How long do your kids......

[Pixie]

Last in the stroller when out and about?
Eliza is 16 months old and has plenty of free roaming time, but you know some days you have to do things and she walks REALLY SLOWLY unless there's a tree ahead of her to hide behind lol
So into the stroller she goes some days she starts griping like nerrr nerrr nerrr uhhh uhhhh after 30 mins of this I am like "we have to stop she needs to run around, she needs to get out etc, as soon as she's out she wants to 1) run the other way 2) be carried, which neither of us do for more than 5 mins as we both currently have back iss-ewes. So into the stroller she goes and has a mini meltdown then is all fine, she will eat when she's there she has toys hanging off and I always bring a selection of things just for when we're out so she doesn't play with them much. but if were out say 10-4 she will only nap 40-60 mins in her stroller and then whinge and whinge. We stop pretty much every hour to let her roam and be free and eat or drink whatever and then we carry on.

Should I just let her gripe it out so she realises to bad we're doing things today?
DH is getting annoyed with me as I get so stressed as I HATE griping/whinging so will do anything to avoid it. but really stopping every hour is tiresome and that's why it takes all day to do things sometimes.

I dunno I dread going out some days, to make matters worse on the weekends when Daddy's home she is all about him, and will avoid sleep to just be with him but of course it makes her cranky as she's tired!

help me, share you stories!:hair::hair:

[Areca]

Depends on what we're doing. If I'm just going to the shop for an hour or two she happily sits in the stroller the whole time. If she asks to get out but I'm not out for the whole day I just tell her 'not today, we're not shopping, just running errands' and she's ok.
If I'm planning a big shopping trip for all day then we let her out pretty well straight away and she spends the morning walking around, she knows that when she's out with her 'nanny' (my mum usually always comes with me on big shopping days cause DH hates shopping) she gets to go on two rides so we usually do one in the morning and one in the afternoon (she always asks for a ride when she sees them but she accepts no too) and then she goes in the stroller after lunch. She won't sleep long in the stroller...45 minutes is usually the most we get. When she wakes up it just depends....sometimes I'll just leave her in the stroller, sometimes one of us wants to cuddle her, or we'll let her walk again if we have time.

DD is in her pram twice a day every day. We take the dog for two walks a day and I always wore her on walks until I fell pg but she just accepts that she's in the pram and only asks to get out if we stop.
If I was in a hurry I wouldn't give in to the whining etc. as annoying as it is. I just figure that if you let them out every time then they will expect to be out every time and it's not always practical. I would never expect her to sit in a pram without getting out at all if I was out from say 10-4 though. That's too long to expect a toddler to just sit IMO but one or two hours is ok..as long as you're not ignoring them!

DD does throw a tantrum when we put her back in the stroller but tough luck, that's life kiddo and she stops it pretty quick. I just make sure we're away from cafe's and restaurants when we put her in so I'm not disturbing people who are obviously out to relax (people shopping, too bad!)

[Kizmet]

oh Nat :hugs: Having the same issue here! We hardly ever have Abby in the stroller because it just becomes too painful! She just whinges and whinges or screams and moans! it is horrible! she just wants to be so independant and run around all the time. Most of the time she is pretty good but wants to run free. She doesnt like having to hold our hands all the time so it is either carry her or let her run wild which just isnt an option. I bought a harness and she thinks that is brilliant loves wearing it until she wants to go another way to which I am going then it is on like donkey kong and it is tantrums and throwing herself on the floor :no: not the best thing to happen in a shopping centre and im paranoid she is going to seriously hurt herself!

All I can say is please someone say it is a development stage and will end soon :yes:

[cwsmum]

DD stays in the pram pretty much all day if we are out...I do use the pram and not the stroller if I am planning on being longer than an hour or two. Our stroller is a very basic, upright stroller, so I can't imagine it being comfy for more than a couple of hours.

She knows that she has to sit in there, she gets into too much trouble if I let her out. She gets out when we stop for lunch, then I usually let her walk to the parents room so I can change her nappy, she usually gets 5-10mins to run around in there too, if it's not busy. Then after that she goes back in the pram, I take her shoes off, give her dolly to her, put a light blanket over her and tell her to have a sleep (sometimes she does, other times she doesn't), her sleep is usually 1-2hrs, as long as I keep moving.

They do get past the stage of not wanting to be in the pram but not wanting to walk either, but in DSs case he didn't really outgrow it, it was more that he was finally old enough to not need the pram at all...he was about 2.5yrs.

[studyingECS]

my god daughter(2) will stay in her pram all day if she has to, as long as its moving and your not standing there for ages looking at something not pushingthe pram, it has to be moviing.

[Mumma2Jack]

Ds who is 2, we cant even get into the pram any more!:hair:
I dont even bother anymore.If we are shopping i might be able to on a good day get him to go into the trolly..

But now his little brother is here,Ds thinks its his job to keep an eye on his brother so he walks along holding onto the pram..
It works really well untill we are distracted by smarties or milkyways..LOL..:laughing:

[chameleon]

When we are out I try to keep DD (18 months) in the pram for as long as possible because once she is out it is impossible to get her back in! But she'll usually stay in there for about 2 hours. If she does hop out and walk she loves to hold onto the pram and help me push it so it's very slow going!

She doesn't sleep at all in the pram though (only in the car or cot) so I rarely take her out all day, or she gets cranky without her sleep. I usually limit outings to only a few hours.

[Beany]

Nearly a year and he last for 30-60 minutes. But he has to be not too tired and not too excited and not too hungry and not too restless and not too ... you get the idea :laughing:

Oh and he'll only stay in as long as the stroller is moving at a quick pace. So nice, laid back days of shopping are out.

[Pixie]

Thanks girls, I really don't mind stopping every hour to let her out or whatever she does walk in the shops etc but it's the constant ughh ugh nerr nerr that's wires me!!

I am longing for the days she walks everywhere lol we even bought her a more comfy stroller etc I dunno the things we do eh!

[shed]

He stays in there as long as I put him in there, I don't think he realises there is an option (which is right, because there's not).

He doesn't walk yet though, so maybe he will start whingeing more later on. If he does then he will just have to toughen up, he's already too spoilt in every other aspect of his life.

(Famous last words, I know, I know, shhh, LOL)

[chameleon]

Oh and he'll only stay in as long as the stroller is moving at a quick pace. So nice, laid back days of shopping are out.

Oh same here! I can't browse in the shops for too long. We have to be constantly moving... fast!

[Seekrit]

A couple of hours.. I normally let him stretch his legs in the parents room or something. If I let him out to walk with me he has to hold my hand, the minute he sits down (to let go) or just pulls, he gets put back in the stroller.

[Blairsmummy]

A couple of hours.. I normally let him stretch his legs in the parents room or something. If I let him out to walk with me he has to hold my hand, the minute he sits down (to let go) or just pulls, he gets put back in the stroller.


Exactly the same as my little man!

[Pixie]

Yep I do the same, even if she has her harness on I want her to learn "we're going this way" lol

[PunkyDiva]

I guess I initially found it frustrating but eventually came around to the thinking that this was for but a very short time in my life and it prob does me good to stop and have a rest or play rather then rushing hither dither stressed out.
If I wanted to leisurely shop then I would go it alone or take someone to amuse bubs whilst I browsed.
My 5yo DD would still go in the pram if I let her and I'm oh so tempted cause she is the slowest walker ever but again I tell myself to slow down and smell the roses, as they say:D
It's hard to explain but i guess my kids did and do still to an extent rule/govern what/how we do things BUT not in such a way that leads them to beleive that they are in control. If that makes sense, sorta?? If I say this is happening now, they would just do it so just going with the flow of their temperament wasn't detrimental in the long run for discipline.

[Pixie]

:eek: Congrats PD oh wow I have been away to long lol!!!!

[PunkyDiva]

TThankyou, but I am sadly actually already over being pregnant due to severe m/s and a nasty virus and flu. Just spent 3 weeks in bed and over toilet. Have begged DH to get the snip so i can never be persuasive again:o

[Pixie]

LOL
Oh dear hope it goes away very soon for you!

[PunkyDiva]

How's your TTC journey going??

[SassyMummy]

DD will stay in there for ages... but if you stop moving, she'll start whinging.

She's 2... but if I let her walk around, she'll walk for a short time then whinge because she wants me to carry her.

If she had her way, she'd be carried around all day long...

[Lila]

as i am a mean mother, ds2 (nearly 2) sometimes has to sit in there for more then 2 hours (one way......) ( YES I AM A WALKING NUTTER)
but, as we are doing outside walks, he really loves it, no complaining here:thumbsup:

[pinkandblue]

but if were out say 10-4 :

Does this mean you are out from 10 am to 4 pm? No wonder she doesnt want to stay in the stroller, I'd get tired sitting down for 6 hours too.

My DS doesnt stay in the pram very long, maybe 30
minutes maximum. I only go to the shops when he is asleep so I have about 2 hours to do what I have to do in peace, and then about 30 minutes when he wakes up.

By the way, what do you do at the shops for 6 hours?:confused:

[SassyMummy]

We go the shops ALL DAY sometimes.

I don't drive, so when we go out I make hte most of it by staying out all day. It makes the trip there and back more worth it.

I also shop by going into absolutely every shop to browse (not buy), then when I'm done, I go back to the shops I want things from and buy. It's a long process, but it helps make me feel confident in what I'm buying, and it helps to prevent impulse purchases.

I'm obviously not hte person you asked, but I do it too so I figured I'd offer an answer...

[Blueberry Crumble]

Ever since DS started walking, he hates the stroller. He will sit in it as long as we are moving, but as soon as we stop, he grizzles to get out.

But if I let him out, he just runs off! So, there really isnt an option but to strap him in and let him grizzle- its not like he can get out on his own anyways.

He doesnt like those harnesses- if I dont go the way HE wants to go, he just drops to the ground.

So i bought a wrist harness, and that is MUCH better- he really likes that one, and walks well with it :)

[Beany]

By the way, what do you do at the shops for 6 hours?:confused:

6 hours is nothing in an English shopping centre ... I used to spend 9-6 there sometimes.

[Lila]

but if were out say 10-4 she will only nap 40-60 mins in her stroller and then whinge and whinge. We stop pretty much every hour to let her roam and be free and eat or drink whatever and then we carry on.


i guess 10-4 is a bit TOO LONG for this poor little thing....it sounds like a HUGE day for this little girl.
kids need to run!! be free and wild...sorry...:o
so my 2 hours are not too bad then, thinking i bring him to his favourite playground and he is able to stay there for HOURS....:yelclap:

[Lila]

6 hours is nothing in an English shopping centre ... I used to spend 9-6 there sometimes.


but seriously, i guess nobody can complain if bubby whinges then- to be honest my DH would whinge after 1 hour :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

[Pixie]

OK lets clarify something. I did state that even if we're out from 10-4 we stop every hour and let her out, I mean honestly what kind of mother do you think I am that I would keep her sitting for that long and not get her out to change her and feed her etc.

I am talking about the fact despite all that she whinges, some days she's out every hour for 10-15mins at a time, this is why we're out all friggen day.

And like beany said 6 hours at the shops here is nothing it's the UK's biggest past time.

[~mia&ryan~]

I know what you mean, yesterday I had to go to the shops to get some things for the wedding, post office, medicare etc so we were there quite a while.... DD just wanted to walk everywhere, which was impossible!!! Then she would want to get into her pram, then whinge once she was in there!!!!! She just wanted to play! But sometimes its just not possible when you have things to do.... If only they knew that if they just sat in the pram you would get things done 10 times quicker and get home so they could play!!!

[Manxie]

OOh Pixie you are such a mean terrible mother:laughing: :laughing:

My DD is a nightmare and hates being in the stroller for any length of time. From one terrible mother to another I will tell you my secret..... Bribery, sshhh dont tell or I'll have knocks at my door. If she's a good girl and sits in the stroller while I do my shopping she gets to go and see noddy (one of those toy car thingos).

The other thing which seems to be working really well at the moment is that we just go her one of those trikes with the parents push along pole. :wizard: now I can push her to the shops and she will happily sit there while I do the shopping, not sure how long the novelty will last but I am enjoing it while I can.

Aah English shopping centres, Brent Cross happy happy days

[Pixie]

Keep meaning to get out to Brent cross seeing as how it's close by us!
It's selfridges I can't keep out of! That and John Lewis oh and Daisy and Toms and Mothercare lol

hehe Hello I am addicted to shopping lol ok I gotta go to bed!