Help Me with some positive vibes please

[HateWaiting]

I have already posted this in my TTC diary but i would love to hear your thoughts on my 'dilemma' this month. I suppose I am just in need of some positive feedback ... anything ...

I am in the 20th day of my cycle and 7dpo. Next friday (cd28) I am assuming that AF is due. I have nothing else to go by. AF could appear anywhere between cd26 to cd 32. :hair:

I have a feeling that I am not pregnant. My breasts are still sore but there arn't any extra veins. There is no bloating. I am not feeling sick. I have had headaches though. I am not tired (nothing extra anyway). I am not dizzy. I am not craving (not more than usual). I am not teary. I have had no more period pain since the other day. AND I have no more mucousy discharge. Nothing. Nada. Dry. Never did I think that the above would disappoint me. But alas, it does.

hmm Well, seeing that my cycle this month is leaving me feeling so different to my past cycles, maybe I am pregnant? Every cycle for the past year right before AF was due I have felt dizzy, sick, tired, crampy, bloaty, sore and craving all sorts of things. hmmm. I could convince myself of anything couldn't I?

A woman I know who has twin boys and is pregnant with her 3rd child, a woman who took her 3.5 years to have her first viable pregnancy, told me yesterday to ... wait for it ... she told me to:





RELAX.

Who would have thought that the mere activity (or lack thereof) of relaxing would mean I would fall pregnant. I am sure that if it was that easy there would be no such things as ovulation medication such as Clomid nor would there be the need for IVF and the like.

I thought that she would know better :shame:

I need some :wizard:

[rynosmum]

I'm sure that your friend is trying to help but I understand that perhaps she didn't word things in the best way.

It's really too soon to tell if you might be pregnant again so you may have to simply wait for the day when AF is due.

Best of luck - I hope your dream comes true this month!:babydust2:

[HateWaiting]

wow my post sounds rwally whiny and annoying. I am thankful for many things in my life...i would just really like to see that BFP.

and thanks for ur reply rynosmum: i didnt think anyone would reply. and u r right...it is too early to know

[rynosmum]

You're not whiny or annoying.

I feel your frustration - I've been there myself.

It's hard. The wait is hard and the anticipation is hard. Sometimes I think that TTCing and waiting for a BFP is like a cruel joke. Give you a couple of days to fall pregnant (but we won't tell you which days they are), then you can wait for a couple of weeks. We'll send you a few conflicting symptoms but take away the ones you thought you had. Only then, will you find out whether or not you are preggers.

I really do wish you the best.:fingerscrossed:

[HateWaiting]

:( :(

[HateWaiting]

is it only me that only one person replies when i start a thread or do others experience this?

i think its only me :(

[SuperWoman]

Hey hunny:wave:, I used to get the "just relax" and it will happen speech. It used to get me more angry:mad:! I think when people say that they musn't have anything else that they can think of to say. Your friend should know better than to say that though after she went through a wait to be a mother too. The one thing I learnt from struggling to get pregnant is never say "just relax" to anyone TTC:shame:!!

[HateWaiting]

Thanks Bradysmum! I dont feel so lonely anymore!! :) :)

[Roxy76]

You're not whiny or annoying.

I feel your frustration - I've been there myself.

It's hard. The wait is hard and the anticipation is hard. Sometimes I think that TTCing and waiting for a BFP is like a cruel joke. Give you a couple of days to fall pregnant (but we won't tell you which days they are), then you can wait for a couple of weeks. We'll send you a few conflicting symptoms but take away the ones you thought you had. Only then, will you find out whether or not you are preggers.

I really do wish you the best.:fingerscrossed:

I was going to write something along the same lines as this! :wizard::fingerscrossed:

The 2WW was always the longest 2 weeks ever and I would scrutinise every so called symptom! and ironically the month I got my BFP was the one I had the least "symptoms" it was DPO12 when I got my BFP and that was when I started feeling really dizzy and light headed also. And sore boobs! but not before that!

[HouseOfBlues]

I just want to wish you luck and I hope you get your long awaited :bfp: this mth

:hugs:

[SuperWoman]

Thanks Bradysmum! I dont feel so lonely anymore!!

Sending you lots of this :babydust2::babydust2: and this :fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[adelaideannie]

:babydust2:
:babydust2: RELAX RELAX RELAX hey what a concept! Frankie Goes To Hollywood was right wasn't he? I think this advice comes from people who have had NO problem falling pregnant! We are TTC#1 and I do shift work travel 80kms a day for work and have a stressfull job so I find it very hard to relax unless i get a few days off in a row so i am right with you on this advice being easier said then done! But your friend was just trying to help as well!:babydust2: :babydust2: :babydust2: hope you get a BFP soon honey! I to am :fingerscrossed: for this month!

[MellyMumma]

Hello

Firstly - and no I don't want you to slap me - yes relax is a good concept but in the sense of not stressing over having a baby etc. You're most likely to fall preg if you take the cycle in your stride and not obsess over every symptom etc. I'm not saying this to make you angry or upset. Its usually good to focus on something else and all of a sudden theres a baby in there - provided theres no health problems preventing.

Secondly some people don't get any symptoms of preg at all especially so early on - so you may well be preg right now!!! But then again you may not. Don't get disheartned as it will happen but at the right time. I know how you feel with the wanting - I'm a terrible wanter and when I want then I want it NOW!!! I've gone through many tears and arguments with dh because I want a baby now.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that you do get your precious bundle of joy sooner rather than later.

:babydust2: :babydust2: :babydust2: :babydust2: