Stop Me From Killing Him

[reAllytee]

I just want to scream or cry either one or maybe both at the same time.

Boof has been full on today being really aggressive etc.

Just as i decided to take a break to get on here while he finished his dinner off he decided to sneak the cream off the changetable & cover the amplifier in it. He then covered remotes, some toys, a cupboard & himself. This wasnt cheap cream btw it was a special natural nappy rash cream that costs a small fortune.

While i cleaned all of this up he stood next to me saying " oh look so clean mummy so clean " like he had done something worthwhile.

Ive had it, my head is pounding & DP doesnt get home for at least another hour as he has had meetings all afternoon.

He is now pouring water over his little fold out lounge & i really dont care. If he wrecks it thats his problem not mine.

I want to just walk out & leave him to fend for himself ... Ive really had it :gloomy:

[Shanaynay]

Well being no more than a username on a computer screen I can't do much to help - wish I could :( - but we all have days like this :hugs: Just keep calm and do your best to ignore it all maybe - even if that means he ruins his lounge ;)
Does hubby get home soon to help?
:hugs:

[reAllytee]

Yeah he should be home soon enough to help but im hoping the child will have been taken for free by then ... Im so nice arent i but yes im tempted to have a sign on him saying " free to good home or any home ! '.

He is now complaining his trackie pants are wet ... Well no sh!t sherlock you poured water everywhere :banghead:

[ButterflyMama]

Aww.. maybe put a DVD on and plonk him in front of it so he is distracted and gives you a break for a bit..

And dump him on your hubby when he gets home. ;)

:hugs:

[melfunction]

:hugs: Ally. I'm going through the same thing. It sucks.
I hate feeling like I am yelling at K all day everyday, so I put him in daycare. Gives us a break from each other and I get some real time with Lincoln.
I wish I had a simple answer for you.

[Beany]

I obviously don't know how you feel but am really sorry you are feeling that way :hugs:

Shove Barry in his general direction when he gets in and go lock yourself in the bathroom for an hour.

[PunkyDiva]

Deep breaths Ally and remove either him (making sure he is safe) or yourself from situation till you calm down. Have you got some icecream to eat??:D Give him some too then let DH deal with sugar high later whilst you are soaking in a bath. Lotsa :hugs:

If it's any consolation I had my first three under 4yo who all constantly did ****e like that, I had to go back to work cause I would have gone insane.

[mumx3littlies]

We went thru this between DD and DS2. She turned into the horror child and made our lives very difficult. Dont have much good advice aside from to walk away when he makes you that angry or go put him in his room with the door shut for a while. It does get better too. Hope your hubby gets home soon:yes: cos I know how it feels:banghead:

[leenaomi]

I'd love to help Allyoo but all my energy and willpower is being used up on stopping myself from killing my own DD!!! If I hear that high-pitched squeal or the word "no" one more I cannot be held responsible for my actions..... She's already given her Dad a scratch on the nose and a poke in the eye while swatting at him and telling him to "go away!" You are definitely not alone.

[V8]

Oh Ally, wish there was more we could do to help, but otherwise i can sympathise i had a day like that on Monday and i'm ashamed to say i told him in no uncertain terms to 'f' off! I feel bad, but i had such a crappy day, we all have our limits and they can be trying at the best of times.

[TwoBlue]

no advice (If I knew how to handle difficult toddlers my life would be roses wouldnt it :rolleyes: )

Anyway Ally... I just wanted to send massive :hugs:

Put yourself into a timeout... take a deep breath (or 10) and tell yourself that "this too shall pass"

:hugs:

[reAllytee]

He is in bed & im down here hiding or should that he is upstairs probably trashing all the rooms :rolleyes: .... Squeak is asleep for now which is something !

Wish i did have ice-cream i could go some right now !

Im tempted to open the bottle of wine sitting there waiting for me to stop b/f !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[motherhoodlmb]

Allyoo, I had a full on, active older child and I had this mantra - only 2 years til primary school, 1 year til primary school, 6 months til primary school. He's now in primary school!!!!

I loooooooooooove his spirit, but I have to say, he drained my introverted energy by being a full on extravert who needed attention and someone to play with all the time. That's why I had his younger brother LOL.

[Grizabella]

Ally - I have been experiencing this with Brion. Yesterday it took all of my strength NOT to leave him in the middle of the shops and walk away.

I found that the best thing for me to do is strap him TIGHTLY into his highchair (I am screwed when he outgrows it) complete with food and DVD, and then go for a shower. He gets sh!tty sometimes - but what I can't hear for that 5 minutes doesn't hurt him. Mean nasty and insenstive mothering maybe - but better that then a toddler chained to a streetlamp.

[Frazzled]

It's times like these when chocolate and Nick Jnr are a god send. :hair: Choc for you, Dora for Boof! Though the odd freddo has be known to satisfy young ferals attitude here for a while - go on call me a bad mum - I dare ya's!:shame:

DS in the high chair with a handful of sultanas or a peeled apple always works a treat too.

I am thinking of you, and remember I am only 10 mins away and am more than happy to come and collect him for a while if you ever feel its all too much - I mean that!:hugs:

[JnA]

:hugs: for you Ally. We are the same here if 'Little Miss No' (that's her new name) does something to her own stuff, I don't care... if something she owns gets broken or ruined by her, it goes straight in the bin.
She doesn't like it, but that's the way it goes, you ruin stuff, you don't get it anymore.

I hope your night improves and that by now you have had a nice long bath or shower and been able to relax.

All hail the mighty DVD and highchair for moments like these.

:hugs: