I HATE the word.....

[TwoBlue]

... NO ! ....

I hate it, hate it, hate it :hair:

Its basically what comes out of both my DS' mouths CONSTANTLY !!

Everything I say .. EVERYTHING !

Pick that toy up please "No"
Time to brush your teeth "No"
Eat your dinner "No"

Aaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhhhhhhhhhh

*deep breath* I feel a little better now :o

Someone PLEASE tell me its a phase !!

or give me some tips on getting them to stop.. its really doing my head in !!

Thanks :o

[tickle]

My DD says no and then has a tantrum when I don't give her what I asked about. :rolleyes: For her I think it is more not actually understanding what she is saying.

O did go through a stage of saying no a lot, but he doesn't do it anymore. :fingerscrossed: your pair stop it soon.

[PunkyDiva]

:hugs: IT'S A PHASE !!

Ignore it or pretend it means "yes please mummy darling with sugar on top".
The more neg attention they get, the more they'll use it.

[Starlet]

Definitely a phase!! I was ripping my hair out when my first two went through it(got another few years til DS3 does it! lol).

Now it's, 'WHAT?' and 'Oh Man!' Argh!!!!

[TwoBlue]

Thanks ladies... I start the day ignoring it really well but by 1pm I am starting to get eye twitches and by 4 pm its hard just not losing the plot completely... they are so relentless....

[cwsmum]

If my kids say no...or in DDs case shaking her head and screaming...then I usually say something like 'ok, I'll just put it in the bin then' and then walk over to pick up whatever it is and put it in the bin. They usually hurry to do what I have asked...doesn't work with brushing their teeth tho, that one I just kinda have to hold them down and do it for them.

I'm sure it is just a stage, but it would be nice for all of us if it was a really short stage :fingerscrossed:

[poshBecks]

Trace, Connor has just passed this stage!! Halleluia!!! There is hope for you..... In the end I started giving him a smack everytime he said no to me. No warning. Worked pretty well for us. (I had tried all other measures.)

[Chickadee]

It is usually part of a phase of independence. I hope it passes quickly for you :fingerscrossed: It might also get better as Samuel progresses in his speech therapy and is more confident communicating instead of being frustrated:confused:

One trick that might help, though it will take a while, is to reformat your own language & DHs. From a friend's example, I have made it a habit from the start to say 'no thank you' to correct DD instead of simply 'no'. XDH also has done this. Our DD still says No to some things and has tantrums, but I suspect they are fewer.


If my kids say no...or in DDs case shaking her head and screaming...then I usually say something like 'ok, I'll just put it in the bin then'
I find myself doing this too if she refuses to eat. Or I tell her I will give it to the dogs.

[TyBean]

My 10 month old can say it!!... :eek: :hair: and not only can he say 'no' he shakes his head to say no as well!!... I feel your pain I really do!!! Heaven help me when he gets older!!

[joe]

Oh dear I guess I have this to look forward to. I thought 'up' was bad.:rolleyes:

[cwsmum]

My kids have found new ways to tell me they don't want to do something today. DD has decided that it's ok to push me away from her, and DS has started going 'oh maaaan!' :laughing: He's been saying it all day, every time I ask him to do something or something doesn't go his way.

Thank goodness for DD's afternoon rest on days like today.

[draught]

Tracey - I am in the middle of reading a book on effective child discipline which so far reads like it is going to change our way of dealing with our children - my sister recommended it and I think you might find it a good read too - called 123 Magic - I googled it and bought it from a website but apparently Dymocks etc carry it too - or check out the library. It gives you all sorts of consistent, calm and realistic strategies to deal wtih the everyday stuff like "NO", or in my case whinging...... could be worth a try!

[TwoBlue]

Thanks everyone for your replies

Draught I have the 123 magic video sitting here but havnt had a chance to watch it.. will do it asap :thumbsup: