What to do?

[sweetbub]

Dh got a call last night they want himt o go oversea's. it will only be for 6 weeks as someone needs to come home urgently. He will go on thurs if we decided yes.

We had only just put the offer in ont he house which we are still yet to hear back about, Do we pull the offer out?, Should Dh go away?
so many things are going through our heads right now, I have taken a few days off to think things through.

My question is would you want your Dh to go away? Am I being mean if I say I don't want him to go, I mean the experience would be good for hima nd not to mention the extra money at a time like this. What is it really like oversea's is it safe like they say or are they just telling us that.

[majano]

My honest first thought was to let him go, and withdraw the house offer. He will have a good experience overseas, you will have a good self-bonding experience being alone for awhile, you will both be so excited to see each other again when he gets back you'll be like young lovers again! Valentine Chatting on the phone until all hours, counting the 'sleeps'. And then there's the extra cash as an added incentive. Plus, the house obviously was not meant to be, if this has come up. (Been there done that, these things DO happen for a reason!!)

BUT.......at the end of the day it's got to be YOUR decision (and your partners) and it has to be based on what you think is right.

Good luck! :thumbsup:

ETA: Can't comment on the 'safety' aspect of overseas travel. Although surely you can be confident that his company will do everything in their power to ensure his safety. But hey, at the end of the day, you could travel to every country in the world yet still be hit by a bus in your own street.

[sweetbub]

Thanks for your thoughts. It is a defence trip to a unsafe place so there will on talking on the phones etc. Which will be hard

[majano]

Hmm, okay that could make it a little more difficult. But in the scheme of things, 6 weeks really isn't that long - it's do-able. And I know when my DH goes away for work (albeit only for a week or so at a time), we are so excited to see each other at the airport (as are the kids), and then we have such quality time together for ages afterwards, like cuddling like crazy every time we walk within a few metres of each other! :o

Sounds like you need to have a good long chat about it. Good thing you're home from work to do so!

[Bree3]

Hey Kirsty,

Well talk about a bit of a blow. If it were me i would stick with the house as that will be more important and rewarding in the future. Six weeks is really such a short time to be changing big plans for. The way everything is at the moment in the Army there's a good chance that there will be more trips in the future.

Then again it it so only six weeks and although you might not get the house you want there will be others and the money would be good. I have been told that at the end of the year there are alot of properties for sale, buyers market, thats what we are holding out for.

I don't know either sorry Kristy, My DH hasn't gone overseas yet so i'm not sure what it's really like safty wise.

Goodluck and i'm sure you will choose the right decision for you and your family. Hope it doesn't cause too much of a headache either.

[Bree3]

Kristy if the risk of him getting hurt is high i would say no to the Army.

[sweetbub]

well we just got back from taking Dh to the airport :crying: and Jaxon is asleep. I have till monday off and my sis is coming tonight to keep me sane.
The house offer got rejected which could be a good thing.

[majano]

Stay strong sweetbub, he'll be back before you know it! :hugs:

[EandN]

Sorry to hear about him going away and not getting the house. It has to be a sign. The house was not ment to be yours.
Your husband will be fine. I know lots and lots of people who have been overseas and no one has been hurt. Where did he go to?
Your will probably get to talk to him more than you think. Well I hope so.
Just think, the money will come in handy for you house.
My partner is in the Army has has been for nearly 15 years so all of his friends are Army and the stories over where ever they have been are not that bad. My BIL is in the Army too and has had 1 timor trip, 2 iraq trips, one afganastan, a fiji, solomons and arche trips. And he is fit an well.

[Bree3]

Hey Kristy,

It will be alright and six weeks will go so fast even more so if you have your sister comming. DH goes away abit but only out bush but he usually goes for about six weeks or so. I always find the first week or two the hardest then after that it goes really fast. The last time DH went away I only had Maddy but was pregnant with Kaylee and thought i'd never make it through but my cousin came up and stayed and that made it so much easier to handel.

I hope you are ok and try not to worry too much my DH said that our guys are pretty safe over there. I use to work at the airport and see all the guys come back from overseas and see all their wives and kids waiting for them. I use to get all teary because everyone was just so happy to see each other again. I was pregnant at the time so i was teary at alot of things haha but it was great to see it.

Sorry to hear about the house maybe the next one will be the one. We found a place that is just perfect for us even has 3 bedrooms and a decent size yard. The only problem is that it's on the market now and we are not ready to buy till early next year.