To find out or not to Find out?

[melbryan]

What are mother's views on finding out the sex of your baby. Everyone says it doesn't matter but I still want to find out, is this wrong, it is my second but I want to be talked out of finding out. I am so IMpatient and wonder how I waited 9months to actually have my last baby. I found out with him. I still have two months to wait as an ultra sound is the only thing that will convince me. My DH does not want to find out this time round.

What do you think?;)
Me-29
DH-28
Kayne-20months
new one- 13/8/06

[my babyemmy]

I'm hopeless when people are keeping secrets from me! I needed 2 find out as soon as i could! 4 out of 4 i found out when i was asked if i wanted to know & 4 out of 4 were right! even though you always will have people saying things like- "why did you bother now you've spoiled your surprise." or "you know that scans can be wrong"etc etc etc
good luck with everything:o

[SammyD]

Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with finding out...or with keeping it a surprise - whatever you & your DH feel comfortable with!

With my first pregnancy I wanted to keep it as a surprise, and my daughter was about 5mins old before I bothered to check - I was just that overwhelmed to finally meet my baby! This time around, I can't wait to find out - mainly for practical purposes - decorating, clothing, etc (has anyone else noticed that there's hardly any really nice non-gender specific clothing anymore? Must be because so many people are finding out these days - I don't remember having this much trouble before!), but also because I'm so curious!!

But don't let anyone else's opinions or comments bother you...go with your heart, you'll make the right decision for you!

[melbryan]

Thanks for your advice I know what I want and it will happen that I will find out but I have to respect my DH and his decision to keep it a secret. I can't to find out for practical reasons to but my DH will miss out on the excitment of shopping and those things (he loathes shopping). He wants to be surprised on the day and good for him.

Mel 29
Dh 28
Kayne 20months
pea in a pod 13/8/06

[shed]

I think he's a boy so I need to find out because if she's a girl I will need to adjust my mindset. Completely.

Also, I like gender-specific clothing and bedding and I want to go shopping. :D

My partner wants to know too. We will tell a few people but certainly won't go announcing it to all and sundry. They can wait. The trouble is, people know that you can find out now, so we will just have to say they couldn't tell on the scan.

I wanted to keep the names I liked to myself too, but my cousin went and blabbed my favourite boy's name to everyone at the table when I announced my pregnancy. So I have kept all the other options to myself since then.

[Foxy]

Obviously it's a personal decision, but there is no way I would let DH or anyone else rob me of the moment when they said "It's a Boy!".

When number two comes around, I know I will be having a planned C-section, and as I will already know the "birth day", I will want to keep the sex a surprise.

I think it also depends on personality type, some people need to have gender specific clothing and nursery all set-up before bubs arrives. To others, this is not as important and they are happy to have a bit of white, yellow and green and wait until later.

It's such an exciting time - whenever you decide to find out. :)

[Briannabear]

I agree with Shelbyville when she said that its a personal decision.
I personally didnt find out - The suspense nearly killed me (Im a very impatient person!). But in the end it was so worth it!
The moment they called out "Its a girl!!" was just the most incredible emotional release! 9 months of wondering was finally over - it was like the best present ever!

[only1mica]

Hey

Personally I dont want to find out...we are going the old fashioned way ;)

But my sister found out with her first...now that she is preg again she doesn't want to find out....she thinks that the first time around it is all a new experience and this time the only suprise will be if its a boy or a girl.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

I am due on the 17 august and it was my DP who actually sugested we find out what we are having!!! I wanted to wait and get a suprise- but now i cant wait, i have to know.

I can go shopping and buy all pink and purple (im CONVINCED im having a little girl) Tim (DP) keeps telling me not to get my hopes up as it could very well be boy but i still think its a girl!! :p

As for telling everyone else what were having-hmmmmmm still not too sure

[shed]

Oh my GOD Adele, look at your stomach!!! Wow.

Mine is still lost in a sea of flab. I am due two days before you but I don't have a bump yet. Just the usual barrel, ha ha.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Hey Shed,

NOW do you all see why Im in maternity clothes?????:D I told you im HUUUUUUGE but everyone thought i was exagerating lol:) As you can see im a lil misshappen but that will sort itself out prety soon!!!! I have looked like that since i was about 11 weeks! Im just getting bigger lol:cool:

ohhhhh its alllll sooooo exciting- cant wait for my lil watermellon to start kicking! she/he gets me up 4-5 times a night already!!!

[shed]

Its probably because you've got no fat for it to get lost in.

There was another pic on here somewhere that was a similar unusual shape. I can't remember whose pic it was now.

I just bought a maternity shirt at Pumpkin Patch. I can't wait to wear it. Wanna borrow it till then?, ha ha ha ha ha, sorry.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

I did have a little fat before- im just huge.

DP weighed 11p 2oz when he was born and his mum was in maternity clothes from about 11-12weeks so it looks like i am following in her footsteps

[Uniquey]

YEY, Adele, look at your belly! There is no doubting you're pregnant, no flab there! You would laugh if you saw my poor excuse for a 'bump' hahha!:p

[shed]

Yeah, I am the same. My bump isn't actually a bump. Its just lumps of flab each side and a big roll at the front with my belly button getting lost in amongst it.

My boobs are OUT OF CONTROL though. I swear I have gone up another size. I was a B, then a D, and now I think I am "more than a D" , so whatever that is, DD or E or whatever. I have to go bra shopping...again.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Hey Uniquey and Shed!!

Uniquey- Dont worry- ull go POP soon enough!!!! I sware every morning I wake up and Im taking up more of the bed, Poor DP wont be able to fit next to me soon lol!!!

Shed- Lol Ill swap with u!!!!! You can have the belly and Ill have the boobs :D That was one of the things I was really looking foward to about being pregi. But my boobs havnt changed at all :( I really want BIG HUGE GINOURMOUS boobs!!!!!
My mum was like me before she fell pregnant (10-12 B)- the she went pop and now shes got BIIIIIG boobies lol Thats what I want!!!!!!:rolleyes: Ahhhh I SUPPOSE i can always dream lol

[shed]

A guy at my work just told everybody that his wife is pregnant. Apparently she's three months along, so she's due around the same time as me.

I haven't told them yet. I thought it was pretty funny how he said it though, really low key but really sort of happy in a quiet way.

god blokes are funny. I always ask my DP if he has told anyone and he sometimes says "yeah I told so-and-so today". I try to pump for more information but just get the stupid basics, typical bloke, glossing over things when I want the details. And he never volunteers it, he just tells me when I ask.

At work the guys shook this guys hand and changed the subject and the ladies shrieked and oohed and aahed and started pumping him for information. So funny.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Lol shed- are you dissapointed that you didnt get in first????

Its always the same with guys, like when Tim told the boys at work (hes a pannel beater so he works with the sprayers and fitters aswel) he thought they were going to give him s*@t and say stuff like "well your life is over now" etc..... but they didnt say anything and they still havnt!!!!! His tradie(tim is a 4th year apprentice) spencer has a 11mt old and he told tim that havin kids is like hitting yourself in the head a bunch of times with a phone book!!!!! I always push for info but dont really get any!!! Its amazing how the girls always get really excited and goo and garrrr and the guys shake hands and change the subject lol

[xkwzit]

Go Parisa
Reclaim the thread! :D :D

I found out for both. My reason was that one way or another I would have expected / hoped for the baby to be one sex or the other. I didn't want to risk "disappointment" (that's not really the right word - but I can't think of better ATM) on the big day by thinking "oh, no its not my boy (or girl)". Silly maybe, but that's how I felt.

I also didn't want to think of my baby as an "it" or a he/she, I wanted to call her by name as soon as possible.

I do think though that you and your DH need to agree and be told (or not) together. I would NEVER be able to keep the secret for that long from DH, but we didn't tell anyone else our DDs gender before they were born. I needed to know, they didn't.:D

Cheers

[*Country Bumpkin*]

parisakamali,

well congrats cause you did kinda offend me- but then again you have before!! so i guess it dosnt matter. Its ok well take our conversation back to one of our other threads ok

sorry to clutter up your thread

COME ON GIRLS-ill see you all at brisi bubs!