Does anyone else suffer from early pregnancy related depression?

[sillysideup]

Hey there! just wondering if anyone else gets really blue in the early months of pregnancy. On one hand I am thrilled about bubs but still I feel very sad and cry a lot! Can't decide if it's just the hormones or not. My last baby (march 2006) didn't sleep thru at night until recently and the sleep deprivation was horrible (making me horrible too!). On top of that we've moved towns since then and I've left all my friends and family behind. No support - bugger! I guess I should be happy that I'm not morning sick yet (doesn't normally start until after 7 weeks with me). Maybe I'm just worried about never having any time to myself again when number three arrives (3 under 4). Maybe I'm just insane and need to :) more! I don't know. Think my brain turns to wet sponge during pregnancy/bf and I can't decide on anything. Nevermind - soldiering on ... cas

[QTB]

I dont get it in early preg...

but i had PND with #1 and im only just dealing with it now. i have been a bit weeping the last 24 hrs, but i know thats because im weaning off my anti-depressants...

I just hope i dont get pnd with this bub :fingerscrossed:

[Grace3]

Yep this is me.

I'm 14 weeks pregs with a planned No.3 and I have been struggling with feeling depressed for the last 10 weeks. The OB thinks its just my hormones and morning sickness.

I think it's a combination of a few things. Morning sickess, tiredness and no one who I can rely on. DH has been flying interstate for a week or two. And feel like i've been hit by a train, two activite toddlers and monring sickness and no family does make me have terrible down days.

Grace

[sillysideup]

Isn't it just horrible! I feel for you grace3 - big hugs from me! The lack of support makes things worse - you don't want to cry and be down in front of the kids do ya. I just keep hoing this will pass quickly as my body adjusts to the loads of new hormones. I had it with my first (every afternoon around 4.00pm I'd sit an cry for an hour!!) But not with the second. This time is seems to be mornings. :)If it helps to talk please feel free to stay in contact - I think I can understand. Hope today is a sunny one for you.

[Noah_and_Elijah]

Yes I am at the moment and have been for a couple of weeks but it's a mixture of the hormones and the fact that I have ALOT going on in my life at the moment.

Sleep deprivation doesn't help either... :no:

[Grace3]

I'm due to have an ultra sound at lunch today. I found seeing the baby, made me feel better for a couple of days before the gloominess settled in again. I've also got to popped into the hospital tomorrow so I am going to chat to them about watching me for PND after the bub is born.

It does help having friends and family about. Most of my friends work during the day and are busy on weekends. I barely have adult conversaton expect maybe with the check out chick at woolworths once or twice a week. But I find my friends have such a good family network that they don't understand completely.

[sillysideup]

Yeah - not having someone around to be able to take the kids for a few hours if you need some time out is hard work. With my other pregnancies I had mum ten minutes away. Now she is a hour and a half away. I miss her heaps. toddlers are also hard work some days. No time to sit and reflect quietly around her until after 7.30pm By then I'm pregnancy exhausted and usually asleep on the couch by 8.00pm. Just as well i have the two best kids in all the world. My one year old is sticking her uf9inger up my nose while I type this.

[Noah_and_Elijah]

I have my Mum in the room next door and I still don't get any help. Count yourselves lucky that you have family who are actually willing to help you when they can.

[sillysideup]

I have my Mum in the room next door and I still don't get any help. Count yourselves lucky that you have family who are actually willing to help you when they can.

I know you're right - I should be, my mum is great! The pregnancy hormones just don't want me to remember it. Got to go - now have a screaming one year old!

[Grace3]

I have my Mum in the room next door and I still don't get any help. Count yourselves lucky that you have family who are actually willing to help you when they can.

My family don't help either. They might see us 2-3 times a year if that. DH family live interstate, and I'm also an only child with no brothers or sisters.

Some days I feel like tearing my hair out and going for a very long walk.

[Grace3]

And you know what ticks me off.

They say well, you know you suffer from m/s, you should have been happy with your 2 kids.:mad:

[Noah_and_Elijah]

Yeah my Mum said to me to have an abortion because I can't look after one child let alone two! :mad:

[Grace3]

And in my parents case they received lots of help from my grandparents, and they only had me to look after.

My mother made a comment one day about a friend who was looking after her grandchild once a week. My mother replied she couldn't think of anything worse!!!

[Noah_and_Elijah]

At least we no NEVER to turn out like them. :no:

[Grace3]

Exactly right :thumbsup:

[Bex]

Im not really depressed just agro everything my DH does annoys me and I find it so hard not to snap. I cry alot to a the slightest thing even if he didn't mean it in a mean way. I even have lost a bit of patience with my DS1 who going through a rebellion stage.

With DS 2 My DH was away when I found out and was away up to 6 weeks at a time. He was home a maximum of 6 days at a time, till I was 6 months It was hard and very sadning. I was so glad when he stopped going away.

It may be just tiredness and hormones though this time around I am noticing my emotional affects are alot stronger.

[Noah_and_Elijah]

BronnyGrace - I am going through the same thing at the moment so I know how you feel. :hugs:

[sillysideup]

It' good to know others feel a bit up and down too. This afternoon I'm feeling much better. Been out to lunch with some playgroup mummies (none of whom know i"m pregnant yet). (I forgot too and had a huge coffee!) I think all the non-pregnancy stuff seems worse when you add the hormones and sleeplessness and morning sickness etc. Thanks for joining in and sharing - made me feel more in control of things just to be able to vent a bit. Did anyone watch that show on prime 7 last night about the babies/medical stuff. awesome pictures - made me cry!

[sillysideup]

I know - doesn't it just do something inside you to see them. (Glad you let me know they all survived I fell asleep before seeing if the little boy Gabriel's lungs got better). Hmmmhmm just makes me all mushy thinking about them!

[shereejoy]

I feel for you ladies. Gosh I struggle with one child and one on the way. But I do think living so remotely with no real close friends nor family does not help!

[Jacks Mummy]

Yes and no. Its all normal ladies. Dont ever feel like you are going through it alone because your not. I love the idea of beig pregnant I just wish that the hormones wouldnt screw with my head so much. Unfortunately that is the annoying thing about pregnancy.