DH, that she and (DH's friend, lets call him 'J') J broke up about a year or so ago and he wanted to have paternity tests done. It turns out that 'J' is not the father of her son. She then proceeds to say during the same time she was sleeping with DH and 'J' she had a one night stand. (Another note: She had a rep and probably still does for getting around with all sorts of men for financial rewards..)
The timing of her falling pregnant and how old her son is does add up to DH possibly being his father.
If this child is DH's son, I know in my heart that he will be 'our' son as well and I will treat him as I do my own children, but I know I will struggle with this as well.
I am 18.5 weeks pregnant with twins and I have had on/off bleeds throughout this pregnancy, I have had to stop working so I can rest and I already have two children to look after as well!
I am not looking for answers from anyone, I just feel good for getting it out really!
I only have one concern. And that is, if this little boy is DH's son, that means his mother is going to be in our lives. And that does not sit comfortably with me! It is not that I am concerned for my relationship by any means at all, I know DH loves me more than life itself!
Lots to ponder... DH is going to get some tests done next week. I am not sure how long it takes to get the results back, but I'll keep you informed!
A little bit of history... DH and I met mid 2003 after we had both come out of awful relationships, he was my savior and I was his! We fell pregnant a couple of months after with Jasper!Here goes..
DH received a call from his ex (prior to me coming along) and asked if they could get together for a chat. He was a little taken aback, because they have had nothing to do with each other since they broke up, which was about 2-3 weeks before he and I got together! (Note:- They broke up because she was having it off with one of his friends!) DH has not seen or heard from either of them since!
Anyway, they did go for a coffee and have a very interesting 'chat'! She advised him that she has a son, who is almost 4 and that DH MAY be his father. She came clean and told DH, that she and (DH's friend, lets call him 'J') J broke up about a year or so ago and he wanted to have paternity tests done. It turns out that 'J' is not the father of her son. She then proceeds to say during the same time she was sleeping with DH and 'J' she had a one night stand. (Another note: She had a rep and probably still does for getting around with all sorts of men for financial rewards..)
The timing of her falling pregnant and how old her son is does add up to DH possibly being his father.
If this child is DH's son, I know in my heart that he will be 'our' son as well and I will treat him as I do my own children, but I know I will struggle with this as well.
I am 18.5 weeks pregnant with twins and I have had on/off bleeds throughout this pregnancy, I have had to stop working so I can rest and I already have two children to look after as well!
I am not looking for answers from anyone, I just feel good for getting it out really!
I only have one concern. And that is, if this little boy is DH's son, that means his mother is going to be in our lives. And that does not sit comfortably with me! It is not that I am concerned for my relationship by any means at all, I know DH loves me more than life itself!
Lots to ponder... DH is going to get some tests done next week. I am not sure how long it takes to get the results back, but I'll keep you informed!