Why Wont He Go....???

[~MUMMY~]

i feel like i am failing in this area of child raising....

my son turned 3 last october which like a week before his birthday we started toilet training... took 2 days before he did his first pee in the potty... and since then we have made like no progress at all... except now we use the toilet instead of the potty....

Basically he will not tell anyone when he needs to go so i just take him like every 2 hours or so to the potty and he just about always squeezes one out (pee).... but sometimes he says he doesnt need to go then 5 mins later he has peed on the floor. he has NEVER done a poo in the toilet or potty he refuses to even try to do one on the toilet and again doesnt tell me when he needs to go... only after he has already done it in his undies or pull up.

after he pees or poos on the floor... he says... mummy i wont do it again i will go to the toilet like a big boy..... but he never does...

it's frustrating... his child care doesnt even take him to the toilet if he says he doesnt want to go (which he will ALWAYS say that but he WILL go if you take him anyway). he only goes a full day once a week.

i've tryed bribery with his most FAVOURITE thing which he will do ANYTHING for thomas stuff... but nope it is still sitting on my desk 3 months laster waiting for him to use the toilet all by himself without someone having to make him go.
i've tryed a sticker chart...
i've tryed treats and i have promised to buy him a bloody bike if he will go.... NOTHING is working...

im a young mum i have never toilet trained a kid before even my mum is trying when he stays at her house but she gets the same reactions from him...

i dont yell at him when he pees or poops in his pants. i just tell him . look big boys use the toilet when they need to go do pee pee or poo. and he says ok. but still doesnt.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH !!!! i would rather have no sleep for the forst 3 years all over again which im still not getting any rather than having to toilet train....

omg my 5 month old puppy was easyer to toilet train than my 3 yr old son.....

PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE HAVE A ANSWER TO MY CRIES FOR HELP !!!

[sugar n spice]

Sorry no answers but i have talked about the same issue before so check out my threads. My son is 4 1/2 and is only just fully toilet trained, too a yr but hey where there. the odd accident but pretty rare, i havent targeted night time yet i will wait for now. Boys do take longer i am just glad he did it just before kindy started only 1 wk before kindy did he start pooing in the toilet. i do find the best toilet seat is the one with the steps and seat, ethan( my son) puts it on when he needs to pooh and then folds it up and puts it away. he stands peeing but only started that this year before he was sitting i think it was becuase he was to short before. My son does poohs because it means a toy, problem is it works out expensive and he has tooo many toys but at least it worked. THUNDERBIRDS ARE GO!!!, my son loves them thats his reward and well it makes him go. lol
good luck

[~MUMMY~]

thanx...
it isnt like my son is scared of the toilet ...he sits and pees and doesnt mind going when i make him....

night times he doesnt even wet his nappy half the time i forget to put one on him... he has GREAT baldder control and will hold for hours... (IF HE WANTS TO)

i praise my son like CRAZY when he goes he LOVES it !

so why wont he go unless i make him.....

[sugar n spice]

I found my son could hold on like 1/2 a day i think its lazziness and that they are too busy.

[~MUMMY~]

thats exactly what i have out it down to lazyness....

like he cant be botherd coming to tell me he needs to go...

he doesnt even make a deal about it.,.. he doesnt care he peed on the floor or wet his pants... he just causally walks in.... "mum i did pee pee " so i change him he shows me where he did the pee so i can clean it up and he goes back to playing....

[sugar n spice]

typical boys, lol. yeah its gonna take time and i sympathise as i have only just got past it a few wks ago.

[~MUMMY~]

i guess the reason for this post was just to vertify im not a bad parent and it isnt something i am doing wrong.....

my kid as always in every step and obstical in his life is being stubborn once again. first with dummies then bottles now toilet training... and i have given up all hope for a full nights sleep...

[bronny-jane]

do you know any other boys his age that are toilet trained, or even an older cousin or friend, like under 8, some one your son looks up to, cause i found that theres nothing quite like a bit of peer pressure to get things moving along.

[~MUMMY~]

no he is the ONLY kid in our family including cousins close friends etc... everyone else is over 15 ! no kids at all... and he has no little friends. cause we dont know anyone with kids.
thats why i send him to day care... just so he can be with other kids.
it would make like ALOT easyer he likes to coppy kids , then he will actually believe me kids DO need to use the toilet.
:rolleyes:

[slick2]

I've been toilet training my son (2 1/2) since January. I am trying to get him trained before no 2 arrives hopefully soon. Like yourself I have been sooo frustrated and tried everything from praise to stickers, stamps, lollies, etc. I've basically been taking him every couple of hours or after meals. Luke would just hide and come and tell me when he'd done it. I would make him go stand in the toilet where I would wipe him over and put on clean undies. I would also not growl but show my disappointment and reinforce the fact that you don't wee in undies only in the toilet.

I use a seat with a step on the toilet. But last week I bought a small step and forced my DH to go with my son and show him how to stand up and pee. I also took him myself and showed him how to hold it and "Shoot the bubbles in the water or just shoot the water". (I wasn't too keen on putting a ping pong ball in as some suggest). This has somehow seemed to work and he now tells me when he needs to go. We've only been a week without accidents but fingers crossed it lasts.

I'm also having problems with poos, which he won't do in the toilet. I read somewhere that you should try reading to them but after an hour in the toilet trying to coax him into going I gave up. At the moment he waits until nap time when I put a nappy on and does it in that. I figure it's better than having to clean it off his jocks and better than him holding it in and getting constipated.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

[maybe1more]

Im going thru the same thing!!! My son is 2 1/2 and ive still put nappies on him for his night sleep and day sleep and other then that ive been putting his jocks on with out much sucess, i put his jock on in the morning after taking his night time nappy off and i keep asking him every 10 minutes if he needs to go and he said to me "not yet mummy" then 2 minutes later he calls me and he has wet him self, ive also try sitting in the toliet will him and reading a book, but after an hour he`s done nothing:confused: Ahhhhh! I know its no going to be easy and it hard to know what will work best for him, im not sure wheather to buy the "pull up" as ive hear that they dont work because thay still feel like a nappy, can anyone recommed 'pull ups' or do you think there a waste?

[~MUMMY~]

they are A waste of money and i hate them !!! my son says they are just nappies he knows the work in the same way normal nappies do so he uses them like a normal nappy ! he uses them for day care cause he wont use the loo for them either and he uses them at night times even though if you dont change it after they have done a pee the next pee that comes out will flood it and make it leak. and he uses them when we go shopping or out somewhere.