Not really a vent, but just a little sad and tired

[lavenderpegasus]

My hubby is in the Navy and we have now been moved to Rockingham. I was happy with this, but now I feel like I wished I never moved from Sydney. I really miss the familiar of my old haunts and just feeling like I know myself and the places around me.
I don't feel safe in our new home, because it so so much bigger than our old place and I used to be able to walk to cafes and shops but now I have to drive everywhere which seems like such a chore. I'm sure that Rockingham has lots to offer but I just can't find anything that interests the old me ( when I didn't have a new born) and I don't know what the new me like or wants to do (i want to sleep)

There is no point telling my hubby that I wish I never moved to WA cause that won't change anything. I can't move back to my old place and I just need to get over it.

thanks for listening



LP in WA

[Wilby]

you poor thing, i once suffered home sickness or what ever you want to call it and it is awful.
Hugs to you and I hope that you are able to meet some other mums or people to make your days more enjoyable. Look after yourself:hugs:

[Freya]

ohhh hun maybe you should talk it over with your hubby it might not change anything but he will know how your feeling hope you start to feel better

[earthfairy]

Hiya Hun!:wave:

I dont know if this will make you feel any better but my DH is in the Navy too & we have been moved to Perth (got here in March) from Sunny Cairns and I HATE IT HERE! :thumbsdown:

The only good thing is though that we leave in January & go back up to Cairns! Im so glad because it will just in time for the bubs to be born in March! We were meant to be here until march but DH has told posters that i refuse to have baby in Perth with no friends or family!

We are not in Rockingham though, DH took an outplacment position with MTU (you'll have heard of them, the engine company) so we are living near Perth City. Its so hard not being near anything "Navy" and just being a Civvy!

Keep your chin up hun, i would suggest chatting to your DH & just let him know how you feel. Also, if you wanna chat anytime, just PM me.... its always comforting to know someone is in teh same "boat" pardon the punn! lol:laughing:

How long have you guys been together? And how long has he been in for?

My DH knows how much i hate it here so he tries to make me see the positives & is always trying to cheer me up! I feel better him knowing - not that i regret moving here, it was a brilliant opportunity for his career, its just that i cant wait to go back north!

Im here for you sweet pea if you need :hugs:

Love & Light
Kirsty x

[cmd'smum]

oh hun :hugs: I completely know how you feel!!:yes: I moved here from syd almost 5 years ago and am still homesick! its just not the same :no: its hard, wont lie to you, but you will warm to the place and start to feel more and more at home. Remember you're always welcome at my house, we can sit and reminise about sydney :D i'll pm you my number once bubs is asleep!!

[MilkOnTap]

LP - :hugs:

Sorry I couldn't chat the other night - Jedd called!

It's so hard when we get shifted somewhere and dont want to be there. It took me a good 2 years in Sydney before I felt like I could call it home.

Guess what - Grant MIGHT be taking a shore posting in Perth! So hopefully we can finally catch up for that coffee that we missed out on.

I dont have any advice - but just lots of hugs and 'understanding nods' :yes:

:hugs:

[little mermaid]

That must be so hard for you a new state to live in and a new baby!! I dont really have much advice but try to get involved in what ever is going on down there. You will also find that it might get a bit more interesting come summer as it is a very busy place in the warmer months.

[pegasus]

I was about to say - it's a bad time to move to WA atm - winter is never a good time.

If you're feeling down - please give out a call on one of these threads and the WA mums will figure out a way to make you feel welcome!

[Lastcenturymum]

Kinda know how you feel, though I don't have a bub, which can make it harder and more isolating in some ways.

I've moved overseas (have posted some stuff in Parents living Overseas or something like that, so you aren't alone in your feelings.

Some days are good, some are bad. Today started bad, everything went wrong down to the ATM not accepting my card!! Met my one friend here with her 10month old and we went into the city and sat in a park in the sun having lunch being entertained by a folk band then did some shopping. The sun lifted my spirits. I also forced myself to go to the gym this morning, even though I didn't want to, glad I did.

I can understand Perth seeming cold after Cairns! It could be worse, could be Tassie or Melbourne!

Check with your council if they have any groups/programs you can join.

I know I just miss the familiar, my coffee shop and having a gas bag with my friends.

I was so desperate for conversation the other day, I willingly talked to a 'spruiker' for a charity on a street corner for 10 mins:laughing:

But do talk to your hubby, so he knows how you are feeling, just let him know you are finding it hard.

Give it time too - seems to take a lot to meet others and feel familiar in an area.

[lavenderpegasus]

Thank you all for your support, I understand that I will get used to the 'Home sickness' and that I need to find a few things to join in with, and the CHN did advise me that they have a new mothers group starting in a few weeks or so. So I guess I will slowly start to find new things to do, I just need to learn to adjust. This is something that I would normally be great at I'm just feeling overwhelmed. Hubby is so great, I feel that if I tell him my feelings that I may be putting him down, because he is just so helpfull.

Spencer is going through a growth spurt i think as yesterday and last night he wouldn't stop feeding and would only sleep in our arms. Everytime we put him in his cot he would scream and cry, so he slept with us in our bed. He slept on my tummy, which I think helped his wind. I'm sure that the crying was just a growth spurt...right...I don't think that he is unwell...


Ta

LP in WA

[PandP]

Hi there
i moved to Perth in Feb and had my baby in May. I really hope your Mothers Group or CHN can put you on to some places/peoples that can make you feel a bit more "at home". I agree it's really hard when you have moved from a place that you loved - I was living remotely and I would love to go back. I must say though that I have found Perth to be very welcoming with so many new people in the same boat as me - no family here or close friends (met some fantastic friends already though mainly through having bub). Hang in there, it won't take long and even though you will still want to be in Cairns you might find a few mates to make your stay here more pleasant.
Good Luck! :hugs: