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reAllytee
14-08-2007, 20:35
Hope you are prepared for this saga !

I had decided I wanted this birth to be as natural as possible but was also realistic about needing help if need be. I employed a Doula who gave me books to read & a cd called '25 Way To Awaken Your Birth Power'. I also got the book called 'Birth Skills' by Juju Sundin featuring Sarah Murdoch. I found this to be easy to read & understand plus was also easy for DP !!! hehehe. I practised all of skills breathing, visualisation etc not knowing what I would be comfortable with when the time came but wanting to be prepared. Was still petrified especially after Boof's birth but had so much positive support in the end it was awesome.

After having pre-labour pains weeks ahead of my due date I was sure this baby was going to arrive early. Then a week out I got the flu & ended up with bronchitis so everything stopped.

On Tuesday 7/8/07 I woke up early morning with mild labour pains I was overdue & thinking " meh will probably all go away as usual ! ". They started to become regular so I asked DP to stay home because maybe this was it. They became irratic & all over the place so we tried to get things going by doing some more walking & using the exercise ball but to no avail. By the time I went to bed I had no pains at all so resolved myself to going to the hospital the following day for day assessment in regards to induction.

I remember waking a few times through the nite having some mild pains again but wasn't worried. Boof woke around 5am on Wednesday 8/8/07 & came into us which is when I realised I was having pains every 10mins but still fairly mild. At 6am DP got up & started getting ready for work because we thought he may as well go as my mum & sister would come to the hospy with me. By 7am while they were still 10mins apart they had become stronger & something made me want him here so decided to make him stay home again.

DP took Boof downstairs to start the day to allow me to stay in bed & rest a little longer because we knew we were in for a long haul. At 8am I asked DP to call my mum & sister to let them know what was happening but that I still wanted them to come so they could take Boof when it was time. They of course got into a flap lol. We advised my Doula that things were happening but we would wait due to it still being early for her to come round & I was coping no dramas.

When my mum & sister arrived around 9am I got up & decided I had better call the hospy as I hadn't advised I wouldn't make the appointment. I spoke with the Birthing Unit who advised me I should still go in & be assessed because wait for it " it may all stop " ( ggggrrrr geees way to make me feel awesome ! ). So we got ourselves organised leaving my mum with Boof.

Got to the Assessment Unit & the midwife took one look at me asking if I was ok. To which I nearly burst into tears saying I was having contractions 10mins apart & I just wanted to stay at home. She was absolutely wonderful saying she couldn't believe BU had made me come in & got me comfy in a recliner. She chatted away with DP & I through all of this helping me keep my mind off it all etc cause laying on my back made me more uncomfy. I was monitored for an hour & a half to which she advised the contractions were really good but still classified as irratic.

The next step was to have an internal if thats what I wanted & if that was favourable I could then have a S&S. I decided to take the internal even though I could be dissappointed with the outcome & I was LOL ! My cervix was still closed but as the midwife said this meant nothing & not to let it get me down. She advised that she would book the induction for Monday morning but that she expected me to have bubs by the weekend or maybe tonite if I was lucky ! By this stage I kept thinking this was going to become exactly the same journey as I went through with Boof was trying to be positive but it was hard. On the way out of the hospy I saw the midwife who had looked after me for the majority of the pregnancy she started reminding me of positions & to walk & rock etc. She really pushed the postives onto me so made me perk up a little more.

So it was back home ! My sister went & got us all lunch as I decided it was best to have everyone there to take my mind off things & help me relax. By 3pm the contractions were a little stronger so I went back upstairs to lay down & relax. This allowed me to use the cd my Doula gave me this was just the best thing. It helped me relax & breathe which allowed me to stay in control. DP kept coming upstairs to just be with me & to give me my heat pack as needed otherwise he kept Boof occupied with my mum & sister while tidying things up around the place etc. My mum & sister decided after 4.30pm it was best they get Boof home so he could have dinner & get to bed as well as allowing us to rest or go for walks as needed etc.

Around 5.30pm DP & I started walking around the block the pain was way more intense so I had to rock through each contraction. We started to try the stomping which helped make the contractions stronger I found it wasn't working for me so just continued walking normally. All the while DP was amazing helping me remember how to breathe through them. He also reminded me of my mantras such as 'This is healthy pain' & 'That I was a contraction closer to meeting our baby'. I was beginning to hate those words !

We came back home around 6.30pm so I used the exercise ball in the lounge room while DP had dinner but I became tired again so wanted to go back upstairs & lay down. We watched 'Thank God Your Here' & 'House' with me breathing through contractions & rocking on all fours on the bed. Things were beginning to intensify at 7mins apart but I kept thinking we had plenty of time so when DP said he would have my Doula come out I told him just to update her but nah things weren't urgent yet. We both decided he needed some rest so he went & had a sleep on Boof's bed while I kept timing my contractions myself & had the cd up quite loud by this stage trying to keep myself calm. I started hating the cd immensely & wanting the woman to go jump. I tried a few different positions etc to help with pain but nothing felt right except the breathing which now had added vocalisation at the exhalation. Everytime I exhaled I would breathe the pain out with an "aah" while rocking on all fours or on my side tapping my feet together.

At 11pm DP woke up after his power nap & decided whether I liked it or not he was calling BU & my Doula lol. BU advised that I still stay at home while I was coping but for him to put me in the shower then call when we were ready to come. I had the shower but hated it funnily enough because I couldnt hang onto anything through the contractions so got out after 30mins which is when I started vomitting. The thought came to me that maybe this was transition but being the negative basket case that I am all I figured it could be was me reacting to the pain like I did through Boof's entire birth. I remember hanging onto the vanity taps in our bathroom for grim death my 'aahs' becoming louder as the pain became stronger & every 5mins. DP kept me breathing & 'aahing' when I would feel overwhelmed.

I managed to get back downstairs where I threw myself over our ottoman rocking & sooking saying " I want drugs & lots of them, anything I don't care anymore I want the morphine, the gas, the epidural everything ! ". DP kept me going with lots of encouragement ... I hated him. My Doula arrived & she took turns with DP holding my hands as I leant over the ottoman breathing & banging my feet their pure presence was all I needed they made me feel like I could do it. I was still using my 'aahs' as I exhaled through the contractions but as DP reminded me I wasn't doing it right & that I wasn't loud enough etc. I started following my Doula & his queues which helped but I still begged for drugs. It was around 1am that I started asking to go to hospy because I really wanted the drugs. DP & my Doula were fantastic in saying let's see how we would go through the next 3 contractions because they knew how I didn't want to go to hospy too early. They held me off for another 20mins or so when we got organised to leave.

The drive to the hospy was agony. I thought I was dying to be honest lol the pressure from sitting down was excruciating & I was groaning the 'aahs' out by this stage. Thought I woke the neighbourhood up when leaving due to it & couldn't believe I was being so vocal. Arrival at the entrance to the hospy at around 1.45am saw me trying to walk through the doors with contractions every 3mins apart. A security guard advised DP that they could get me a wheelchair to which DP said " It's ok she will walk ". I nearly killed him on the spot I swear I screamed I wanted the wheelchair but DP has since told me I just said I wanted it in a normal voice lol. All I kept thinking was " I want drugs, drugs " & as far as I was concerned upon arrival at BU I was going to have lots of them ! My wheelchair arrived which caused a fight between a security guard & the orderly cause he stood with the chair a few metres away while I rocked through yet another contraction. The security guard told him off saying he should come round behind me saying I shouldnt be made to walk etc etc lol. He was a grumpy old man who then decided he would tell me how I should get through each contraction ! This apparently meant breathing a particular way I nearly choked him ! As I was breathing etc it just happened to be in a particular way which helped ME !



To Be Continued ....

reAllytee
14-08-2007, 20:39
Upon arrival at BU I was taken straight through to my room quickly but had one contraction on the way then another just as I got out of the chair. The midwife then asked me to put a hospy gown on & pee in a jar .. Seriously what was with everyone !!! I just wanted drugs & you want me to pee in a freaking jar !!!!! I couldn't even manage to get out of my clothes without the help of DP & my Doula. The midwife then realised that my contractions were one on top of the other so just asked me to get onto the bed to get checked. Well I could barely manage to move let lone get on the freaking bed ! Somehow I got there in the end though with lots of swearing & horrible thoughts about hurting everyone in that room going through my head lol !

Once on the bed was when it all started happening & was when the midwife got into gear cause she realised it was all systems go. The only one major light that was on was switched off & the moment I was on the bed my body started pushing. I started freaking out because this happened when I was having Boof the only problem was I wasn't dialated etc which is why I took the epidural etc. All I kept thinking was " oh no not again !!!! ". My midwife was awesome as was DP & my Doula calming me down. They tried to get me to have the gas at this stage because I was freaking out & not breathing properly as soon as the mouthpiece was in my mouth I spat it out. It was horrible to try & breathe a different way & I just couldn't do it. The midwife advised she could see membranes & that I was fully dialated so could push when I was ready but quickly had to leave the room as she grabbed the head middie.

This was when I started getting anxious cause I didn't want to be on my back & the middies knew this as they quickly rushed through my birth plan. Because my body was already pushing though they asked whether I just wanted to stay like that to which I advised no I want to be up. So they quickly got the bed up then helped me move to get a bean bag on the bed also to make me more comfy. I gripped the back of that bed for grim death which is when my body started pushing again & it was amazing ! It did all the work by itself & it was scary as well as exhilarating. I felt like it was pushing so hard from my armpits all the way down it was so full force it almost made me stand through each push.

The first push was uneventful then the second came in a rush which saw my waters break. DP & my Doula stood at either side of me encouraging me. DP was yet again amazing & I can honestly say this was an amazing experience that we both went through. The third had me freaking out as I realised I could feel Bumps head I started saying " Oh my God, oh my God !!! " the midwives tried to have me pant at this stage to help his head come without damage but my body wouldn't stop pushing so the next contraction hit & his head arrived. The next thing I knew another contraction hit which was number 5 & Bump arrived sliding out onto the bed ! This was when the total reality hit & I started saying " I DID IT, I DID IT !!!!! ".

It was 2.11am Thursday 9/8/07 ( we had joked about making Bump arrive on the "cool" date lol ! ) & Bump was passed up inbetween my legs where I got to find out whether I had a boy or a girl. I had a feeling it was a boy & yep so he was heh ! He was perfect & I just couldn't believe it was all over. He was put straight to the breast where he started to feed. This was such a different experience so so much different. I was in total awe of this little being.

I was made comfortable on the bed & advised I had torn again *sigh* so would need stitches once the placenta arrived. We were then left to allow the placenta to make its arrival with our little man feeding but 30mins later after the cord had stopped pulsing & me becoming impatient I opted for the jab. An hour later & this still didn't work & everyone started worrying so the head midwife suggested I be propped on a bed pan to use a bit of gravity to help it along. My Doula also then started having me breathe through my uterus contracting ( because OMG how this freaking hurts like hell the second time around !!! ) we also were using this to help me relax in order to let my placenta go. It took an hour & a half in the end but it came out in one piece thank goodness ! My poor middie was starting to get upset for me cause as she said to think I got the birth I wanted etc then to think I could've needed surgery to remove the placenta was so upsetting ! She was gorgeous felt so terrible I got cranky with her hehe.

Anyways I was then finally seen by the Ob who advised me that yes the tearing was pretty bad again but only a 2nd degree. I was worried it had gone to my urethra this time but no was pretty much all the same amount of damage done like last time without all the internal stuff. I needed two locals & this was when I used the gas lmao & boy was that great ! It took over half an hour to stitch me again but hey least I knew what I was in for this time ! So still rather sore & sorry for myself but nowhere near as exhausted like I was with Boof it all came to an end ! I feel so different this time its amazing but I think I will take the drugs next time hahahahahahaha !

Melo
14-08-2007, 20:48
Wow, finally finished!

Congratulations on the birth of Griffin!

So glad it was a bit easier this time around!

misskittyfantastico
14-08-2007, 20:48
Oh Ally! I am an overly emotional pregnant lady - I nearly flooded the freaken study reading that!

You are a real inspiration. I know you doubt your strength at times, but boy oh boy - you are one incredible woman.

Congratulations:hugs:

AM
14-08-2007, 20:50
Awesome read, thanks!:)

Jeclipse
14-08-2007, 20:50
holy moly
that took awhile to read!:laughing:

lol

Congratulations Ally:yelclap:
and thats one great/long birth story:p

honeydew
14-08-2007, 20:51
Thanks for sharing! Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy :) You did an amazing job!

*Chels*
14-08-2007, 20:54
WOW Ally,what an awesome birth story!!
Congrats!:yelclap:

Mamaduke
14-08-2007, 20:54
Beautiful, just beautiful Ally...you did it! I always knew you could.
Well done my dear friend :hugs: and your little boy is absolutely gorgeous...
and a big well done to Barry too!:thumbsup:

borntobemummy
14-08-2007, 20:56
:crying: :hugs: that was beautiful and inspirational, I'm so happy you did it Ally!!!

Beany
14-08-2007, 20:56
I'm not pregnant or over emotional and I got a little misty-eyed at all that!

Well done Ally :hugs:

Pixie
14-08-2007, 20:58
Oh Ally well done you, I am so happy and inspired by you congratulations!

Tea Lady
14-08-2007, 20:58
Fantastic story Ally! You tell a great yarn! :D

I think you did so well, and so did your lovely DP :yes:

Huge congratulations from me, and I'm so glad you had a much better birth experience this time :hugs:

Tam-I-Am
14-08-2007, 21:01
Ally, how wonderful - you must be SO proud of yourself! And you should be too - all that hard work, all that preparation, all that education - and it got you exactly what you wanted. Well done, and congratulations, you gorgeous woman! :hugs:

shed
14-08-2007, 21:03
You did it.

You made it happen like that Ally, it wasn't chance, it wasn't coincidence, it wasn't luck. It was all your hard work and study and reading and knowledge and determination.

But you know that, right?!! :laughing:

Course you do!

You bloody legend.

Lil X-men
14-08-2007, 21:15
Typing one handed with bubs in my arm sorry so just quickly, congrats and well done! What an awesome birth experience, soo much better than last time, I am so happy for you!!

jasesmum
14-08-2007, 21:21
Congratulations Ally!

Glad to hear it was a better experience for u this time, wish u all the best!

draught
14-08-2007, 21:30
Ally - I had tears in my eyes when he arrived - such a similar feeling to how I birthed DS - so glad that you had a powerful and positive birth experience this time. Well done you birthing goddess!

MrsTwith3
14-08-2007, 22:12
Ally you are an amazing woman who birthed her boy with such skill. You did the hard work and it paid off for you. Congrats to you hun and to Barry and Boof too.

Mel

GraceUnhearing
14-08-2007, 22:21
wow!

you did SO well Ally!

congrats and welcome to the world little man!

TinyStar
14-08-2007, 22:23
Congratulations Ally, I am just so pleased for you.

As my middie kept on saying "isn't the human body just the most amazing thing?"

More power to you sister!

TwoBlue
14-08-2007, 22:24
Wow Ally you are bloody awesome :thumbsup:

Thanks for sharing your story
:hugs:

Funkychicken
14-08-2007, 22:26
Ally, you are amazing! Such an inspiration to so, so many women.
I was grinning all the way through your story and feel so happy for you to have gotten this birth. After all you have been through, this is the absolute icing on your and Barry's cake. :yelclap::yelclap::yelclap:

Seekrit
14-08-2007, 22:27
Wow! Congratulations Ally... what a beautiful birthing story!

caz
14-08-2007, 22:34
Congratulations Ally :yelclap:

Glad you got the birth you wanted

cmd'smum
14-08-2007, 22:55
See!!!!!!! you did it!:yes: you are SUCH a strong woman, well done, sooooooo happy for you :hugs:

moonblossom
14-08-2007, 22:57
aBSOLUTELY beautiful birth story, VERY WELL done Ally. CONGRATULATIONS to you, your partner and Boof, on the birth of Griffin...happybirthday Young man :smiliedance:

our little treasures
14-08-2007, 23:56
OH Ally well done I am so happy you had a positive experience! I had to laugh at the bed pan as that is also what they did to me. I can tell you with spd and the 2nd degree tears it was so hard getting up onto the pan:)

I really do have lots of :hugs: for your tear as I am in sympathy with you. However I am glad it was 2nd and not 3rd or 4th this time:thumbsup:

Ashleigh<3
15-08-2007, 01:52
I thoroughly loved reading your birth story Ally, you did such an amazing job, I'm just in awe of your strength, Well done! Congrats on your natural VB too, I know you wanted it!
:yelclap:
Welcome to the world Griffin- I love his name. :)
:smiliedance:

jamb
15-08-2007, 05:59
that was awseome allyoo, thanks for sharing and wow, well done!

erin94
15-08-2007, 06:41
WELL DONE!!! My god you brought back so many memories it was great, I to nearly flooded the study, My you know how to write a beautiful story with so many emotions. Thats one story I wont forget in 13 weeks when its my turn. Again well done And thank you for sharing your moments with us!!!!!

elissas
15-08-2007, 08:22
Ally - congratulations on achieving the birth you wanted!! You are amazing, an inspiration. I got goosebumps reading your story. It was so well written, so honest and showed all your strength as well as your frailties throughout the process. You are a brave and incredible woman, I hope other women in your position can find courage and strength in your story!

Nickster
15-08-2007, 08:27
Congratulations Ally - you wonderful terrific birth warrior you!:yelclap:

Thank you for sharing your story.

nut
15-08-2007, 08:38
Amazing work, Ally.
Well done:) .
Congratulations.:smiliedance:

reAllytee
15-08-2007, 08:45
Awww shucks :o

Thanks everyone !

Snugglepot
15-08-2007, 09:21
Well done Ally, I am so pleased you got your natural birth!

I hope it all goes well, Take Care :yelclap:

becca74
15-08-2007, 11:06
WOW, what a beautiful and inspiring birth story!

Congratulations again!

Perinial Healing vibes to you!!:wizard:

mumx3littlies
15-08-2007, 12:02
Congratulations on your great natural birth. Well done what a neat birth story:)

floggadog
15-08-2007, 12:15
:crying: what a wonderful birth story. I'm wiping tears from my eyes. Congratulations, I'm glad it went well for you all.

BubbaNoogie
15-08-2007, 12:29
Congratulations.:yelclap: Welcome Griffin!:D

V8
15-08-2007, 12:37
Congrats Ally, you did a great job, loved how you could tell each detail aswell. Hope he is being a good boy.

bel_aiden
15-08-2007, 15:22
congrats ally! so glad you ot the birth you wanted. you labour sounds kinda like mine (except the length) i loved my ahhhhhs and like you couldnt believe how loud i got!! jujus book was great hey!

congrats to you and your family:hugs:

ziggie
15-08-2007, 15:36
Ally, thankyou so much for sharing Griffin's birth story... I was bought to tears! Damn hormones :D .
I'm so happy things went much better for you this time... I wish you and your family all the best.

Kizmet
15-08-2007, 18:57
Far out you remember a lot!!!:p

Beautiful birth story!!! Congratulations hun I am glad you got the birth you wanted/deserved :hugs: :hugs:

Shanaynay
15-08-2007, 19:11
Thanks for sharing Allyoo!
What a great birth and welcome to the world Griffin! :party:

~Emmylou~
15-08-2007, 19:50
Wow what a fantastic story!

You did AWESOME! Congratulations and welcome to your little man :)

BabyLs
15-08-2007, 20:02
Wow,
Well done!!!:thumbsup: Good on you. You were so lucky to have the birth you wanted.
Congrats on your new little boy!

sandralee
16-08-2007, 10:26
Woohoo!! Congrats!! Isn't funny how quickly you can hate everybody's guts when you are in the middle of a contraction?! I remember kicking hubby out of the birthing suite because he was laughing about something when I was in absolute agony LOL. (I have pre-warned everybody this time though) xxxxxxxxxx

OJandMe
16-08-2007, 10:41
Brilliant birth story Al.


completely freaked me out about the whole thing. LMAO...

can't wait to write mine down...

(send me labour vibes):thumbsup:

reAllytee
16-08-2007, 10:51
Brilliant birth story Al.


completely freaked me out about the whole thing. LMAO...

can't wait to write mine down...

(send me labour vibes):thumbsup:


If i can do it you can too :yes:

You are going to do just great & hopefully bubs will arrive sooner rather than later ... I feel your pain :hugs:

BlueGin
16-08-2007, 11:26
Congratulations again mate, that was an amazing story, made me cry when you got to the pushing bit! I want to be pregnant again now so I can give birth like that! :hugs: :thumbsup:

angelickaren
22-08-2007, 11:54
wow ally that was a great birthing stories i was in tears well done :yelclap:

congrats on the birth of little man Griffin:hugs:

Lil Mamma
19-09-2007, 21:47
Omg great story ally, and a belated CONGRATS on the birth of your little man!! :babydust2: :smiliedance:

Mischief
03-10-2007, 09:52
Ally - Its taken me some time to get up the courage to really READ your story.

You have given me hope. I have been bawling my eyes out just now reading it. Im so glad that you got a much better birth this time! :hugs:

twitch
04-10-2007, 09:38
Great story, you did so well!

Congratulations and welcome to your new little man.

reAllytee
04-10-2007, 10:05
Thanks peoples :D


Oh Mischief you just made me cry :hugs: I used to be the same as much as i loved reading birth stories, it used to hurt so much. You can do it & the next experience will be wonderful because you will make it happen.

youngones
28-12-2007, 19:32
I just read both your birth stories and I love you! What a champ for making the best of a not entirely simple and straightforward situation - you are truly a birthing hero! :yelclap::yelclap::hugs::hugs:

:sunshine:

reAllytee
28-12-2007, 22:35
Thank you !!!!

Im pretty darn proud of myself too :D