Just a simple phone call!!!

[heymamma]

Hi everyone,
I am very upset or angered at the moment & have been for a few weeks now :(
My family all live in sydney & i moved to the goldcoast. Now i'm not sure if its because they are mad at me for moving here or what but they never call!
My mum does sometimes & i know its not cheap but telstra has all these plans now where you can get std numbers for like $2.50 for up to 3hrs...thats pretty cheap i think. But yet i never hear from my sisters or friends ,, the friends thing doesnt bother me as much as my sisters, I sent my sister's & mother xmas presents, 1 of my sisters said thankyou & rang up & my mother also but my other 1...didnt even call or anything i also sent my niece pjs for her bday she didnt even ring to say she got them or even a thanks. For xmas all i got was a sms merry xmas & new years eve i sent them a sms to say happy new yr...didnt even get one back. I'm so hurt by all of this i dont know what i've done wrong :(
My sister had a baby im sure some of you read the post. But we havnt had money so i havnt been able to send a present. im going to get a card this week just to say sorry its late but congrats & it was also her bday so a sorry its late card. But times wernt the best for money my lil girl was starting school & man you need to win lotto these days just to send them. :rolleyes: But i have not recieved one pic of the new baby from my sister, i send pics of the kids every week, I got 2 pics from my mum of her but thats it. My sister can find the time to send me stupid email (you know the jokes n stuff) but cant find time to pick up the phone or even send me an email saying how things are. I have 3 kids 2 very young close together but i still find time to send an email or phone!! My other sister has a 3yr old boy & i have never recieved a photo of him ..only one my cousin sent to me. I have seen him as he was almost 2 when we moved up here but in over a yr not 1 photo!!
Im sorry but im venting im just very upset & hurt im not sure what i have done wrong.

[tyler's mum]

sorry to hear about this,,, its bad when your own family can't make time for you,,, i know the feeling ive had it my hole life from my family,, [aunty, uncles, cousin] they all fav my sister over me,,, my sister doesnt have any babies,,, but they all call her for her b'day, ring her and so,,,, half of them didnt even come to see tyler when she was born,,, im very close to my mum and dad,,, and my sister [well some times:rolleyes: ..lol] but it still hurts the rest of the family dont give a crap

i know its a little different to you,,, but the way i see it now if if they cant make time for me and now for my daughter then i dont want them in our lifes.... hope you feel better soon:D and hey your always got bub hub...lol:D

[aardvark]

I know where you are coming from.

DH is peeved with his mother. She didn't ring her only grandchildren for their birthday last month. No card, no call, no present. She didn't call for his birthday, either.

It doesn't take much to at least call people, even briefly.

[kimmy]

Awww that's sad, i know how you feel tho.
I moved up here & left my older bro & sis down in NSW, Ive been up here for like 9 yrs & i hardly ever hear for my bro & know that i had an argument with him i haven't talked to him for 10 mths & its breaking my heart :( he wont even answer my Calli's.
But my sis she is great, I'm always talking to her even tho I'm the one that makes all the std calls but every b,day or X-mas she sends up a liil something for the kids.
Maybe if you send her an email telling her nicely her not calling or sending e-mails with out jokes is making you feel.
Hugs for you XXXX i hope you work something out.

[Peaceangels]

Sorry to hear your family is giving you a bit of grief atm.

Have you tried telling them how you feel. They probably assume that you are having a great new life and don't need them?

If you have a chat with them, maybe things might turn around. They might just say "sorry we didn't realise you felt that way"...................

[heymamma]

Yeah i just sent both of them an email....just to ask how there going ..tell em a few things going on here etc... so we will see... by the way thanks you ladies are great!!:)

[kimmy]

Awww we think your great tooo :p

[Rell]

I know exactly how you feel. All my family are in NSW and the only one who bothers to call me is my mum:( Even on my birthday its only mum and sometimes dad who call. The thing that really gets me anoyed is my two brothers always forget my kids birthdays. I know its not an issue with money for them its just that they could not be bothered. I always call their kids and send a present (sometimes a little late) but my kids get nothing:( Funny thing is I still do most of the organising for joint presents for mum or dad even thought I live nowhere near them.
As for friend I have 1 friend who calls all the time the rest have all disapeared.
Thankfully I have made some great friends since moving to QLD who actualy bother to call me.
Hope thing get a little better for you soon

[heymamma]

I actually i think there is a quote or song like that " always the one's that love you hurt you the most"

[cwsmum]

hey
I know how you feel
My family all live within 5 mins drive of us and they still don't bother to come visit or call. We go visit them most weeks, just coz we are usually out anyway so we call in...and my parents have a pool and its been soooo hot....
My sis who lives in NT calls/emails/writes more often. the the rest of my family.
My In-laws are 45mins away, and they are no better...they only call when it will benifit them :rolleyes:

[KiLLaKaZ]

my family is pretty tight - we have a great time when we're together - a few times a year (b'days, easter, christmas, etc), but i think that's coz the rest of the time we hardly have any contact ;) we're not as close as some families i see, but i know a heck of a lot of ppl that r jealous of the relationship between my family members!

i only get phonecalls from my mum when she needs to know something/ tell me something important (like my uncle passed away!) my sisters sms me a little to wish me happy b'day/ merry christmas, etc or to let me know if there's something happening that they're inviting me to, like a b'day dinner for an immediate family member, or to ask if i want to 'go in' for a present for an immediate family member. tho, now that i'm pregnant i've been smsing them with updates (like my US results, etc) & they sms back expressing their excitement. it would be nice to have a closer relationship with them, but they have their own lives that seem to come first! :rolleyes: but, i guess when we were all together in the one house - there was A LOT of bickering... being TOO close was tough, too it seems!