full time working mummies...

[shinebrite]

Well Im currently working partime 8-1 evryday. DH has just started a plumbing apprenticeship with his brother who owns the business who is paying above award but not exactly anything that is going to allow us for mistakes, clothes or social events even with me working! so yeah fun fun! SO i am looking at having to go to work full time. we just cant afford to live like this its rediculous! SO I was wondering if any mums out there work full time I feel like Im the ONLY person in the world who has a young bub and is going to work full time... it doesnt sem fair but atm im putting mind over matter and when I hear the words "I wouldnt or couldnt do that to MY child" from other mothers i am really succeeding in telling myself to JUSt put it OUT of my mind I have NO choice its horrible I know... So anyone? any experiences you would like to share?

[Shanaynay]

Hi :wave:
Well I don't work full time but I study full time, I'm at Uni 4 days a week - I leave home at 7:45am and get home at 5:45pm. It's really draining. It's really hard.
I get that too, like I have this easy choice to stay home or not - well I don't really - what's my choice - to go out and finish my degree so I can get out into the workforce and support my kids myself - or just stay home and let the taxpayers pay my bills :confused:
Makes me so mad :mad:
And sad :(

[mz sv6]

I am single fulltime workin mum i work between 12-15 hours a day i leave home about 7am and sometimes dont get home till 9:30pm. i really dont get a choice weather i do or not get to stay at home with my ds cause my ds father doesnt help me out with any money and i dont wonna be stuck on centrelink payments cause i wonna support myself n my ds on my own n i also move out of my mums place and into my own. Its really hard n its really drainin and i hate leavin ds when i go to work but it wat i gotta do

[Chickadee]

I went back to work part time, 3 days a week, when DD was around 5 months old. But there would be busy periods when I would work 5 days a week for a few weeks. I finally went back to full time for good when DD was 3 and a bit years old.

The transition from part time to full time was harder than I thought it would be. I miss the days I used to have with DD to do whatever we wanted.

[SimplyMum]

I am currently working part-time and studying part-time. I've just moved out of home (today!) and my sis has moved in with us for approx 6 months (until she finds a house to buy), so at the moment, I am not struggling as much as I will be in 6months.
When my sister moves out I will be going back full-time and studying by correspondence (not sure how many subjects at one time yet).

The opinions of others can sometimes get me down but the way I look at it is that what's my other choices?
This way I'll be teaching DS that it is not acceptable to just sit back and wait for things to happen or constantly let other people pay your way through life. You MUST get off your bum and get out there. My ultimate goal would be to send DS to a private school which is the SOLE reason I am working and studying. I don't want to be the boss of a big company, I just want to earn enough so I can pay my bills and send DS toa private school. I have 3 years to do this.
I also hope Ds will look at his Mummy and be proud of her one day. Knowing that he meant so much to her that she worked, studied and tried to make sure that he had a good start in life.

We can only hope!:rolleyes:

[bigglet]

I find that the most judgmental people can be other mothers.

I work full time and the amount of flack I get from other mothers (and these are usually strangers!) is just horrendous.

Ignore them and just know that you're not the only one out there that has to work - I actually admire working mums because not only do we have to do what every other mum does during the day but we have to do the same work after work hours (cooking, cleaning, shopping etc)

Anyway even Princess Mary has to work!

:)

[tiggles]

Do what you have to do to provide for your family.

IGNORE anyone trying to judge you.

I went back to work 2 days a week when DD was 7 weeks old, I had to as I was running my own business. I was back to 4 days a week before she turned one.

I put DD in family day care which was brilliant and her family day care "mum" was just like another nana to my daughter.

Good luck

Something funny, I had a client who was very judgemental re me working, but this woman who had 3 adopted children, had all 3 in boarding school in the same city.. who was she to judge me!

[MumOfTwoBoys]

I am working full time with 2 children. I also cook from scratch, iron, clean, check my son's homework, read to him every night, etc. The point is - it's possible and there is nothing wrong with it. As other people pointed out it will be hard both physically and emotionally and yes, you will inevitably feel guilty at times that you are not with the bub when he needs you. Couple of tips:

1. Find the best childcare that you can afford (in case your family cannot help with the babysitting). This will be both good for you bub and will reduce your guilt as you will know that he is well looked after.

2. Make sure that the job you find is a family friendly environment, especially your boss. Having a child equates to occasional family emergences so you should be able to come later or leave earlier, when necessary.

3. Save your sick leaves, when possible. You will need them when your bub gets sick.

Good luck.

[Missus S]

I work full time and still see my DD each morning, each night and all weekends. I certainly don't feel like I'm missing anything and her childcare centre is just brilliant................they do all types of amazing activities and she loves it. Plus she spends 2 days with my Mum and absolutely adores her.

A friend of mine who once bagged childcare years ago saying "she hated it when she was young and would never put her child in childcare"..................now has her little boy in childcare. Pfft :p

Sure it would be ace if none of us had to go out and earn a living....................but it's just not the way it is. Remember "we must become the people we want our children to be" :yes:

[naybee]

Remember "we must become the people we want our children to be"

Love this!

I went back to work part time when DD was 5 months old and slowely built up my days. I now do 4 days per week (and she is in daycare from about 7.30am until about 5pm when DH picks her up).

It's hard, long and tiring, and at times I do feel guilty that I am missing out.... but I enjoy the lifestyle that working allows us, I love knowing that we will be able to afford to send DD to a private school, I love my job and I really enjoy the social aspect of working.

Working makes me a better and more well rounded person, and therefore a better and more well rounded mummy.

And you know what? It's not as uncommon as you might think. I work for a large company and at the moment, in my team we have 4 full-timers (women) who all have children under the age of 3.

[hartwig2007]

Hi Everyone

At present I am a stay at home mum and my husband is working 6 to 7 days per week every week. An opportunity became available back at my old organisation (which I am currently taking maternity leave from) as a team leader. The pay is fantastic and means that dad could be a stay at home dad. The trouble is that my son is only 3.5 months old and it is a full time position.

I know that I don't have the stress of finding or sending my son to day care etc, but I can't shake the sad and guilty feeling I am having since accepting the position. I am so worried that I am going to miss out on everything and really feel like a bad mum.

Have any of you ever been in a similar situation?

Thanks for letting me vent. I need to get it all off my chest!

[chefalicious]

hi:)

i returned to work when dd was 6 months old.... i work fulltime plus i go to tafe. i work 4 days a week 12pm - 10pm...... and plus tafe for 9hrs 8am - 5 pm.... my daughters loves going to spend time at grandmas and is always excited to see me the next morning..... my dh works fulltime aswell and he has our dd from 4pm onwards, so its great that they gt some daddy time together:) as much as i would have like not to go back to work or even part time, we are a much happier household not having to worry about where the next dollar is coming from ( although money is still sometimes tight:))

goodluck deciding what you will do

[shinebrite]

Hartwig :hugs: youve just gotta do what youve just gotta do! if your hubby can be the stay at home dad then thats better than childcare. I look at it as though im going and providing for my baby girl. that when we get ontop we will be able to buy an invetment property and next time I have a bubba I wont have to work as much... vent hun thats what we are here for

[Rachael]

I work fulltime, have since DS was one month old and DH stays at home.

I miss DS but you do what you have to and I make sure I spend lots of time with DS in the afternoon/evening and on the weekends.

[shinebrite]

Racheal its funny Ive just come to agree that I JUST gotta do what I just gotta do! Im applying for a better paying full time job this week and if I get it it will be SO much better because we will be better off and I will hopefully be able to save up some money so that when ive been there for a year I can get preggers and get my maternity leave and go back to work when my leave is up....

Ive just stopped thinking about it, not lettin myself say that I wana stay home... I just have NO choice! And I realy wana set myself and my family up for the rest of our lives... hopefuly buy an investment property so we never get in the position we are in now... its been a scary couple of weeks and the next ones dont look that MUCh better but at least we have a plan... this is a great thread i didnt realise how many full time mums there were its good to know your not alone...

[Linda79]

You know I had exactly the same 'worries' about going back to work but when I worked out the 'money' part of it I wouldn't have been bringing much home at all after I paid out child care, petrol and car maintenance costs and lunch expenses, plus there was the fact that I wouldn't see my baby much and I'd probably be up 'til nearly midnight most nights catching up on housework, cooking, washing and preparing to do it all over again the next day, phew! So I thought there just has to be an easier way so I did alot of research on home based businesses (and I mean ALOT of research!!) and I actually found an on-line business where I make quite a lot of money :yelclap: yet I only put in a few hours a week and the start up cost was very minimal - it's great! :smiliedance:

So my suggestion would be to just have a look around, do some research and see what other options are out there, it's worth a try, I'm glad I did now. If you want to send me a private email I'd be happy to help you out, otherwise you can just to g*ogle searches or check out some of the home based business magazines.
Hope this helps! :)

[EskimoMumma]

Hey I have felt that way too.

I currently work fulltime. Its great. I miss the kids but at the same time i love the adult interaction and being Heather. Not mum :)

Just a word of advice, it will be really hard doing both home job AND fulltime job..(it is for me)so try and do as little as you can around the house.

Best of luck.

[SimplyMum]

Remember "we must become the people we want our children to be" :yes:

I love this! This has become my new slogan!!!

[shinebrite]

Just a word of advice, it will be really hard doing both home job AND fulltime job..(it is for me)so try and do as little as you can around the house.

Best of luck.


HA HA HA I think since being at work my house is SO much cleaner because I get up clean goto work come home clean cook dinner clean goto bed and then the cycle goes on and on and on!!! Im SO tired though