libido

[mum2JLH]

Sorry if this is in the wrong area

My DS is 4 months old and i have lost my libido. I just dont want to have sex anymore. My poor hubby is missing out and wants it back. I want it back too.

I lost it in my second trimester.

Where is it and how do i get it back? Will it return?:confused:

[draught]

There have been many threads on this so I can assure you that you are not alone. One of the big libido killers is breastfeeding. Once you stop, things start to return to normal - part of natures way of making sure that all your babies aren't too close together.

Don't worry - it will come back - some take longer than others, but it does return.

[mum2JLH]

i stoped breast feeding 1 1\2 months ago.

[Miaow]

I know the feeling I lost it somewhere about the 2nd trimester also, Im hoping it comes back soon also..My BF is not overly impressed I can tell you

It doesnt help i spose having EJ in the same room - she usually wakes up or gets upset at the exact wrong times :rolleyes:

[mums the word]

Your body is probably telling you it needs alittle longer to recover from the birth, as well as the fact that you are probably not getting much sleep! I have always had a really strong libido but mine dissappeared for a while too. It came back again about 3 months ago, (my bubs 11 months now). I am still breast feeding and it is weird that my periods started again, about the same time my libido came back. Maybe just start off slowly, 'cos like everything, when you are out of practice you need to remind yourself of what you are missing.

[rylea's mum]

:( :(
i have a4.5 mnth girl and can not think of anything i rather not do!
i am in such a state that its getting scary to go to bed at night:eek:
my poor dp thinks the harder he tries the quicker ill get over it, i try tell him its not how it works and politly thats its turning me off even more, i mean im sooo glad he's attracted to me but i wish he would back off a bit, dont get me wrong he's not a monster he's just a man
i cant wait till i return to normal as even though i know theres nothing wrong with me in the back of my mind i think well maybe there is



:o

[Baby Girl]

While I was pg and bf DD1 I was like a crazy horny woman but once I stopped bf it took me about 2 years to actually want it again!! While I was pg with DD2 I had no libido and only got interested again once I stopped bf. Both times for me were the total opposite to each other - weird!!

It is a fact that the more you do it - the more you want it!! Something to do with the pheremones (sp) it creates in your body. I have no sure fire way to get it back but it must return at some point otherwise there wouldn't be brothers and sisters right??

Good Luck finding it ;)

[Mischief]

If you find it can you please draw me a map!?

I lost mine about mid 2nd trimester and it hasnt returned! Poor hubby is getting neglected, and when my mind is willing my body is weak. Nothing seems to work!!

I try to make an effort at least once a fortnight....I miss the intimacy too, and i know Steven does. I dont feel like my body is mine anymore though. I dont think that helps!

[stoked2be-a-ma]

I too lost mine but only at the end of my prenancy, in the first trimester I couldnt get enough! I wreckon my body was telling me sex would never be the same again! Bubs is now 1o months and DB still aint getting any action. I am still bf quite regulary at night and Corby is sleeping in our bed so I have excuses coming out of my ears! Tis very sad because I miss it too but us mums just get too tired and more annoyed when hubby wants to try. I mean we look after a child all day then tend to their needs all evening and when our heads hit the pillow it only means one thing - SLEEP O THOU PRECIOUS SLEEP! goodluck to all who are in the same boat x :p

[Mummabear]

Isn't sex something that you do to get pregnant. Aren't dolphins the only animals that do it for pleasure :confused: lol

I can't remember the last time I wanted it. Some time back in 2001 I reckon :eek:

I've heard that testosterone therapy can help as it is the male hormone that affects libido. DH is currently researching this and is trying to talk me into taking natural testosterone supplements. Knowing my luck I'd still have no libido but I'd have one hell of a beard :rolleyes:

[Ana Gram]

Mine still isn't back and DD is 2!

[Baby Girl]

Isn't sex something that you do to get pregnant. Aren't dolphins the only animals that do it for pleasure :confused: lolYep - dolphins and pigs! Lucky buggers :p

[KiLLaKaZ]

hmmm, i lost mine sometime not long after getting married about 3 years ago! but i think that was outta stress of living at my parents' house to start with.... :rolleyes:

i've heard that if u keep at it, it'll come back - the more u do it the more u want it, apparently... not sure if it's true or not, but at least it would prevent your partner straying & searching for it elsewhere!!! ;)