Another bub after35?

[debz]

Hi. I had my first bub 4 months ago and I have just turned 36.

I tried to get preg before this, but lost the preg and got very depressed.

I would like another as I was an only child and HATED it. I was so lonely.

But... Some people are saying that I have left it too late. Including a child health nurse.

But... so many people have late life babies and I am really healthy and only feel 25.

I would like to have an 18month to 2 year gap between bubs, as I think it would be good to have the second before I an 40.

The other thing is, even if we only did have one, I think she would have a much happier childhood than I did , because my husband and I are much more involved than my parents were and I would go out of my way to help her mix with others.

She also has heaps of cousins to play with.

Any advice would be helpful.

[moonblossom]

Hi Deb, you go for it girl, if you want another then dont let anyones comments put you off.

Good luck to you :)

[mum24]

Hi debz, if you lead a fairly healthy lifestyle ie: don't drink ( much ), don't smoke anything, don't do drugs, don't hang around unhealthy people and have a generally healthy and happy attitude to life, then there's no reason why you can't have another healthy baby when you feel comfrtable and it is right for you.

I had my dd ( #3 child ) two months before I turned 37. She was born c-sect and perfect. I had my ds3 ( #4 child ) two weeks ago via a successful vbac ( he was 10lb 4oz ) and I will be 39 in another weeks time. He was also born as perfect as can be. With my pregnancy just ended I also didn't go ahead with any of the tests that the medics try to force onto me and did extensive research every day on the internet to make sure I was well informed of every aspect of this, my last, pregnancy. I knew this was to be my last pregnancy so I made sure I was in complete control every step of the way, with the support of my dh2.

Good luck to you debz, with your decision.

[draught]

I had my first when I was 34 and my second at 36 (two days after my birthday) and am trying hard to convince DH to go for a third - which would mean I was at least 38 when it would be born if all went well. Don't let CHN's tell you what to do - listen to your own body and if you really want medical advice talk to your OB or GP.

[maybe1more]

I think go for it! Dont let anyone sway you which way or another, do what you want to do, and there is No way your too old, i mean 35+ to have a baby is the new 25!!!

[aardvark]

I'll be 40 this year, and #3 is not quite 3 weeks old.

If you don't do it because other people say you shouldn't, even though you really want to, you'll regret it.

I was an only child till I was six, and I hated it. My eldest was an only child until she was 10, and she hated it to.

Yes, it was harder being pregnant at close to 40 than at 34 or 24 (my ages when I had the previous babies), but I am so glad I did it.

[bronny-jane]

my mum had me when she was 36 she started at 31 and after 7 children finished at 42. we are all normal except my youngest brother did have sleep apnia

[mums the word]

I am 40 and had no.4 11 months ago. The pregnancy wasn't really any different, there is more to think about, ie the risk of downs syndrome increases with age, but we have a beautiful, healthy baby and i would not change a thing. Maybe I have a little less patience at the end of the day but thats probably more about having 4 than being 40! If you really feel the desire for another baby and don't do it 'cos others say it's not the "done' thing, you may always regret it. I say go for it!

[peterpan]

Age is just a number, Go for it I had my first at 35 (30.5.05)
and we plan on having one more trying after may
:)

[mumoftwoboys2005]

If you want another baby, go ahead and do it. No one has the right to say whether you can or can't. Only you will know when the "time is right" In saying this, I turned 36 last week and am trying for number 3. I know that my side of the family will think I am insane but to be honest I Dont Care.

Good Luck. Hope all goes well for you.

Joanne.

[Michele Crocker]

Hi,

I have just turned 37 and I have five kids and plan to have another child next year. I will probably be between the ages of 38 and 40 by the time the next baby comes along. So I say go for it. There is plenty of women having children after 35. Good Luck.

Michele
Mother of Christopher, Luke, Melissa, Jayden and Ashleigh(3 months old)

[Kirstlea]

Go for it, don't hold back.

I had my first at 34yrs and still trying to get no: 2. I am now 37. It doesn't always go the way you plan. We planned to get pregnant 1.5 yrs ago and it happened but things went wrong and now we are trying to get it sorted so we can try again.

Its only too late if you feel that way.

We personally want to have our children by the age of 40 as we don't like the sound of being over 60 at our children's 21st plus we don't want to be too old to see our children have their own children.

Have fun :devil6:

[mum2many]

Just go for it girl ! I had my 5th baby in 2003 and I was 40, they were all born by c-section. They are all healthy and happy. The eldest at 19 has just started uni and number 5 goes to playgroup and dancing lessons. So as I said go for it and enjoy the experiences that mothehood brings.:smiliedance:

[MariaO]

I had my first baby at 40, I have a lovely healthy baby girl and had a fabulous pregnancy. Follow your heart and do whatever you want.

[mbrbbt]

Hi, speak to your doctor or gynee and if they have no major concerns and both your partner and you want another baby do it. I was told after my 1st pregnancy (which was horrific - I spent 6 weeks in intensive care after the birth) at 25 that I couldn't have anymore I simply wouldn't be able to carry them with all the complications I had. I am now pregnant with my 5th!!! (God help me I think I need my head read). Yes your pregnancy is more regimented - I am only 13 weeks and have had 2 ultrasounds and 3 trips to my gynee and other specialists already but it's all worth it. I just had the nuchal translucency test for down syndrome which gave me a result of 1 chance in 6799 lower than if I was 15. Good luck

[mums the word]

I had no 4 when I was 40. She is 1 now and we are all loving it! She keeps me young! Go for it.

[shed]

I am 36 and will be 37 by the time bubby is born.

If we want another child (undecided at this stage) then it will be when I am around 40. I would prefer a bigger age gap but don't want to push it too much.

If you are in doubt you can always have an amnio to set your mind at rest, but the nuchal scan and the other scans will probably be enough to tell you about the baby's health.

I say Go For it.

[annb]

Man if someone had told me that I shouldnt have a baby after turning 35 then I wouldnt have my gorgeous little boy that I had when I was 39. Having never been pregnant any earlier I dont know how good or bad it was to be pregnant at a later age, all I can say from my experience is I felt great all the way through, I did the various tests that I felt I wanted to do (amnio) and an elective c/section and now at 40 Im about ready for the next one, I am not worried about my age at all....only that my eggs might be pickled!!!

[ThomasMum]

Hiya debz, my mum was pregnant of me when she was 39 (yes i was her best 40th birthday present ever he he), and that was like 30 odd years ago-and look at me I am so normal :laughing: , with today's high technology and such I think as long as you and your other half are healthy you should be alright, plus being a second child also makes a huge different. I think the nurse was just trying to protect herself, if you know what I mean :)

Good luck! :)

[Miaow]

I was 40 when I had EJ - no problems medically apart from a slight elevation in BP

[mykidzrokk]

Gosh, ive been beating my head aginst a wall for the last 6 months deciding if i'm too old to have another..i turn 35 in Sept. I thought DH was mad when he suggested going for #4 cos of our ages...he's just turned 36....but maybe he wasnt .....after reading all ur posts, i'm beginning to think maybe we can......thanks..

And i hope u do what feels right in ur heart...whatever that may be.

Cheers

Susie

[Starlet]

IMO, if you feel that you can cope, then go for it!

I know what you mean about having more than one because you were an only child. I grew up as an only child too(I do have an older brother who is now 31, but we have never lived together). That's why I decided to have more than one.

GOod luck in whatever you choose to do :)

[CrazyBeautiful]

36 is not over the hill. I'm 35 and having #3 (and final). I had my first when I was 21. IMO it's a lot easier to cope with a baby at 35 than it was at 21. I consider myself at 35 to be very young indeed. Good luck in your decision.

[ButterflyKisses]

unless there is something drastically medically wrong with you then I'd go for it.

I was 41 1/2 when my DS was born - I had a problem free pregnancy, worked until I was 8 months preggers (left work early because DS was IVF & we were told IVF babies tend to be premmie and small - well I defied that statistic as my bubs was 1 week overdue and weighed 4.320kgs). The only problem I had was the birth as bubs head still wasn't engaged, my OB broke my waters, they put me on a drip to induce me for 2 hours still nothing except bubs heart rate dropped to 90 so they did an emergency c-section. Recovered from that with flying colours. My DS is a perfectly healthy little boy who'll be 3 in 2 months.

GOOD LUCK with whatever you decide.