Would you.....

[Veritas]

Send your bubba's father something for father's day, even if they had no involvement in their childs life???

I am thinking of putting together a mini scrapbook of some pics of P's first year and sending it to her dad this fathers day....

I guess I just don't want her to come to me 10 yrs down the track and ask me why I didn't try.... I don't want to be my mother....

Am I stupid for wanting to do this???

[mayzie82]

no i understand where you are coming from though in my place i would give a scrapbook a a xmas pressie maybe just for fathers day and date it and pop a handprint in it its still a gift but not as full on then give him a scrapbook at xmas do one each yr at that time and do the foot hand print for fathers day.... are you sending it to hime directly or someone like his mum who would likely keep a gift like that and not throw it away?

[sunnyflower]

I am in the same position as you and i think that if he wants to see your child then he should get off his butt and use his two legs that God gave him and see his child for himself! So no i wouldn't send him anything.!!

[Veritas]

I am in the same position as you and i think that if he wants to see your child then he should get off his butt and use his two legs that God gave him and see his child for himself! So no i wouldn't send him anything.!!

I understand where you are coming from but I don't want any hostility that may have been between me and him to get in the way of any potential for the two of them to have a relationship down the track....

[SimplyMum]

I understand where you are coming from but I don't want any hostility that may have been between me and him to get in the way of any potential for the two of them to have a relationship down the track....

Personally I probably wouldn't. I want want DS father anywhere near DS (until I know he can be trusted), I suppose it depends on what kind of person he is and if you really do want a relationship between the two of them.
DS father was into drugs and it just wouldn't be a smart idea to leave the door open for him to come into our lives and ruin everything.
But if it's just a silly male that's keeping your daughter from having a father/daughter relationship than I think yes, you sould send something. Although I also would put too much time or energy into it- the likelyhood of a male waking up to himself to very slim!

[Veritas]

But if it's just a silly male that's keeping your daughter from having a father/daughter relationship than I think yes, you sould send something. Although I also would put too much time or energy into it- the likelyhood of a male waking up to himself to very slim!

Yep... just a silly immature male on this end... thank goodness.... though as much as I have no respect for his lack of taking responsibility, I have to say at least he is reliable in a child support sense....

He has expressed to my sister once before that he'd be happy to get to know her years down the track, so I'm not sure I'm ready to give up hope on her forming some relationship with him or his family before she's too old to realise how he has acted so far.... maybe I just am too forgiving.... I just don't want my little one to miss out on the chance IYKWIM....

Trust me there won't be a huge amount of effort going into it... LOL

[KapowSchazam]

Hey chickie! :wave:

Personally, I won't be doing anything for Rob for Fathers Day. It was my 1st Mums day this year, and he didn't bother (I did get a txt sometime that arvo if I remember correctly) he didn't even bother with a card. My mum bought one for B to give to me :no:

I know what you mean when you say that you want for P to have a relationship with her dad in the future, but what's stopping him now? Is he just not interested until she gets older and more interesting to him? It's not fair on her really.

I know that you will eventually do something for him, that's the kind of person you are! But please please don't get your hopes up. I don't want to see you get hurt.

PS are you gonna come stay with us?

[Lirael]

pretty sure there was just a thread about this :confused:

[scorpio83]

Just remember the times you sent b'da and xmas card and if you don't hold out hope of a reply you can't be disappointed. But do what you feel is right.

[Issey]

If you want to do it, you should.